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Why You Sabotage Just When Things are Going Well – And How to Break that Pattern

I just had my Biosignature measurements re done, the first official re-measure since starting my fitness model photo-shoot diet plan. You’d think I would have been happy that I was down 0.8% (to 14.7), but actually I was pretty annoyed at myself. And even though my measurements were followed by one of the most brutal workouts of my entire life, which felt great, there was an undercurrent of irritation at myself.

You see I knew that if I had have been measured 2 weeks earlier, I would have come in leaner by at least another percent.

I seem to have (had!) this thing where as soon as I start to create positive flow and momentum in any area of my life I freak out and stuff it up.

Have you ever done that?

You know, you lean down a little bit by really giving your training and clean eating your all, and then you have one day of half-hearted ness which somehow morphs into another day, and then another, and then a week.

And it can all change so quickly can’t it? I’ll have a day where I feel like I am truly rocking my skinny jeans and I’m so proud of myself and confident and happy and then as little as a week later it’s muffin-top-a-rama. SO annoying.

But the annoying part isn’t even really the actual weight gain is it? It’s more the irritation and even the confusion as to how this actually happened.

How you slipped off track without evens really noticing it.

How what felt easy and automatic and even fun last week is now suddenly tough and undesirable.

And how on earth it is that you just keep doing this, keep sabotaging yourself right before you get to your goal.

And perhaps it’s not even just about your body. Maybe it’s a pattern that you have in many areas, manifesting sudden expenses or emergencies just when things are going well financially or fighting with your partner out of the blue right after a period of calm and happiness.

What it’s really about, if you’re honest, is fear.

Fear and a belief that you can’t have it – whatever it may be.

That you don’t have what it takes to have that body, that life. That it’s ‘not for you’ or that the path to get there would simply be too hard, too tough, too impossible to maintain.

Fear that others would judge you or that maybe you would not quite get there even if you did give it your all or that other areas in your life would suffer or simply that you wouldn’t enjoy it.

Kill the fear.

The reality is that until you acknowledge no then kill off those fears and beliefs, you will continue this pattern.

One step forward, one set back. Or worse.

And you will beat yourself up and punish yourself internally and jump from new idea to new idea in your quest to find the missing link or magic answer, and you’ll feel guilty and wonder why you are so lazy or why you just don’t want it enough when really all it’s about is this very old and really very silly – but yet still very valid – belief that you have about who you are. Who you can be.

And what it would take.

Tell me –

Are you willing to accept that idea that you can live your dreams if you can change your beliefs?

Are you willing to believe it’s possible to completely transform one or several areas of your life, to do so effortlessly and joyfully, and to be able to then easily and happily maintain it?

Are you willing to even entertain those beliefs, even if you don’t ‘feel’ them, even if you’d just be saying you’re willing when deep down it seems impossible?

Are you?

Or would you prefer to keep believing that reaching and then maintaining your goal would require hard slog. Sacrifice. Monk-like discipline. No fun. Too much time and effort. Or that it’s just not for you; not something you’re supposed to ever have.

Practice.

The thing with getting rid of old beliefs and imprinting new ones, is that it’s a practice. A journey not a destination. And there will always be a new layer.

So every day, you peel away a little more. Let go of what you’ve been holding onto so tightly. Accept the concept that it could be possible, even if accepting simpl means writing it or saying it repeatedly until you finally start to actually believe even a little of what you’re saying.

The best way to do this?

Journaling. I know, I keep going on and on about this. I’m like the poster girl for journaling I think.

But it’s not about the fact that I’m a writer, it’s simply something I have benefitted from so much – and noticed such a dramatic difference without – that I’ve learned to come back to it time and time again no matter what and especially when I feel I don’t need to

And the most powerful thing of all to journal about?

Gratitude. Thankfulness. And a vision of what’s to come.

So right now, pull out that journal or a piece of paper or the note app on your phone. And write 10 things that you are grateful for about our body. Make 5 of them things that re not yet true, I.e. I am so happy and grateful that my stomach is becoming flatter each day.

And then do a little free writing, or just sit and think, about your dream life. Your dream body, dream you. Write a vision of your day ahead, in specific detail. Exactly how you want to be and act and feel.

And if you dare, write a broader vision of what is to come for th rest of your year. For your life.

Write your future.

And then live it. Realise that you already are.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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