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Success Mindset

IT’S BECAUSE YOU’RE SCARED IT’LL NEVER HAPPEN FOR YOU

I used to be scared I’d never escape my money drama, that I’d see out my days still in debt, always two steps forward and two point five back, continually trying to put on a brave face and a show and yet behind the scenes FALLING –

The fuck –

Apart.

For as long as I lived in fear, in terror, in drama, in holding on OH! so tightly to that need that please that DESPERATION to one day be able to BREATHE I remained –

Stuck in fear.

Stuck in lack.

SWIMMING in scarcity and the knowledge I felt to be true at the time that no matter HOW damn hard I tried I would never –

Ever –

Escape.

Wanna know something weird? I damn well PROVED my deepest fears and scary awful beliefs, over and over and over AGAIN.

Not so weird after all I guess …

With my body, many years ago, when I first became truly fitness obsessed, and I was competing quite a lot, and surrounded by fitness models and bodybuilders with a good dozen eating disorders between every half dozen of ’em, I became, shall we say, SCARED of not being super lean and hot.

I’d never felt good enough my whole life anyway, and finally, FINALLY, I’d found a way to be able to feel hot and cool and I’d be damned if I was going to let it slip!

So I lived in fear.

I struggled.

I went to CRAZY lengths to get and maintain the body I thought I had to have … dodgy injections in my friends living room with closed curtains included. Hey, he was a cop; he knew what he was doing! lol.

And I developed, through that period, sometime before or after, I’m not sure, bulimia as well as the *need* to have to do up to 6 hours a day of training in order to feel SAFE, and OKAY, and WORTHY.

Fucked up?

OBVIOUSLY, and I was vaguely and sometimes consciously aware of that, but it was JUST HOW IT HAD TO BE, right? I didn’t know how to even POSSIBLY get the body I want without serious restriction and sabotaging behaviours, and all day every day all I worried about was whether I was GOOD enough aka whether I LOOKED as I should.

The crazy thing was … no matter how hard I trained or dieted or whatever … I never got the body I wanted.

Sure, I was lean enough, I looked the part, I even won Miss Sportsmodel Melbourne and came 6th in a national Musclemania bikini comp (6th! wtf! still 😉) … but I wasn’t HAPPY.

I didn’t FEEL good.

I didn’t feel good about how I looked, either.

And really, the end goal was always to FEEL hot / happy etc, not to be told I LOOK the part, even though that was nice.

And I used to wonder –

“When will I ever get there? When will it ever WORK? When can I ever BREATHE?”

But I continued to perpetuate my own limiting beliefs that it HAD to be hard, it HAD to be this way, there WAS no choice, and this is just how it IS, and weirdly –

Or not?

– that continued to be my EXPERIENCE.

Struggle.

And pain.

And SHAME, the SHAME. Perhaps you know it?

And ‘looking the part’ from the outside looking in.

And falling –

The fuck –

All OVER the place from the inside looking out, wondering –

“Will I ever be free? Will I ever get there? Do I ever get to be the me I LONG to be and actually BREATHE?”

Have you ever felt that way?

So.Desperate.

So.Wanting.

So.Hoping.

So.TRYING?

And that’s the awful and sad part, isn’t it?

You really ARE trying.

You really DO want to do what it takes.

You FEEL as though you’re giving it your all!

And it’s not FAIR and it’s so HARD and why won’t it WORK you’re doing EVERYTHING EVERYTHING EVERYTHING God damn it!

And at times you want to hiss and growl and stomp your feet and lodge a complaint to God himself because you feel like you ARE going all in!

But the thing is …

And once you see this and feel this it’s SO obvious …

You’re so stuck in lack, swimming in it, that it’s all you can feel. So even though you push and you try to force all you ACTUALLY do is reinforce fear.

Reinforce scarcity.

Repeat like a fucking mantra in your head that you can’t –

That it’s not easy for you –

That it has to BE like this for you.

And with every LONGING thought for a different outcome you lock in the fact that you therefore don’t have that outcome YET … which is to say you TRAIN your mind to believe that ‘it’ is some mystical and magical and one day (aka never!) thing in the future.

So here is what you need to do instead.

And in the interests of (ALWAYS!) full transparency, the reason it occurred to me to write about this is because I was finishing my journaling off today, and I wrote –

“I’m in an incredible relationship with the man of my dreams!”

– which is a very short version of a lot of similar stuff to that effect I’ve been journaling on lately 🙂

And it OCCURRED to me:

Hmmm. INT-eresting. Suddenly something had switched inside of me, where, as I wrote this affirmation out, I FELT the feeling of it being real. Rather than (and I’ve sometimes noticed this sometimes not, pushed it away or pretended) feeling FEAR.

Scarcity.

Lack.

And anxiety, about ‘but what if what if WHAT if?!’

What if I never –

What if it never –

Or WHEN fucking WHEN?

Wanna know something weird, except not weird?

For as long as I’ve felt anxiety and fear and LIMITING BELIEFS around the soulmate / dream relationship / man side of things I’ve continued to NOT call in what I want in that area. I’ve called in instead what I’ve beein FEELING.

Aka: surface-based results riddled with fear.

And I’d forgotten, for a long while, that with money, and with fitness, and with getting to live an aligned LIFE, it all – ALL – happened, as soon as I stopped worrying when or how or holding on OH! so tightly.

And instead just started to see and also FEEL it, as done.

I have zero doubt that this area will be the same. I’ve been actively taking MANY lessons from business and fitness and applying them over to my manifestation processes in the man department, and this is just the next step or level. It’s like a fantastic experiment, actually, watching myself go through trying to FORCE and now being able to RELEASE.

And ready, I’ve now decided, to receive. BRING IT ON! 😉

And of course the reason I share all of this is that I SEE you.

I see you. Trying to force. With money. With getting soulmate clients. With being able to press play on your PURPOSE work. With so MUCH of it.

I see you wanting it so.damn.badly. TRYING to do the work. Getting frustrated because you feel you ARE.

REINFORCING LACK.

And wondering – bizarrely, if you just think about the logic here! – WHY IT’S NOT WORKING.

And I want you to know:

It’s because you’re holding on like that.

It’s because you’re all day every day playing out the feelings associated with NOT having it.

It’s because you’re scared it will never HAPPEN for you.

And I know –

How hard it is.

To let go –

When you feel this way.

But I also know? That if you really want it? You have no fucking choice.

The only way to RECEIVE is to feel the feelings associated with that, now. You CREATE your environment around you by creating the one INSIDE of you, which is needed to ALLOW that external ‘real’ world to form.

So here is what you do.

1) You make a conscious choice to let go. Part of this is you got to CHOOSE to be okay with things being as they are now. It is what it is. Surrender to the FACTS. No need to get emotional about it. Stop making it out to mean something!

2) You decide – without getting too emotional about it – that you will receive the outcome you want. You choose it like putting in an order though. Not in a fear-based please and how and help and PLEASE sort of way.

3) You RELEASE THE FUCKING HOW AND WHEN OF THAT. It will come when it comes and how it pleases. Not up to you to try and play God.

4) You get on with the business of whatever the fuck needs doing right here in this moment. What is the aligned action to take NOW? Relevant to the goal? NO. Relevant to WHAT IS THE ALIGNED / CORRECT THING YOU NEED TO BE DOING RIGHT NOW? Not relevent to ANYTHING except the MOMENT! The goal can take care of itself … your actions are not done to create an outcome, they’re done based on tuning in to alignment. The outcome is received, or not, based on whether you believe and FEEL it. Which means:

5) You practice believing and feeling it. You create affirmation statements based on what you WANT to believe and feel. You write them out over and over again, daily. You use them in conversation or in other ways throughout the day. And also, and hardly anybody knows or does this –

6) You practice living how you would if you DID already have the outcome / feel it. If you believed you were good enough … if you knew you were worthy … if you were CURRENTLY experiencing the emotions you think you need that OUTCOME to experience … what would be going on right now? How would you be showing up right now? What is the aligned action you would TAKE now?

And that’s it.

But it is a daily practice. Living the LIFE you want, is a daily practice. Of tuning in. Of acting FROM where you wish to be. Of surrending to the NOW. Of ALREADY BEING that next level version of you who you’re longing to be.

The truth is that none of these things … money, the body, the man, whatever … give us the actual outcome.

The actual outcome is the feeling we want with it.

And we can choose that now.

We can RIGHT NOW in this very MOMENT embody EVERYTHING we long for, and not only is THAT a pretty damn fine outcome in and of itself it’s also the exact one –

Which’ll guarantee you get the thing.

So. Stop looking outside of you to GET to have what is already IN you if only you’d tune in and feel it.

I used to think I could never have the business, the body, the anything, I wanted. I adjusted and I sacrificed and I tried to PAY THE PRICE to be able to get it. And the whole time, all I had to do, was simply ask –

And then follow what I felt inside of me, and fuck ALL the rules and the how.

It’s only the answer to everything 🙂

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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