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I sometimes feel scared of the day ahead, so scared that even when I wake up naturally early I roll over, pretend I’m too tired to get up, and go back to sleep.

I’m at my most scared when I don’t have a lot of tasks and to-dos on my list. When they’re there they keep me busy, productive, I feel that I’m on track and Getting Things Done. At the same time of course I’m resentful at the list, at all the things I must do that are stopping me from spending much time, if any, on what I really want to do. I long for a time when I might be able to wake up without the pressure to be busy, with the entire day looming ahead for me to spend hours writing if I please and then to sit back, relax, laugh with my family and go to bed at night satisfied that I’ve done what I was meant to do. That I’ve made progress on my dreams.

I’m scared of the days when all there is is open space. I’m scared that I’m going to waste it and so ironically enough my instinct is to do just that. To oversleep, to come up with a new project idea and start that instead, to use it as a chance to clean up my inbox or my Dropbox.

I’m scared of what might happen if I really give my all to following my dreams. I’m scared, I suppose, that I might find out I’m not good enough after all. If I don’t give it my all it’s easy to tell myself I haven’t been putting the time or effort in, and that when I do I will absolutely get there. But if I DO put that time and effort in … and I don’t get there … what does that mean?!

One word: scary.

I’ve learned to push through this fear, to strike it down, although not as well as I’d like to. It’s a definite practice. But here’s what I’ve learned, here’s what I do when the fear rises up. In case you ever find yourself dealing with a similar fear –

Just one hour.

I commit to spending just one hour on my dream, which in most cases for me is my writing. Even if I don’t know what to write; have nothing I’m working on or feel like I’m writing absolute drivel (which is a lot of the time). One hour. After that one hour I face the fear and see if I can bear to commit to another one. It’s like pulling teeth at times. But when I follow through? I feel amazing. Better still – words get written. Progress is made.

Question.

I spend some time figuring out what’s really going on. Usually I do this through journaling, sometimes through a walk or sitting on the beach. I dig into the parts of my mind I’ve been trying to ignore. What am I really scared of? What’s the worst that might happen? What’s the best that might happen? Always, the best outweighs the worst. Always.

Courage.

I give myself a talking to. Remind myself I’m here for a purpose. I’ve chosen to live that purpose. It’s not okay to run and hide from it. It’s not okay to let my message and my gift die away because I’m not brave enough to release it into the world. It’s not okay to pretend I’m satisfied with what I’ve achieved so far and who I am when really I want more. I don’t mean being ungrateful. You can be grateful and still want more.

Ignore the busywork.

I remind myself sternly that if I even LOOK at that list of busywork I’ll be sucked into it. Without a doubt. I will tell myself that I HAVE to do this, that other people are depending on me, that I have no choice. I’ll tell myself I’ll do the writing this afternoon, this evening. I never ever will do the writing this afternoon or this evening. It’s only ever now, or never.

Get Aligned.

I take a moment, or two, perhaps more. Like right now. I sit back. Look around. Take a sip of coffee. Close my eyes. And I breathe the fear into my chest; I allow myself to feel it. I let it bubble right up – and then out. Whooosh. I let it out. I don’t need you today fear. I know why I’m here. I know what I’m meant to be doing. I believe in my dream. I know that the best WILL happen. I know that in saying all of this and then doing it, I am aligned. I am me. I am on track. I give myself permission to live my dreams, and to start now.

The fear will be back, that’s for certain. It never stops trying, you have to give it points for that! But you don’t ever have to stop trying either. Live your dreams. Start today.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/