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How To Stop Obsessing About Your Stomach So Much!

 

It’s confession time.

You see, I sort of have this embarrassing secret thing that I do pretty much every single morning.

I’ve done it for years, and these days I do it without even thinking about it to be honest. Some times it even happens multiple times per day.

And sometimes in front of other people!

I don’t know what’s wrong with me – I just can’t seem to help myself. No matter how often I tell myself to let it go I just … I just have to know. To look. There’s nothing wrong with just a tiny peek is there?

A teeny-tiny peek at my stomach to see if it’s morphed itself into beach perfect overnight?

Please tell me I’m not alone here.

You want to know the silliest part of all this?

I honestly couldn’t even tell you exactly why I do it anymore. It’s automated, complete habit. Hence me sometimes doing it in front of other people. Okay, just family who live with me, but still. (At least I don’t do it in the gym anymore, which I admit I used to in my early twenties!)

(be honest. do you do this? not the photo part, I don’t normally do that either, that was just for today :))

are you a closet stomach-gazer?

I’m pretty sure that a good majority of women reading this are also closet stomach-gazers in the privacy of their bathrooms. Hey – we want to look good, right? It’s a common denominator amongst the Woman Incredible gals and there’s nothing wrong with that.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to care about your looks.

However –

If you know that your fixation with this one certain body part is pretty much ruling your mind and at the same time controlling a good portion of your day-to-day ability to love yourself. Well.

Me, for as long as I can remember I’ve fought to have a flat and lean belly.

It’s been one of the biggest driving factors in my now 15-year exercise habit, and it’s one of the thoughts that crosses my mind more than any other thought as I go about my day, decide what to eat or avoid, and walk past shop windows trying not to glance at my reflection too much.

Have I changed today?

Did that workout this morning morph my belly into the flat sculpted beautiful image I have in my mind?

Did my eating from yesterday give me a radical transformation?

Did I get away with that ridiculously-big bowl of almond butter, cream and raspberries last night?

And why the frick do I still have a little muffin top despite being such an avid clean eater and gym junkie?

what are you looking for, anyway?

What will make you happy, one day, eventually, when you look in that mirror?

Does it make you a good person to see the lines you crave?

Is your day happy and fancy-free if your belly is free of bloat?

Is your confidence and enjoyment or love of yourself shot to pieces if the hard work you thought you’d been putting in just doesn’t seem to have paid off?

Do you feel better by sucking your stomach in and telling yourself you’re doing pretty well (which is what the above picture shows of me), or do you prefer to let it hang out and see exactly how ‘bad’ things are.

And what does that make you feel?

(Not sucked in. Do I feel worthier, better, if I pull it in like the first pic, and see more of what I want to see? Do you? Why?)

What would you need to see to be worthy? To be at peace with your body and yourself? To be good enough?

And would you carry those thoughts out and truly believe them if you did see exactly what you wanted to see, or would your immediate response be a fear of how long you might be able to hold onto it before losing control again?

wanna know a secret?

It’s taken me a good decade+ to figure this out, but the reason you can never-quite-get to where you want to be when it comes to sculpting the abs of your dreams?

It’s not to do with perfecting your nutrition or training by another 5%. As much as eating a proper clean diet and smashing out some great training sessions each week is paramount to looking and feeling your best, it’s not going to be the deciding factor.

The deciding factor, the make or break, is what’s going on in that crazy-gorgeous head of yours.

Tell me –

How do you feel about yourself and your ability to create the body of your dreams?

What do you really and truly believe your chances are of getting to ‘that’ end goal?

Do you absolutely believe you will one day soon walk around with a flat tummy and proud posture, or do you deep down just worry, fear and stress that it might not happen. That even if you do get there you won’t be able to maintain it. That maybe you just don’t have what it takes, be it the genes, the willpower, the perfect breakdown of macronutrients or the magical training plan.

Do you think that maybe you simply aren’t good enough to achieve such an enviable and exciting goal?

That if you did in fact achieve something so ‘massive’, that you might realise it hasn’t actually changed you; guaranteed your happiness.

And that therefore perhaps it would be safer to NOT ever achieve it; to not have to acknowledge that it’s not going to change your life anyway.

let go to get ahead

At some point, we all just need to let go.

Obsession blinds us. In this example, it keeps our viewpoint narrow and causes us to miss out on so many other reasons for enjoying a healthy lifestyle. It becomes something you hold onto so tightly that there is no element of faith or belief.

And the more you try to control it, to force that stubborn belly of yours into submission through behaviours or frustrated/insistent thoughts –

The more that true control slips away.

so here is what to do

Decide what you want, and know that it is okay to want to change a body part. It doesn’t make you a bad person, but it also will not define you.

So why are you letting it? Over on the Dream Life Project bootcamp babes forum yesterday, this topic came up. In fact, it inspired this blog post because I realised that not only am I not the only one who has this ‘thing’ with her stomach even after all these years, but that there could in fact be an entire army of us.

And enough is enough.

Let me tell you – if you think you’re the only one who has crazy-mad thoughts about herself and her stomach or any other body part. Well, you’re wrong by a mile.

 

So. You know that you’re not the only one out there, and I hope that gives you a sense of relief and promise.

It’s a start, but here’s what you need to do next. And this is the hard part.

The thing with learning to love yourself, accept yourself, and to have faith in what you’re doing and just let go, is that it’s bloody hard.

Which is exactly why it’s something I’m still learning to do every day, and I don’t know that I’ll ever stop the learning. It is a daily practice, but it’s also a matter of training.

(Does this seem silly? Or does it give you hope?)

Are you willing to invest time training your ‘love yourself’ muscle?

Or would you rather keep experiencing that morning ‘will I/won’t I be good enough today?’

It’s up to you. And really, the choice is easy.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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