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When Are You Going To Stop Living In Fear?

When are you going to get sick and tired of living in fear; of making decisions based on what you’re worried might or might not happen as a result?

When are you going to decide once and for all that you’ve had enough, and move on to living the life you long to live; would love to live and certainly dream of living but continually tell yourself is a life you simply can’t afford to live just now?

growing up the future seems so clear

As a child I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur.

Being a lawyer also appealed, but I think it was mainly the idea of influencing people with my words that appealed. Of getting people to see things my way. Funny how that turned out 🙂

But anyway, the entrepreneur thing. I was convinced that the life of an entrepreneur would not only allow me financial freedom, but also personal and time freedom. That I’d be able to do whatever I want; become whoever I want. The very word ‘entrepreneur’ seems to summon up thoughts of excitement, of liberation from social norms, and, of course, of dashing men in top hats rushing around 1950’s style streets looking busy and important. Not sure if that last part is just me?!

So.

Somewhere along the way, in my mid-twenties, I realised I wasn’t living my dream. I was in fitness management, stuck at a desk being told what to do. I was overweight, my relationship wasn’t working, and I just felt – stuck. Exhausted. And certainly unhappy.

So I left.

I walked away from all of it, in one way or another, and over about an 18 month period. Call it a quarter life crisis, I guess, and one I didn’t handle especially well in certain areas.

losing hope

I still had the faith that my inherent skills and potential would ensure I became wildly successful at some point, but I was starting to get an inkling that perhaps it wasn’t going to just ‘happen’ as all my teachers had seemed to imply when it came to talking about my potential. I’m sure they were just recognising my natural abilities in academics, but I heard only praise and ‘you’ll go far’ type of stuff and either was never told, or never stopped to consider, that there might be more to success (and happiness) then academic abilities.

Matter of fact, I’m not entirely sure that happiness was something ever stressed in the learning environment as being important. It probably still isn’t, or at least not as important as getting good grades and working well in a team!

Call it my own naivety or the mere fact that I truly believed everything I’d been told as a child, but I sort of thought things will just work out for me.

So when I returned to working for myself after said quarter-life crises, I expected success. I expected to be the best. The problem was that I never really defined what that meant to me. And so I became the best at filling my books and being busy. I guess I was the most successful personal trainer I knew if you looked at things in those terms. But occasionally I would have thoughts of something more, like being known for being a fabulous motivational writer or speaker. The thoughts were fleeting, because I had no idea where to start or what I would even write or talk about.

And besides, who ever heard of being a successful entrepreneur by doing something creative? Business is about time management! About serving clients! Keeping records! Being extra-extra busy and important! Everybody knows that.

Don’t they?

stop living in fear

A realisation I’ve had in recent years, and one that seems to keep popping back into my head whenever I found myself caught up on the wheel of busy-busy again, is that so much of what I’ve done or avoided in my life has been driven by fear.

Tell me if any of these sound familiar?

  • The fear of failing at new ventures or taking paths not yet trodden and getting lost
  • The fear of not knowing where to start
  • Fear of getting found out, at someone calling your bluff
  • Fear of losing security of some kind – money, relationships, certain possessions
  • Fear of getting what you want and not knowing what to do with it and therefore losing your sense of self as all you know how to be is the busy and stressed you who is never quite ‘there’

These are the sort of fears that will kill your passions off over time. Slowly, insidiously, but ever so surely. And all the while with you telling yourself that this is just how life is. The way it has to be. And that you’ll step out of fear and into something new when you have the time/money/motivation/knowledge.

Well, maybe we can’t escape fear.

I don’t know, what do you think? Perhaps it is just human nature to always see the negative possibilities, to imagine the challenges of something new or tricky rather than the benefits. If that’s so, then here’s something I think we should all be much more afraid of than any of the above –

The fear of looking back and wondering ‘what if I had just?’

Now. Personally, although that drives me, I’d rather NOT believe that fear has to be our biggest driver. They say that the opposite of fear is love, which I find interesting.

When I started this blog it was with a general goal to empower women. Initially I decided that Woman Incredible was labelled ‘for driven women who demand more’. I decided that this was too general and a few months in I changed it to ‘ fat loss, nutrition and motivation for driven women’. A few more months passed and I decided that this label didn’t really say what I really wanted to achieve which was  ‘a blog about being happy, healthy, lean and strong – for driven women’.

And now?

The more time that passes, the more I realise that I’m happiest (and seem to be at my best) when I don’t try to put labels on what I – or you – might need or want in order to be happy/successful/enough. It’s NOT about fat loss. It’s not about nutrition, or training, or motivation, or even being lean or strong. Because if you think about it, WHY do you want any of those things?

It’s because you want to feel a certain way, isn’t it?

And okay, okay, I guess I’m going to still have to put some kind of label on it in order to sum up what I feel ‘it’ is all about. To me, it’s about loving the life you live. Or living the life you love, whichever way you want to look at it 🙂

And given that love is the opposite of fear, perhaps it’s not such  great idea to driven ourselves with the fear of regret; of wondering ‘what if I had just’. And if you accept that, then it’s going to mean you also accept that you’re going to make a concerted effort to start being driven by love, by passion, by ‘joie de vivre’, which I personally think is the best way to sum it up.

And it’s definitely a journey. Don’t for a second imagine that I am fully ‘there’, nor do I think I ever really will be there. That’s why it’s so important to find a way to enjoy each moment, to live in the now and love what it is you DO in the now. Which means you either have to choose stuff you love or choose to love the stuff you have. Probably a little of both.

so again I’ll ask you –

When are you going to get sick and tired of living in fear; of making decisions based on what you’re worried might or might not happen as a result?

And when are you going to decide once and for all that you’ve had enough, and move on to living the life you long to live; would love to live and certainly dream of living but continually tell yourself is a life you simply can’t afford to live just now?

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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