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Success Mindset

YOU DESERVE A SOULMATE LIFE

It took me, I would say, the first 15 or 16 years of my adult life, to truly believe I was worthy of a life on my terms.

I know that might sound like a funny thing for me to say given what I teach and preach all day long, but hey – we always teach what we need to learn, right?

If you want to know the truth, I never ever remember questioning whether I was good enough to make it as a leader, a messenger, a visionary. Oh, I definitely went through the spirals – for years actually – of wondering HOW to do what I knew I was born to do, and yes even of questioning who would want to listen to me, and I definitely took my sweet time to actually start saying what I wanted to say in business, but deep down I KNEW:

I was born to make millions.
Impact millions.
Change the world.
And I was always GOING to.

So I guess what I’m talking about, as far as my own self worth shit, is more to do with my inherent worthiness as a PERSON, as a woman, as Kat. I grew up feeling not good enough, not cool enough, worried that people wouldn’t like me, worried even that my own friends might not really like me! I don’t know why … I don’t know whether this was passed on from my parents or just innate … I think it’s common with those of us who have one foot in and one foot out, of reality.

I never did really live in the real world after all, it was always the world inside my head that interested me. So I suppose on the one hand I was desperate to fit in, be accepted and cool, and on the other hand –

I just wanted to go hide under a bush in the playground and read my books and write in my journal.

Can I tell you a secret? A lot of the time I STILL just want to go hide under a bush, or behind a tree, or perhaps right here in a cafe with my head down and my headphones on and block out the WORLD, so I can read my books, write in my journal, write some more, step into CREATION, and let everything else –

Fade away.

Have you ever felt like even if you REALLY really tried and gave it your all, you just don’t have what it TAKES to fit in?

I have to tell you, not to spoil the ending here, but I think it’s important:

EMBRACE THAT SHIT.

Anyway. I believe that those of us who are called, as I am, as I dare say you are, if you follow me, we live two lives.

One foot in.
One foot out.

The real world, where we still want to BE like the other girls and boys, let’s be honest, in some ways! Whether it’s wanting to look or appear a certain way, wanting to be accepted, wanting to be able to at least have the OPTION to pretend we can act like that, dance like that, talk like that, be cool like that, be ENOUGH.

And then the world which, if we’re fully honest with ourselves, we were born for.

The world where everything around us is irrelevant.
Where space and time cease to exist.
Where we go WITHIN.
And where we let out.
Everything we were always here for.

I don’t know about you, but THAT world is the world I live for.

Purpose first, always, before EVERYTHING.

And sometimes I feel like every other role I have to play in my life is just something I must endure, for as little time as possible, so I can get back into that world.

And when I’m IN that world I am happy, I am free, I am doing what I’m meant to do, I am ME, but at the same time, the more time passes, I feel the anxiety at knowing that at some point?

I must return to the other world.
Exit flow.
Play the game.
Head up.
Smile.
Exist.
Stay in the lines.

At some point I guess I just started to go outside the lines though. Because the thing with the world we WANT to live in, the world of purpose and passion and flow and CREATING, is that it’s not a world where practical human needs can be met.

There is no food there.
There is no shelter there.
There is no sleep there.
There is no consideration there, for the norms of society, for what we are expected to do, for the creation of what most would consider a LIFE.

What there is, is your fucking SOUL being at peace, which REALLY, is EVERYTHING, but still:

At some point you do inevitably have to exit stage right, and go play with the humans.

Which honestly … is just exhausting, most of the time. Eventually … you learn that there are others like you though. Others who, just like you, masquerade when needed, as a normal person. Others who, just like you, can float on by APPEARING to be one of THEM but who, actually, live on that same other plane as you do.

Eventually you learn it’s ok, to play outside the lines, to be you, even in THIS world.

One foot in.
The whole freaking mind heart soul out.

When you FIND those others HOLD THE FUCK ONTO THEM.

Just a tip.

So yeah … I don’t know if it was really that I didn’t feel WORTHY, or if it was, at a deeper level, just that I knew none of it mattered, that I wasn’t born for that world and so why pretend?

Either way though, it caused me to manufacture a lot of pain for myself, and in some cases for those around me, as I fought to keep that one foot in the normal person world, be like the other girls, do it right, fit in.

It was never going to work ANYWAY, I see that now.
I want to let you know that if you’re trying to keep your human world foot firmly planted, be like the others, do it right, fit in, YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL.

Do it fast.
Do it now.
INSIST on a soulmate life.

For me how it mostly manifested, has always been in my relationships.
One foot in, one foot out, doesn’t work so well, when it comes to relationships.

The crazy thing is, most of the time, I FELT like it was me who wanted to be all in, be loved, be accepted, please like me, say I matter, say I count!

Now I see …

The thing I was really lacking all that time was aligning myself to who I really WAS. I thought what I needed was for everybody else to love me, but all I actually needed was to love myself and ACCEPT what I came here to DO and ACCEPT that I was NEVER GOING TO FIT IN and ACCEPT that actually there are others like me where I WOULD fit in … so long as we can all back the fuck off from each other enough to let ourselves create, which of COURSE we can because we don’t LIVE IN THE NORMAL WORLD!

But it took me so long to realise this.
It took me, perhaps, until this very moment right now, or perhaps I’ll never really realise and I’ll always be one foot in.
One foot out.

You too, maybe.
I do actually think that those of us who are called this way, that one of the ‘curses’ that comes with our blessings is, we are born to wander and our souls will never rest.
I do actually think that even though this SOUNDS on the surface to be a tiring thing, it’s actually another blessing after all.

Keep on wandering.
Keep on seeking.
Keep on creating.
STAY FREE.

But for so long I really did try to play in the real world, the world THEY think is real. I wanted SO BADLY to be loved, so I turned to wherever I felt any hint of something that might BE love, because deep down I was terrified that me just being me would never be enough.

Who would WANT me, in all my madness, with my head so far in the clouds and my feet mostly trying to float away?

Plant your feet, Kat! Be like the other girls. Smile, laugh, fit in, and if somebody shows you any interest BE CAREFUL NOT TO ROCK THE BOAT!

I’m making it sound worse than it was, maybe. I think that the relationships and friendships I’ve had have been, mostly, 99% right and real.

But what do I say to you every day?
99% in.
Is 100% fucking out.

YOU DESERVE A SOULMATE LIFE. No, not soulmate LOVE, although YES, of course. But I’m talking about every.single.part. of your LIFE.

Because here is the thing that it took me ALL those years to figure out, and which maybe I’m still not clear on:

The reason you can’t keep that foot down in the ‘real’ world is that you WEREN’T SUPPOSED TO EVER BE PART OF IT ANYWAY.

YES you can play the game, when needed.
YES you can act the part.
But YES, you MUST first and foremost respond to what’s inside of you.

PURPOSE FIRST, ALWAYS.

So when you find yourself –
Worrying about not fitting in.
Struggling because you don’t feel accepted.
CAVING, because you wanted to feel normal, for a moment, prove on some level that you can BE LIKE THE OTHERS, that you are worthy, that you can be loved, enough.

REMEMBER:

THAT’S NOT THE VALIDATION YOU’RE ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR.

Because REALLY, what this is all about, REALLY, the big point I’m trying to make?

The stuff you feel inside of you is real.
You, plain and simple, WERE born for more.
And your mission is NOT FOR THIS WORLD.

When you give yourself permission –
To be who you actually are –
And to stop desperately needing the critical acclaim of the NORMAL people –

You’ll find that you were always ALWAYS worthy and that all you had to do? Was what you thought you needed the rest of them to do.

Accept who you are.
EMBRACE THE MADNESS.
HUNT DOWN and hold onto the other crazy ones.
And NEVER stop wandering or dreaming, going where the flow takes you and FUCK THE WORLD.
You deserve a soulmate LIFE gorgeous.
Do whatever is fucking necessary to get it.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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