The Great Red Wine Debate (Or: Why Your Dream Life Is Always Just Out Of Reach)

Yesterday I went to see a Poliquin Biosignature colleague for a bit of a chat and some objectivity about my own goals.

Have you ever noticed how it’s so much easier to give other people good advice and help them achieve their goals than what it is for yourself? My clients often comment to me how it must be easy for me or how they wish the could be as motivated or organised or whatever it might be, but the truth is that I’m just like you. I’m never fully content with where I’m at physically, or in my business, or indeed in any aspect of my life, and whilst I’m often seeking to improve or meet new goals I’m also often simultaneously sabotaging myself simply by not quite making the effort I know I could be.

There are so many areas of my life I’m really happy with but being happy can be a dangerous place to be, can’t it? Yes, I’m in good shape, have lost all the preggie weight and can even fit into jeans I wore when I was 16, yes I am stronger than the average girl in the gym, yes I run my own successful business and have awesome flexibility. I live in a great townhouse in a nice suburb, I drive a nice car, I take holidays regularly and I do know that I’m living what most people and even myself would consider to be the dream.

But you know what else?

I have fairly significant credit card debt, I’m rarely 100% committed to my diet, partly because I have no massive motivation to go from good shape to ‘freaking amazing shape’ (although I have just booked another photo-shoot!) and partly because I’m scared of falling back into a previously unhealthy relationship with food by being too anal. My energy management and prioritisation is all over the place, and for some reason I still choose to get up at 5am on the one morning each week when my daughter is at my parents house and I might actually get enough sleep!

The point? There is always room for improvement, if you want there to be.

what’s your ‘10%’?

For me there is no finer example than my nightly red wine habit. Call it what you will – stress release, resveratrol loading or the 10% rule but the reality is that if I want to go from good shape to freaking amazing (and I do), then all the sneaky little habits? They have to go. After all, let’s be honest – nobody drinks red wine for the antioxidants. Same rule with the chocolate. Yes, it’s dark; often even raw. No, it’s not so bad. But is it as good as something else?

Last night I ‘indulged’ in peppermint tea and a home-made almond meal/cacao ball instead of my normal red wine and dark chocolate/nut butter/cream extravaganza, and you know what? I enjoyed it just as much. Maybe more! I felt really proud of myself, and it made me realise that many of my snacking habits are driven by the fact that I relate boredom/stress release/night-time even to eating and drinking. But once I get my head around making the shift I actually don’t care if I’m drinking wine or herbal tea, it’s more about having something.

I thought I needed these little treats to keep me sane and help me feel like I’m not a robot, but the truth is that much of the time the 10% of things is nothing more than a trap keeping me bound to old frustrations, and ensuring that the elusive ‘dream body’ is always just slightly around the corner.

So. Please tell me I am not alone here. What are the 10% of things you let yourself get away of that could be holding you back from reaching your dream body or life? Please share in the comments!

12 responses to “The Great Red Wine Debate (Or: Why Your Dream Life Is Always Just Out Of Reach)”

  1. Joanna says:

    I am really strict with my diet all week Saturday is my cheat day when i relax. My little problem is Friday night there is something about Friday night that i just have to start my cheating then i cant seem to make it till saturday morning before i start. I think its the whole wknd is nearly here feelling relaxed feel like having a drink etc.

  2. Mark says:

    Probably the worst thing I do with my diet is not eat vegetables. I eat lots of meat, but get very lazy when it comes to cooking veggies. I use to have a nut habit, but I got over them when I started buying them in a shell.

    • Kat says:

      Huh, that’s a good idea.

      I used to be the same with veg … I was all meat and fat for a few years there! Another PT was actually the one who really pushed me on this and talked up how much increasing green veg can speed up fat loss and also harden you up. That was when I started chowing down on multiple cucumbers per day! (and other veg :))

  3. Karolina says:

    The 10% is serving us in one way or another, mostly because it provides variety and changes our ‘mental state’. Variety is a human need.

    Until we make something a β€˜must’ instead of a β€˜should’ we will not change a behaviour. At the beginning of the year I started getting into Tony Robbins, I have learnt so much on why we do what we do and mental conditioning. Here is a sample
    Watch this from Tony Robbins

  4. Rock Jenkins says:

    So much honesty and wisdom here that applies to all facets of our lives. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Meg says:

    I am a red wine junkie too. I don’t have it every night but I certainly use it to de-stress. Also. a very bad habit that I am currently working on is not skipping exercises to hang out with my boyfriend. He does not belong to a gym or feel it necessary to work out to the extent I do so he gets to go strait home after work while I still have to it up the gym. Sometimes I skip my workout so I can go home and be home early too. My fix to this problem is waking up early or going on my lunch break. Two things I am not a big fan of…. but I am working on it. I am going to have to try your wine substitute, sounds delicious.

    • Kat says:

      That’s a tough one, because of course you do need to spend quality time with your loved ones and even on your own! I also skip workouts occasionally to spend time with my daughter, but I’ve found that training in the mornings regardless of how I feel is the key to consistency and success!