33 Ways To Be Gorgeous Happy and Free (Or: My Birthday Self-Help Reminder List!)

"life coaching for women"It’s my birthday!
And, as I do, I’m doing some writing. Journaling. Letting the mind detox do it’s thing. I think I’m going to finally create a vision board today, something I’ve meant to do for YEARS and just constantly put off. And I’m going to do some writing about what I want to create in my life in the next year; what it will mean focusing on but also letting go of.
Part of that, part of bringing to mind the truth about what I want in my life; who I want to be, is checking in with the stuff that I know makes me most alive. Most happy. On purpose. Joyful and fulfilled and all of that good stuff.
So, I wrote a little list.
33 ways to be a little bit more awesome.
I wrote it for me but I think you’ll love it as well.

1. Get up early, before the world wakes.

Even 10 minutes before. Start the day on your terms, with time to think and reflect and breathe, and if you like to caffeinate then you can do it in a calm and still way rather than in a frenzy of trying to get out the door.

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2. Clean your body, clean your mind.

Journaling of some kind is essential in the same way that bathing of some kind is essential. You can skip a day here or there, but skip a few and you’re going to start to notice it. Other people will notice as well. If you don’t regularly detox your mind you’ll live wit agitation, frustration, a sense of not quite understanding yourself or your purpose or your dreams. A sense that time is running away from you and you can’t stop it.
Journaling can be written, recorded, videod. Walking and thinking is helpful but not as effective as actually getting it out in words.
How to do it? Just start. Just allocate a few minutes quietly to yourself and write. Start with “I’m only doing this because Kat thinks it’s a good idea. Blah blah blah I don’t know what to write this is silly I feel silly blah di blah.”
Just start, and I promise you the words will come. And they will set you free.

3. Smash your greens.

If protein is King then greens are definitely Queen when it comes to eating clean and getting lean.
Nutrients and fibre in seasonal organic green veggies help you detoxify fat, have better digestion, sharper mental clarity and better moods. Eat enough greens and you will feel light, fresh, uplifted and lean. Fail to do so and you will feel heavy and sluggish and struggle to get results. Probably in large part because you are overdoing the protein and fat, no matter how good quality it is.
The best and easiest way to get a high amount of varied greens each day is via a Fat Loss Green Smoothie.

4.Train tough, train like a demon.

Train like you want to wring out every last bit of sweat you have to give and like you’re on a record-breaking challenge of lung-busting ferocity.
Going through the motions while training is maybe better than nothing but for me it just make me feel miserable and a bit agitated, as I walk out of the gym with this sense that I didn’t really give it my all as well as with the memory of all the years gone by when I used to truly smash it and just about vomit and die (in a good way) every single time.
Yesterday I kicked my own butt using one of my own Look Great Naked Training Plan programs in a way I seriously have not done all year.
I’ve been busy, distracted, tired, whatever – just out of the habit of giving it my all to be honest.
Well, no more. After my workout yesterday I felt amazing – empowered – free. And I want more. Bring back the puking sessions!

5. Let go of stuff.

There is always going to be more stuff on your list than what you could possibly do. If you’re not careful, it will control, overwhelm, consume you. The list will eat you alive and all that will be left is a hand-wringing jaw-clenching shadow of your former self. I know this because I’ve lived it. It’s possibly part of the reason my training sessions have been so comparatively average to what they used to be when I felt relaxed and free, when I actually had free time. Made free time.
So let go.
Look at your list and cross something off. Anything that makes you go meh. Just delete. Do it!
There – how easy is that? And you just saved yourself some time you can now use to find who you really want to be. Speaking of which –

6. Make space for your dreams.

If you know you want more from your life, if you know there has to be a better way and that you can live a more awesome life but if you just can’t quite put your finger on the specifics of what that might be, you’re not making space for your dreams.

When you live life at the speed of a cannon just set loose, it’s impossible to get a real sense of what you actually might want instead. And you’re not going to just wake up one day and know what your dreams would entail, or what your purpose might be.

So make space for your dreams.

Start today. Or else it really will be too late one day.

7. Do the one day stuff now.

One day I will sleep in and lie in bed with my child for morning cuddles.

One day I will take up running again.

One day I will go an a real adventure!

One day I will get my house in order.

One day I will make time to work on my relationship.

One day might never come. And it certainly won’t come if you keep projecting it off into the future.

Make one day today.

8. Eat with intent.

This means – listen to your body. Think about the outcome that you want. How you want to feel after your meal or snack.

But also – what emotion are you eating out of? There’s a difference between a single gourmet chocolate enjoyed over coffee while journalling, and a fistful or more of sweet stuff eaten in private. The ‘how it makes you feel’ emotionally as well as physically has a significant impact on how it actually makes your metabolism and hormones respond.

So eat right, eat like this, but also give yourself those occasions when it’s okay to loosen the reigns. It stops the whole system crashing down later.

9. Honour your time and your worth

Set boundaries about what you will and will not do.

Will you give everything you have of yourself away, often with not even a thank you in return? Will you allow others to expect more and more and more of you because you give it?

Will you try to do everything, be everything, have everything just so and all at once out of fear that if you don’t people won’t like you or that you won’t be successful or get ahead or be a worthy woman?

Or will you stop?

And really think about what’s important. How you want to live your life. What you are willing to do, and where you need to put up some gates.

10. Get enough sleep.

It really does matter.

And it’s kind of a one day thing as well, isn’t it? The concept that when life slows down or when you finally catch up that you’ll be able to afford to rest enough?

Do you know how ridiculous it is, at a physiological level if nothing else, to push and push and push yourself to check just one more thing off at the expense of your health and your sanity?

Sleep. Rejuvenate. Be calm. Believe in time abundance.

11. Put yourself first.

It’s all part of the same thing, really.

Putting yourself first is saying ‘I’m worth it’.

‘I’m important’

And –

‘I want to live my best life’.

So say no to things. Do stuff that makes your heart sing. Eat well. Train hard. Stop.

And get some damn sleep 🙂

12. Know your values

Values are the inner rules that guide your life. Live by them and you feel happy and in flow. Fail to do so and you feel agitated, grumpy, more likely to go off track; eat crap, think bad stuff and just generally dislike yourself and your life.

If you don’t know your values, see the earlier point on making space for your dreams.

One way to get clearer on your values is to draw a series of circles inside each other.

In the inner circle you write the most important stuff, the stuff you consider non-negotiable. And then you gradually work your way out, with each next circle highlighting the ‘next most important things’.

Notice that the stuff you probably spend most of your time on currently is often in the outer circles.

Change that.

13. Those NNTs? (Non-negotiable things)

Act as if they actually are non-negotiable.

For me it’s journalling, eating well, training hard, time to stop and think, time with my daughter to engage, time in nature, spritiuality, financial and time abundance.

Not in that order.

What are yours?

14. Drink amazing coffee and eat amazing things.

Life is too short to be perfectly picky all of the time.

But eat right 90% of the time and you can easily afford the indulgences the other 10%. Interestingly the more you eat right the more your ‘treat’ foods tend to become healthier versions of what they once were.

15. Cloud gaze.

It does wonders for the soul. And can very often prevent a bout of stress-eating or otherwise sabotaging behaviours.

16. Create true joy.

Food addiction – to sugar – often comes out of a lack of true joy in your life. The sweetness is a false pleasure.

Think back to when you were a child, or even to 5 or 10 years ago.

What did you used to do purely for fun and because you loved to do it? Maybe go to the movies, go to the beach, shop just for fun, have a sleepover party or at least a girls night, plan for and look forward to a special occasion, do fantasy play, come up with new ideas or enterprises, creative ways to make more money, get people involved in your ideas or entreprises, sell stuff, run with the wind in your hair, lay on a banana lounge reading a novel all afternoon.

Those are some of mine.

What are yours?

17. To hell with the housework.

I don’t mean never do it.

But don’t start the day with your busy work, or your life will become one big mess of busywork.

Same applies to your work or business.

Do the stuff that makes a difference first.

18. Get a mentor.

I currently have 4 coaches. I love being mentored and coached; I’ve worked with coaches since I was 17 and hired my first PT.

Now I have a money coach, a belief coach, a strength coach, a business coach, another business coach and a life coach.

Whoops, that’s 6.

I don’t speak with each or even any of them weekly.

But they are my team, my support, they help me figure my craziness out and stay streamlined with my goals. I know who I need to go to each time I’m having a shift, and I can directly attribute financial and personal successes to my coaches in different areas.

Who is on your team?*

19. Stop, and look around once in a while.

It’s okay to stop.

It’s important to be still.

The whole enterprise will not in fact collapse if you take 10 minutes out.

20. While you’re at it, stop worrying.

When in your past has anxiously worrying about or beating yourself up over something ever actually impacted the outcome?

And isn’t it true that most if not nearly all of the things you’ve worried about have not in fact ended in the debacle you thought they might?

Like right now I’m worrying that my points are getting shorter than the earlier ones. But I’m also worrying that if I keep them long the post will get too big.

Can’t worry about both of those things.

No point really in worrying about either.

Besides, worrying stops you from being –

21. Present. Mindful.

When eating, eat. When walking, walk.

Just focus on this moment right now. It’s easier said than done.

But it’s infinitely rewarding.

The way to be mindful and present is to stop and think. To mentally visualise what is to come each day or week. To imagine it all playing out just right. And then to commit to only doing what you can do, which really is to control each moment and perhaps not even that.

Practice letting go. Practice just being here.

If you want to finish reading this post, just read it. And then do the next thing.

22. Buy yourself something purty.

Not just if it’s your birthday!

But when you show the universe that you are worth nice things, more nice things and abundance will come to you.

Don’t be stingy unless you want more scarcity, and that rule applies to how you treat yourself not just others.

I don’t mean blow all your money. But I think you get it.

23. You make time.

Stop saying you don’t have time, or that time is not on your side, or that it’s running out.

Decide right now that you make time. That there’s always enough for what you need. That everything is just as it should be.

Keep calm, and sparkle 🙂

24. Bless that which you want.

Jealously or criticism toward something you want in your life will ensure you never get it. It’s very simple. So bless that which you want. Admire it. Even write a letter to the person in question!

25. Visualise, and dream.

When you do your journalling, or when you’re scanning people’s pics on Instagram or Pinterest, do some serious visualising and dreaming.

Write about or pin pictures (make a vision board!) of things that you’d love to create in your life. You get what you focus on yeah?

26. Be grateful.

If I could bring it all down to 2 rules for an awesome life it would be gratitude and visioning. Envisioning the life you want, ‘feeling’ it being real, and then being grateful for what you already have as well as being grateful for what is still to come.

Write ‘I am so happy and grateful that …’ … 10 things a day. Include 5 things that are still coming that you’re already grateful for.

27. Set a big huge scary goal for yourself.

Something you have always wanted to do. Just put it out there, commit to actually giving it a go finally. How exciting!

28. Do something freaking scary towards that goal.

Take an action, now. Make yourself accountable as well; that might be the scary thing. Like publicising your goal. And then –

29. Write a list of how awesome you are.

List out 10 things that are just awesome about you. Boost up that confidence! Another idea, if you really get stuck, is email 5 close friends and ask them to send you 3 words or things about you to boost your confidence; 3 things they love about you. This is very empowering!

30. Stop with the stuff that doesn’t serve you.

Does it really make you feel good to snack in bed after dinner? It seems like you might enjoy it but really you feel annoyed and like crap, and you don’t sleep well. So take a real look at the daily habits you lean on, and whether they serve you.

Let go of the ones that don’t.

31. Book and lock in your next day trip or holiday.

Don’t just plan to plan, actually book it in and pay a deposit. Non-refundable. So you can’t wuss out on making time for yourself; on escaping the fear of being busy and ‘on’ all the time.

32. Sneak out of your normal day now and then and have a walk-in 60 minute massage.

One of the best every ways to clear your mind and let clarity come. I’ve had many a massage table epiphany leading to massive shifts in my life.

Remember, you have to make space for your dreams.

33. Be you.

When all is said and done, it’s not about how many emails you answered or how much people liked you or respected your busy-ness.

It’s not about doing everything you should do, about following the rules to get to a certain outcome, or making choices about your career or your relationship or even about what time you get up each day based on what you think must happen.

What it’s about is being you.

Doing the stuff that makes you more you.

What is that stuff?

For me it’s everything on this list, and probably a lot more. I don’t do all of it every day.

But I try.

It’s getting up early, it’s writing from the heart, it’s putting off the admin and busy-work, it’s communicating authentically on social media or through my blog rather than for marketing or growth purposes. It’s letting go of the stuff I’m not great at or that I just think I should do.

Sometimes it’s tidying the house and tidying my life and other times it’s saying to hell with it, and jumping on the trampoline with my daughter and having a chocolate with my coffee.

It’s living in response to my values and to what truly drives me.

It’s saying no to fear and guilt and overwhelm.

It’s doing just one little thing – or more – each day to feel gorgeous, happy, free.

It’s remembering, always remembering, that –

Life is Now. Press Play.




A One-Time Live Online Workshop with Katrina Ruth, on How to Make Money Anywhere, Anytime, With ZERO Dependance on Any One Platform, Program or Tool … Aka JUST BECAUSE THAT’S WHO YOU ARE … AND – With the Greatest of Ease

Okay. Imma gonna get straight up on your ass about what needs to be said here, because obviously SOMEBODY needs to hit the damn truth button on this shit!!

Straight up from the gate up, you do NOT make money because of Facebook.

Because of Instagram.

Because of email.

Because of ANY of this shit.

You make money because of who you are and what you decide and make NON-NEGOTIABLE, period, The End!

As you may be aware, in the last day or so Facebook and Instagram went down down down OH so far down.

After a few obligatory ‘stop the world!’ messages to my team and friends (which resulted in a serious convo with one of my soul sisters as to whether we’d now have to become porn stars instead), I got back to business.

The business of posting and selling shit on Facebook, which is admittedly a big part of what I do each day???

Nah … the business of being ME, because THAT is what I actually do each day, and also?

It’s what gets me paid.

Funnily enough, as is often the way with these things, just yesterday somebody was making smart-ass comments to me about how all the coaches would survive if there was no Facebook or Instagram.

“How would they survive?”, I asked myself.

“Well, I have no idea how THEY would survive but I sure as shit know how I would survive:

Very fucking well indeed, thank you very much, because that is who I AM”

Word to the wise:

A) I was making serious money long before I used Facebook for it.

Allow me to say it again for those in the back: YOU MAKE MONEY BECAUSE OF WHO YOU ARE AND THE LEVEL YOU VIBRATE AT.


It’s an energy thang baby, a frequency shiz niz, it’s just who you ARE and how life works for you.

Handy hint —> the level of wealth you enjoy or moan over now is already just a direct reflection of your frequency, and expectations. It ain’t got jack shit to do with what you do, and it certainly is not a product of which tools are available to you.

It is a product of YOU.

When the socials went down today it was FASCINATING to me to observe the response that came through in the in-between-y bits when people managed to post something.

People worrying about how it would impact their business, or feeling in some way handcuffed.

This is crazy! It’s fear-mongering at its worst and it’s an absolute SHITTY mentality as far as belief systems around where results come from.

Do you know what I felt, when I realised we couldn’t use Facebook as normal for our biz stuff?


It took a minute to click in, but I found myself getting all wriggly and lit up with excitement.

I love a damn challenge 🙂

And since I also choose to believe that everything is happening FOR me, I also took personal responsibility for this occurrence.

Obviously FB and Insta had gone down in order to force me to finally pull my finger out and learn how to go live on YouTube.

But mainly – hell YEAH to the opportunity to get creative!

Probably taking the whole thing a little bit too far, as I worked my way through some sprints on the rower post HIIT weights session, I started to imagine what would happen if Facebook was TRULY GONE AND NO LONGER OF THIS WORLD.

I got MORE excited with each second that passed (which makes me remember how damn BORED I get as soon as I know how to easily do something aka make money all day err day on Facebook), and I also found myself AUTOMATICALLY GOING INTO ZAG MODE.


You know, like ‘When They Zig you Zag’. A classic, if ever there was one!! Thank you Dad, for always having all the BEST books on your bookshelf for me to start reading from 10 or 11 years of age!

See, I have a belief system which works rather well for me and I guess is just part of who I am –

I believe that things ALWAYS work out perfectly for me, and are always done FOR me …

I believe I am always on path …

I believe I always make the right decision, so therefore I never have to beat myself up, I just wait for the lesson –



I believe that my outcomes are predicated only by my choices, and that there is nothing I EVER need in order to get or maintain or ONLY improve on an existing outcome.

It’s this mindset that causes me to wonder what TF it has to do with anything when people say things like they can’t be in shape ’cause they have kids or just had a kids … or ’cause they can’t get to the gym (for example)

And it’s also this mindset that causes me to KNOW that the money I make and the impact my soul work has in the world has NOTHING to do with what tools or platforms are available to me or working.

I programmed myself a long time ago to IMMEDIATELY swerve if something was no longer serving me or working for me. It’s this part of my mind which therefore right away started coming up with creative and imaginative solutions for how business would OF COURSE carry on (and improve!) with or without social media.

And it’s also this part of my mind which of course right away finds a way to monetize the damn thing and turn it into epic and highly helpful content for you, aka this workshop!

It’s just how I think, and who I am. I am simply unavailable for NOT moving forward, and nothing will ever ever EVER make me believe that I have to depend on anything outside of me for my results.

So why a whole damn workshop on the concept?

Well, it’s more than that, isn’t it?

It’s a mindset of believing that you always get what you want.

It’s a mindset of believing that everything always works out for you.

It’s a mindset of believing that NOTHING can stop you.

That everything is working in your favour.


That you can monetize ANYTHING, any time you choose, and with no ‘requirements’ in order to do so!

I don’t have to tell you that obvs the outcomes you get directly follow and reflect your mindset and your beliefs!!

Here is what else, as well:

This is not just about making money any time, from any thing, and knowing that even with challenge or things going wrong you only THRIVE and EXPAND!!

For me this goes hand in hand with duh – I get to do all of that on my terms.

By having FUN, and being in FLOW, and with ease.

In fact, the more money the more ease!! #justhowitis

That I can literally click my fingers and money shows up for me, meanwhile I’m just over here doing ma thang.

Speaking of which –

I think it’s about time I shared exactly what I currently DO all day, yeah? And how I do it / fit it all in / honour ALL the areas, PLUS manage to spend so much time sitting on my ass doing sweet FA!

In other words … !

Let’s hang out together this weekend!!




A One-Time Live Online Workshop with Katrina Ruth, on How to Make Money Anywhere, Anytime, With ZERO Dependance on Any One Platform, Program or Tool … Aka JUST BECAUSE THAT’S WHO YOU ARE … AND – With the Greatest of Ease

> It’s happening Thursday March 21 at 11.30am Brisbane time (Wednesday 9.30pm NYC / 1.30am London, UK)

> All fully recorded if you can’t attend live

> ALL your questions answered (either live during the workshop, or afterwards in the group if you can’t attend live)

> KILLER bonus content on Top 11 Most Effective & Proven ‘When They Zig You Zag’ Sales Secrets

> Live support from meeeeee in the group afterwards for anything extra you want and need to know!

> Free Bonus Entire COURSE for Everyone! My $197 Alignment & Asskickery Toolkit, a 14-Day Smackdown to Bring You Back to YOU, and Into Massive Aligned and Result Based Action! Yes, that’s an entire $197 course and you’re paying less than half of that for this entire workshop!

> All content yours to keep for life!!


What We Will Be Covering!

1) How to Monetize ANY Situation, Including But Not Limited To:

* When social media or any typically depended upon platform goes down (including examples of how I have down this several times, to the tune of tens of thousands)

* Hater situations (including examples, again multiple times, again tens of thousands of dollars)

* When you make a fool of yourself / something embarrassing happens or you screw up (also examples! also lots and lots of lovely moolah)

* When people ‘screw you over’ (ahem, we will talk about this) or desert you (also examples! more money!)

* Basically how to turn any and all life situations, moods, changes of the moon, emotional ups and downs, real life SHIT, to money!

2) Why the ‘When Shit Happens’ times are often the BEST times to make money, aka this is where I teach you what it really means to understand human psychology in terms of SALES, and the mindset of being an actual IN THE FLOW entrepreneur, who ALWAYS sees opportunity and jumps straight on it

3) When NOT to Monetize (okay that one you can have for free – never!!)

4) Understanding Where Money Really Comes From – and aligning yourself TO the frequency of wealth, such that you can literally NOT.BE.IMPACTED by anything that 99.99% of people think will cost them business

5) Money Vibration Principles Revealed (… my own personal philosophies and things that I live by / instil into my being around this, including my own daily practices)

6) Coding For Success

* How to ALWAYS have an endless stream of ideas

* AUTOMATIC continual unleashment of creativity and imagination, especially in so-called times of struggle

* Seeing past problems and accessing higher self in order to always know the answer, and how to move forward

7) Programming to Upgrade – the beliefs, energetic states and emotional patterns you require in order to be this person, have all this work for you, ALWAYS see and have the ability to act on the shit that will most pay off

The ‘Do What You Want All Day’ Bit:

* Exactly how my typical day flows and how I operate for maximum efficiency of time, energy, mental acuity, soul connectedness, etc

* Getting it all done as a busy entrepreneur (and single Mum, in my case) who also refuses to operate at anything less than EXCELLENT in terms of self-care, fitness, fun, playtime, etc

* Exactly what I do all day, broken down to the detail, to helm this becoming-8-figure-empire

* Exactly what I do NOT do all day, either it just gets ignored (hint: a LOT that most online marketers think matters!), or I let other people do it for me

* Calling in soulmate support, even long before you are ready to afford it

* Optimizing energy, focus, personal power, happiness, general flow. Aka mindset and also brain / nutrition hacks and so on


AND, while we’re at it, we will also be talking INSTANT MANIFESTATION. The exact process I use to bring the future into the NOW, by clearing all blocks existing between its reality in the quantum and its physical manifestation in the now!!



I’ll be doing this ‘Rapid-Fire’ Session at the end!!

1) What it really means to be magnetic online – hint: it’s not about having a pretty and polished website or online presence!

2) Bringing the ‘in private / behind the scenes’ version of you to the public

3) Unapologetic messaging and soul baring to call in your true #soultribe

4) Audience quality vs quality, and active elimination of those who don’t ‘HELL yes’ on your content

5) People don’t buy your products, they buy you. No – people don’t buy you, they buy your energy!! What that means and how to let it out

6) Being real about where you need to take care of YOU in order to be able to show up and shine fully

7) Keeping a laser-focus and tunnel-vision on your own path, and having the courage to pave the way that feels right for you even if it’s not been done before

8) Discernment to walk the line between being polarising and positively outrageous as opposed to just a hot mess 🙂 Scaling and magnetizing FROM the chaos of creativity and following the true artists way!

9) Knowing which ideas to work, what will sell, and how best to sell it so that the entire launch and selling experience is fun AND rewarding for both your audience and you

10) Creating hell yes offers that make them scream yes!

I know!

This workshop is off the HOOK already, and we haven’t even accounted for all the random shiz which will be coming out of me!!


Don’t forget the bonuses >>>> !!!

> KILLER bonus content on Top 11 Most Effective & Proven ‘When They Zig You Zag’ Sales Secrets

> Live support from meeeeee in the group afterwards for anything extra you want and need to know!

> Free Bonus Entire COURSE for Everyone! My $197 Alignment & Asskickery Toolkit, a 14-Day Smackdown to Bring You Back to YOU, and Into Massive Aligned and Result Based Action! Yes, that’s an entire $197 course and you’re paying less than half of that for this entire workshop!

> All content yours to keep for life!

What are you waiting for? You KNOW that if you apply even ONE tip of the approximately gajillion I’m sharing here you’re going to 100x your investment back! Which is why I am even EXTRA excited to be able to give this to you at such a low price, as per the commandment of my soul!! Plus it’s fun 🙂

Okay then! See you IN there baby!


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