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How To Stop Making Success A Battle

A while back a client sent me a link to an interesting article on achievement. The author tells the tale of trying to get an audience with a certain big-shot, of being knocked back again and again, and then of finally starting to enjoy the challenge.

I have to admit, I found it a very interesting – and worryingly, new – way of looking for things. I don’t know about you, but I find that oftentimes striving for success is a bit of a battle. An uphill slough. And when I think about it, it wasn’t always that way. I remember a time when, school projects aside, I only used to put effort into things I genuinely wanted to do. Lately I seem to have a whole list of ‘shoulds’ hanging over me. As Tony Robbins would say, I’ve been shoulding all over myself. And even though I do sometimes accomplish those shoulds, it often feels like I’m wading through quicksand. And I’ll bet it’s not just me. I’m guessing you’ve got a bunch of shoulds weighing you down as well, dontcha? And it’s just not really a fun way to strive for success, is it? So really, why do we do it? Life should be fun. Setting goals and facing challenges to reach them should be fun. Tough, maybe. But inspiring. Exciting. Motivating. And most definitely in keeping with the things we’re truly passionate about.

Because the reality is that it’s always far far easier to succeed at something you’re naturally good at, isn’t it? Funny, that. How interest and passion drives action.

Of course we all have bills to pay, lives to run, and sometimes we just don’t get to choose our battles. Or do we?

I believe that everything in our lives is based on a choice we’ve made either consciously or subconsiously. And whether or not you agree with me, the reality is this. Reaching your goals is just so much harder when you’re not really enjoying the challenge.

What’s just as bad – and something I’ve been equally guilty of – is reaching a long sought-after goal and then immediately beating up on yourself for not having started on the next one. Why don’t we stop and enjoy our success anymore? Why don’t we run around like kids saying ‘look at me, look what I’ve done’ (okay, I did do a little ‘look at me’ in last week’s post on setting and achieving exciting goals)

But how about you? When was the last time you rewarded yourself for a big achievement? Or even for a whole bunch of little ones? Like hitting the gym regularly, week in and week out. Like turning down the starch or sugar and choosing food for fuel instead of temptation. Like putting your own needs aside and doing something for a friend or family member.

And when are you next going to reward yourself? Have you even thought about it? Maybe it’s time you did. It is okay, you know 🙂

Anyway, the take-home message here, which I got out of the afore-mentioned article, was that you can, in fact, do anything you want, as long as three conditions exist.

  1. You want to achieve it
  2. You believe you can achieve it
  3. You enjoy trying to achieve it

So here’s what I want you to do. Those goals you set last week? (Or the ones you’re going to set). Take a good long look at them. Maybe scan through all the shoulds and must on your to-do list as well. Which ones jump out at you? What are you excited about doing? What do you think you could deliberately turn into a fun and motivating challenge? How could you change your approach in order to make something more interesting or in keeping with your values? Let’s be honest – even the idea of setting goals in this way is kinda exciting, isn’t it? And possibly the beginning of a whole new way of thinking. I can’t wait to hear how you go. And you can bet you’ll be hearing more from me on my big 3!

Oh – one last thing that may be of interest to you. As of July I’m going to be offering teleconference health coaching. Over the past few years I’ve worked with many clients who are not able to see me regularly face to face. Ongoing phone call consults are really helpful, but I’m noticing I’m going over the same stuff with many people. So as a cost-effective approach to nutrition and lifestyle education I’m going to introduce small group coaching. I’ll be creating a survey soon to see what people want to focus on and will probably put together a month by month session plan, so if you haven’t been achieving everything you know you’re capable of in the health, nutrition and fitness arena and you recognise that accountability works for you then stay tuned.

 

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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