Why You Can’t Quite Get The Body You Want – And What to Do About It
It’s a fear that can actually stop you from ever getting there in the first place, because why on earth would you want to work your butt off for something you believe you can’t then hold onto?
And when you really stop and think about what this fear means, it’s not even about the actual work or sacrifice although of course that is part of it.
What it is about is living according to the standards you’ve set for yourself.
You see, whether or not you realise it, you see yourself a certain way.
As the busy woman who juggles so many things.
As the one whose friends come to her for nutrition or exercise advice.
As the Mum who manages to (just!) stay on top of everybody’s schedules and perhaps even her own.
As the fit and healthy girl who is in good shape but just can’t quite seem to breakthrough to being in great or freaking amazing shape.
As the successful one who is driven and focused and certainly busy, and who so many people look up to and take inspiration from, but yet who is quite quite sure that the way she is living her life is not exactly as it could be.
But yet who also doesn’t really know what the dream life would look like; who can’t seem to form a mental image and who therefore simply doesn’t know how to move forward or change.
However you see yourself, however you think others see you, it is a standard that you have set for yourself.
An upper limit, if you like.
And whether it’s sub-consciously or aloud, you say to yourself – this is who I am.
This is where I’m at.
Going further; breaking through that upper limit would require something I either don’t have or am unwilling to give or am unworthy of having even if I did truly give it my all.
The truth is this –
It’s easier to stay average than to raise your expectations of who you are and how you will live your life. Imagine that you finally reach your body goal.
Just close your eyes and imagine –
In a bright blue bikini.
You are tanned.
Your hair is shiny and soft.
You’re standing talking to someone and have one thumb casually tucked into your bikini bottoms just above the hip bone. And you can feel that hipbone.
You’re confident, happy, uplifted. Proud.
Tell me –
What do you think having that body would mean for you?
How would it make you feel, sure, but also –
In what way would it require you to live differently to what you are right now?
Would it mean you would have to be more prepared with your food?
Give up relying on doing the best you can while out and about?
Stop pressing snooze and actually hit up that morning workout day after day?
Wean yourself off the little daily treats that you think you need to de-stress or be happy?
Get support to actually once and for all break the patterns of self-sabotage or limiting behaviours, and to deal with negative beliefs?
It’s daunting, isn’t it?
The truth is that for your body to change, whatever you are doing right now does need to change.
Perhaps not drastically.
But often even the final 10 or 20% is what holds us back.
Not wanting to give up that one thing.
Not wanting to go the extra mile or even the extra step.
It really is easier to stay average.
Especially when your average is probably most people’s great.
It’s safer as well, to remain where you are.
You know what to expect of yourself, and you’re able to meet that expectation. You’re able to easily live up to others expectations of who you are and how you live your life.
This means less judgement. Less attention. Less fanfare.
All the things that, if you did get them, might make it even scarier to think about maintaining that goal once met.
So what most people will do is that on an inner level they will recognise all of this, and rather than put themselves in a situation of having to raise their standards, their expectations and the expectations of others, and of having to then continually meet those new standards, they will remain stagnant.
They will not go the extra mile.
They will avoid letting go of their comforts and clutches, the things they think they enjoy but that really offer little except a quick release.
And they will bitch and moan and complain about how they’ve tried everything and how they just can’t quite get there.
And probably, they will never ever realise that the only thing stopping them is them. But you, you’re not most people. Or are you? The choice is yours.
And I believe you’ll do what it takes.
Don’t forget –
Life is Now. Press Play.