Success Mindset

ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED AND DESIRE, OR DON’T EXPECT TO FREAKING GET IT!

It’s come to my attention that there is a serious case of Women Not Asking For What They Want and Need going on.

On the internet?
In business?

Sure. No doubt!

But actually I meant in general in, you know, what’s it called? LIFE.

Me? I’m as guilty as the next badass babe of not stating my needs, or – scratch that, I HAVE been. My ‘favourite’ area to play all meek and hapless and as though there’s nothing I EVER need, oh no, I’m not high maintenance at all, not ME, is (of course) with men.

I say favourite based on the unavoidable fact that actions speak a hella lot louder than words, so as much as I might like to try and insist I really AM this strong ass woman who knows what she wants and GETS it, the truth is that with men I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut, not want or need anything, definitely not ask for it, and always be happy if not bizarrely gleeful about whatever it is I do get given, and how I’m always fine; I can make do, look at me not needing anything!

Everything is always perfect perfect perfect! Even when the truth is I feel sad or down or just not good enough because I’m not getting what I need and desire.

The deeper truth beneath THAT is obvious, or at least it’s become so to me:

I haven’t asked for what I need and want because I’m scared.

Scared that it will make me seem a hassle … a nuisance … high-maintenance. I don’t want men to think I cause a disruption to their lives or existance. I want to slot in almost as though I don’t exist … zero ripple at all. Almost like I believe that if they don’t have to really notice I’m there they’ll be happy to keep me there.

I KNOW.
IT SOUNDS GOD AWFUL.

Also, on a side note, these extravagant NEEDS of mine? Here are some examples:

Keeping my mouth shut when I’m hungry, or if I want a different type of food. Waiting till the guy wants to eat. Not asking for confirmation of plans when I need to organise childcare, ’cause I worry it’ll seem like nagging. Agreeing to do things I don’t enjoy, without exception, activity wise. Wouldn’t want to not be into what he’s into; HOW ANNOYING. Not saying anything if sex is causing pain, or if I’m not getting what I want. Not speaking up about what I even desire or require from the connection in the first place, i.e. how often I would want to see them … communication in general … etc.

As I write this, all I can think is SMALL FUCKING WONDER I DON’T CALL IN A CONSCIOUS MAN IN HIS KING POWER YET!! Who would want to be with a woman who can’t even speak her own mind!!

Of course I do that VERY nicely in business, and in other areas of my life, and that always seems to appeal to guys. I wonder if THEY wonder why I’m so compliant in our connections.

As you yourself might well be wondering, reading this!

Well, it’s simple.

I learned, through the past decade+, that my needs DID cause upset. I learned to be scared to ask for ANYTHING … like, even stopping for a coffee … or being tired … I felt like I was on eggshells all the time. I learned it was safer not to ask.

Safer not to need.
Safer to keep quiet.
Safer not to cause ANY sort of disruption or requirement of effort.

Now that I see and recognise all this, and understand it, I FULLY get that I’m allowed to have needs with men. But, by God it still feels really really fucking scary to actually then DO something about it aka speak up! I literally feel terrified that a guy will instantly not be interested anymore if I ask for ANYTHING. Man, I can even remember not asking for a glass of water for hours when I wasn’t offered one, not so long ago!

Crazy 

No need to tell me!

AND, I have consciously committed to changing my not-really-not-needy ways. I’m gonna take a deep breath and ASK FOR THE FUCKING WATER. Or whatever it is I need. You heard it here!

Of course the little things, and not asking for what we really desire or require, always only EVER represent the big things.

So, something I’ve been really tuning in to these past few days while in the throes of FEVER, has been acknowledging and allowing my needs.

I feel like the 5-day fever I’ve just experienced was fully about accepting areas where I was not actually speaking my truth. God knows I own my truth and message with BUSINESS, and have done for years now.

But, it actually wasn’t always the way!! Just last week I spoke with somebody who has been a coach / healer of mine for years, and who I haven’t spoken with for a long while, and I mentioned wanting to own my truth and message with men … and how ‘of course’ I do that in business, fully.

Her reply was very matter of fact when she said – ‘oh, but you didn’t used to, did you?’

WOW, I thought.

I’d forgotten.

How in business I used to hide … shirk … try and be the sort of coach or leader I thought people wanted, so they would like me.

WHAT AN IDEA!

Seems ridiculous 

I can actually barely remember, so USED am I now to knowing exactly what I want with clients … money … business … also LIFESTYLE … and also ALWAYS GETTING IT.

And then some.

Which is why I know that now I’ve acknowledged my lack of fucking owning it in the man area, and now that I’m stepping in to CLEARLY stating what I desire and require with men (did it over text last night even! AND got it!) of course I shall HAVE it.

ALL the things.
With bells on.

Which brings me to you –

What are you thinking of, as you read this?

What’s coming to mind?

If you’re nodding your head or rolling your eyes at yourself, which area is it that you damn straight KNOW you need to take a deep breath in, lift your head up, look the WHOLE damn thing in the eye and ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT?

You KNOW that if you ask –

And you’re clear –

And you’re also FIRM, and you really freakin’ mean it and it’s just how it IS, that that’s your STANDARD –

You’re going to get it!

You know this.

The other night –

As I wrestled with sleep demons –

And fought bucketloads of my own sweat all twirled through my sheets –

All I could hear was my higher self DEMANDING an answer on what I’ve been allowing in the Relationship area of my life.

It was like an interrogation.

“What do you want? What do you REALLY want?”

And as soon as my soul served up the answer – “IS THAT WHAT YOU’RE ALLOWING?”

I tried to justify.
I tried to excuse.
I failed.

Eventually, spent; absolutely physically and emotionally wiped, I had to acknowledge –

I was CONTINUALLY left feeling sad or worried about my worth because that’s what I was choosing.

I was taking whatever I was served up with.

And basically wishing on a star that ‘one day’ it would be perfect.

 

Denying everything I know to be true about how life fucking WORKS.

And how it works?

Simply this:

Sit your ass down.
Do it now.
Write down ALL that you desire and require.
Every freaking detail.
And then very calmly – 
Very clearly – 
Very definitely – 
Decide.

That’s just how it gets to be from now on.

These are my needs.

Take it or leave it.

Either way is fine.

Because I KNOW that everything I see and feel and dream inside of me is available – 

Available for ME –

Available now.

It is gorgeous.

You know this.

Just gotta fucking ask.

And turn away from anything that’s not, fully, all of it.

Faith baby.
You’ve got this.
And you’re DAMN sure worth it.

Remember –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat

 

PS

MONETIZE THAT SHIT NO MATTER WHAT

{AND DO WHAT YOU WANT ALL DAY}

A One-Time Live Online Workshop with Katrina Ruth, on How to Make Money Anywhere, Anytime, With ZERO Dependance on Any One Platform, Program or Tool … Aka JUST BECAUSE THAT’S WHO YOU ARE … AND – With the Greatest of Ease

Okay. Imma gonna get straight up on your ass about what needs to be said here, because obviously SOMEBODY needs to hit the damn truth button on this shit!!

Straight up from the gate up, you do NOT make money because of Facebook.

Because of Instagram.

Because of email.

Because of ANY of this shit.

You make money because of who you are and what you decide and make NON-NEGOTIABLE, period, The End!

As you may be aware, in the last day or so Facebook and Instagram went down down down OH so far down.

After a few obligatory ‘stop the world!’ messages to my team and friends (which resulted in a serious convo with one of my soul sisters as to whether we’d now have to become porn stars instead), I got back to business.

The business of posting and selling shit on Facebook, which is admittedly a big part of what I do each day???

Nah … the business of being ME, because THAT is what I actually do each day, and also?

It’s what gets me paid.

Funnily enough, as is often the way with these things, just yesterday somebody was making smart-ass comments to me about how all the coaches would survive if there was no Facebook or Instagram.

“How would they survive?”, I asked myself.

“Well, I have no idea how THEY would survive but I sure as shit know how I would survive:

Very fucking well indeed, thank you very much, because that is who I AM”

Word to the wise:

A) I was making serious money long before I used Facebook for it.

Allow me to say it again for those in the back: YOU MAKE MONEY BECAUSE OF WHO YOU ARE AND THE LEVEL YOU VIBRATE AT.

Vibrate?

It’s an energy thang baby, a frequency shiz niz, it’s just who you ARE and how life works for you.

Handy hint —> the level of wealth you enjoy or moan over now is already just a direct reflection of your frequency, and expectations. It ain’t got jack shit to do with what you do, and it certainly is not a product of which tools are available to you.

It is a product of YOU.

When the socials went down today it was FASCINATING to me to observe the response that came through in the in-between-y bits when people managed to post something.

People worrying about how it would impact their business, or feeling in some way handcuffed.

This is crazy! It’s fear-mongering at its worst and it’s an absolute SHITTY mentality as far as belief systems around where results come from.

Do you know what I felt, when I realised we couldn’t use Facebook as normal for our biz stuff?

EXCITEMENT.

It took a minute to click in, but I found myself getting all wriggly and lit up with excitement.

I love a damn challenge 🙂

And since I also choose to believe that everything is happening FOR me, I also took personal responsibility for this occurrence.

Obviously FB and Insta had gone down in order to force me to finally pull my finger out and learn how to go live on YouTube.

But mainly – hell YEAH to the opportunity to get creative!

Probably taking the whole thing a little bit too far, as I worked my way through some sprints on the rower post HIIT weights session, I started to imagine what would happen if Facebook was TRULY GONE AND NO LONGER OF THIS WORLD.

I got MORE excited with each second that passed (which makes me remember how damn BORED I get as soon as I know how to easily do something aka make money all day err day on Facebook), and I also found myself AUTOMATICALLY GOING INTO ZAG MODE.

Zag?

You know, like ‘When They Zig you Zag’. A classic, if ever there was one!! Thank you Dad, for always having all the BEST books on your bookshelf for me to start reading from 10 or 11 years of age!

See, I have a belief system which works rather well for me and I guess is just part of who I am –

I believe that things ALWAYS work out perfectly for me, and are always done FOR me …

I believe I am always on path …

I believe I always make the right decision, so therefore I never have to beat myself up, I just wait for the lesson –

AND

(drumroll)

I believe that my outcomes are predicated only by my choices, and that there is nothing I EVER need in order to get or maintain or ONLY improve on an existing outcome.

It’s this mindset that causes me to wonder what TF it has to do with anything when people say things like they can’t be in shape ’cause they have kids or just had a kids … or ’cause they can’t get to the gym (for example)

And it’s also this mindset that causes me to KNOW that the money I make and the impact my soul work has in the world has NOTHING to do with what tools or platforms are available to me or working.

I programmed myself a long time ago to IMMEDIATELY swerve if something was no longer serving me or working for me. It’s this part of my mind which therefore right away started coming up with creative and imaginative solutions for how business would OF COURSE carry on (and improve!) with or without social media.

And it’s also this part of my mind which of course right away finds a way to monetize the damn thing and turn it into epic and highly helpful content for you, aka this workshop!

It’s just how I think, and who I am. I am simply unavailable for NOT moving forward, and nothing will ever ever EVER make me believe that I have to depend on anything outside of me for my results.

So why a whole damn workshop on the concept?

Well, it’s more than that, isn’t it?

It’s a mindset of believing that you always get what you want.

It’s a mindset of believing that everything always works out for you.

It’s a mindset of believing that NOTHING can stop you.

That everything is working in your favour.

And?

That you can monetize ANYTHING, any time you choose, and with no ‘requirements’ in order to do so!

I don’t have to tell you that obvs the outcomes you get directly follow and reflect your mindset and your beliefs!!

Here is what else, as well:

This is not just about making money any time, from any thing, and knowing that even with challenge or things going wrong you only THRIVE and EXPAND!!

For me this goes hand in hand with duh – I get to do all of that on my terms.

By having FUN, and being in FLOW, and with ease.

In fact, the more money the more ease!! #justhowitis

That I can literally click my fingers and money shows up for me, meanwhile I’m just over here doing ma thang.

Speaking of which –

I think it’s about time I shared exactly what I currently DO all day, yeah? And how I do it / fit it all in / honour ALL the areas, PLUS manage to spend so much time sitting on my ass doing sweet FA!

In other words … !

Let’s hang out together this weekend!!

Introducing:

MONETIZE THAT SHIT NO MATTER WHAT

{AND DO WHAT YOU WANT ALL DAY}

A One-Time Live Online Workshop with Katrina Ruth, on How to Make Money Anywhere, Anytime, With ZERO Dependance on Any One Platform, Program or Tool … Aka JUST BECAUSE THAT’S WHO YOU ARE … AND – With the Greatest of Ease

> It’s happening Thursday March 21 at 11.30am Brisbane time (Wednesday 9.30pm NYC / 1.30am London, UK)

> All fully recorded if you can’t attend live

> ALL your questions answered (either live during the workshop, or afterwards in the group if you can’t attend live)

> KILLER bonus content on Top 11 Most Effective & Proven ‘When They Zig You Zag’ Sales Secrets

> Live support from meeeeee in the group afterwards for anything extra you want and need to know!

> Free Bonus Entire COURSE for Everyone! My $197 Alignment & Asskickery Toolkit, a 14-Day Smackdown to Bring You Back to YOU, and Into Massive Aligned and Result Based Action! Yes, that’s an entire $197 course and you’re paying less than half of that for this entire workshop!

> All content yours to keep for life!!

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What We Will Be Covering!

1) How to Monetize ANY Situation, Including But Not Limited To:

* When social media or any typically depended upon platform goes down (including examples of how I have down this several times, to the tune of tens of thousands)

* Hater situations (including examples, again multiple times, again tens of thousands of dollars)

* When you make a fool of yourself / something embarrassing happens or you screw up (also examples! also lots and lots of lovely moolah)

* When people ‘screw you over’ (ahem, we will talk about this) or desert you (also examples! more money!)

* Basically how to turn any and all life situations, moods, changes of the moon, emotional ups and downs, real life SHIT, to money!

2) Why the ‘When Shit Happens’ times are often the BEST times to make money, aka this is where I teach you what it really means to understand human psychology in terms of SALES, and the mindset of being an actual IN THE FLOW entrepreneur, who ALWAYS sees opportunity and jumps straight on it

3) When NOT to Monetize (okay that one you can have for free – never!!)

4) Understanding Where Money Really Comes From – and aligning yourself TO the frequency of wealth, such that you can literally NOT.BE.IMPACTED by anything that 99.99% of people think will cost them business

5) Money Vibration Principles Revealed (… my own personal philosophies and things that I live by / instil into my being around this, including my own daily practices)

6) Coding For Success

* How to ALWAYS have an endless stream of ideas

* AUTOMATIC continual unleashment of creativity and imagination, especially in so-called times of struggle

* Seeing past problems and accessing higher self in order to always know the answer, and how to move forward

7) Programming to Upgrade – the beliefs, energetic states and emotional patterns you require in order to be this person, have all this work for you, ALWAYS see and have the ability to act on the shit that will most pay off

The ‘Do What You Want All Day’ Bit:

* Exactly how my typical day flows and how I operate for maximum efficiency of time, energy, mental acuity, soul connectedness, etc

* Getting it all done as a busy entrepreneur (and single Mum, in my case) who also refuses to operate at anything less than EXCELLENT in terms of self-care, fitness, fun, playtime, etc

* Exactly what I do all day, broken down to the detail, to helm this becoming-8-figure-empire

* Exactly what I do NOT do all day, either it just gets ignored (hint: a LOT that most online marketers think matters!), or I let other people do it for me

* Calling in soulmate support, even long before you are ready to afford it

* Optimizing energy, focus, personal power, happiness, general flow. Aka mindset and also brain / nutrition hacks and so on

* TIME MANIFESTATION. OH YES IT IS A THING.

AND, while we’re at it, we will also be talking INSTANT MANIFESTATION. The exact process I use to bring the future into the NOW, by clearing all blocks existing between its reality in the quantum and its physical manifestation in the now!!

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PLUS!

I’ll be doing this ‘Rapid-Fire’ Session at the end!!

1) What it really means to be magnetic online – hint: it’s not about having a pretty and polished website or online presence!

2) Bringing the ‘in private / behind the scenes’ version of you to the public

3) Unapologetic messaging and soul baring to call in your true #soultribe

4) Audience quality vs quality, and active elimination of those who don’t ‘HELL yes’ on your content

5) People don’t buy your products, they buy you. No – people don’t buy you, they buy your energy!! What that means and how to let it out

6) Being real about where you need to take care of YOU in order to be able to show up and shine fully

7) Keeping a laser-focus and tunnel-vision on your own path, and having the courage to pave the way that feels right for you even if it’s not been done before

8) Discernment to walk the line between being polarising and positively outrageous as opposed to just a hot mess 🙂 Scaling and magnetizing FROM the chaos of creativity and following the true artists way!

9) Knowing which ideas to work, what will sell, and how best to sell it so that the entire launch and selling experience is fun AND rewarding for both your audience and you

10) Creating hell yes offers that make them scream yes!

I know!

This workshop is off the HOOK already, and we haven’t even accounted for all the random shiz which will be coming out of me!!

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Don’t forget the bonuses >>>> !!!

> KILLER bonus content on Top 11 Most Effective & Proven ‘When They Zig You Zag’ Sales Secrets

> Live support from meeeeee in the group afterwards for anything extra you want and need to know!

> Free Bonus Entire COURSE for Everyone! My $197 Alignment & Asskickery Toolkit, a 14-Day Smackdown to Bring You Back to YOU, and Into Massive Aligned and Result Based Action! Yes, that’s an entire $197 course and you’re paying less than half of that for this entire workshop!

> All content yours to keep for life!

What are you waiting for? You KNOW that if you apply even ONE tip of the approximately gajillion I’m sharing here you’re going to 100x your investment back! Which is why I am even EXTRA excited to be able to give this to you at such a low price, as per the commandment of my soul!! Plus it’s fun 🙂

Okay then! See you IN there baby!

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