Your greatest flow is the exact thing which will guide you to your greatest foundations.

The structure, the very pillars on which your empire will be built, and also –

the solid grounded strong AF yet flexible like a willow tree core of your life –

will all in the end come about as a result of the flow you danced with, allowed to wash over you, became one with, and it with you.

When you look back, and you see how it was that you built this thing, you will clearly point to, notice, and share –

This system came from that flow.

This structure from that little piece of magic.

This process, ‘how we do’, the Standard Operating Procedures of Me Being Me and doing a Damn Fine Job of doing it? It all originated from the dance, baby.

The whirling whirring twirling breathless being IN it.

In it?

In life. In the moment. In the VIBE of the thing, of making it up as you go, of going where LED, of letting yourself simultaneously be and be WITH the flow.

You know?

So yes.

You want systems, and structure, and foundations you could bounce a dime off like you would on that firm peachy booty you dream of? LET THE FLOW BECOME THE SYSTEM. Let EVERY thing that you WISH had a structure or process around it develop as a result of where your flow takes you.

But at the same time –

Fucketh that noise, fucketh it very nicely, fucketh it all the way!

Because here is what else:


I mean –

Don’t get me wrong

You should DEFINITELY make your flow into your foundation, your discipline, the rules of how you do you!

But also – don’t do that shit, it takes the magic right out of it, messes things up, turns expansion into contraction, and basically results in you being one of those sad little bitter little dried up of pussy kind of people who, decades later, are still yabbering about how they don’t understand why the thing worked when it ALWAYS USED TO WORK!

Of course it doesn’t work anymore! You stopped being IN it. And you made it about having to DO it.

I know it’s annoying.

When I come at you with contradictions.

Like how I told my Inner Circle / 1:1 clients this morning, on our monthly Zoom mastermind hotseat I do for all my private clients to join in on together, as part of a bigger conversation around not having to be ‘feeling’ it in order to create, sell, BE the leader –

I AM my work. And also I ABSOLUTELY AM NOT MY WORK, it’s a whole separate entity to me, it lives and breathes FROM me!

But yeah, I am my work. You know?

Here’s the thing:

It’s a dance, baby. THE WHOLE ENTIRE THING IS A DANCE. Between you, and God, and life, and soul.

Every day a blank slate.

And you GET to go into it, eyes and heart and soul wide open, and just SEE WHAT IS CREATED AND WHERE YOU ARE LED.

Orrrr –

For sure, you don’t gotta do that at all. It’s your life! You can choose. You can choose to broken-record Groundhog Day TF outta your entire existence, because:

You’re too scared to be in a new dance each day

You’re stuck on your ideas of your moves from a decade or so back

You’re watching how everybody else does the dance and worried that if you don’t do it like them you’ll get kicked out, not make it to the next round, be laughed at

Or you just didn’t really think about it!

But now that you ARE thinking about it –

don’t you wanna be IN it each day? Breathlessly whirling and twirling and nearly missing a beat and then – splat! Maybe you do, but WHATEVER, because it’s YOUR dance and the only way to create it IS to be in it.

Always known.

Always unknowing.


And that’s what it all comes down to, isn’t it?

You can take the things which ‘made you this person’, or pointed you in the direction of where you know you’re meant to be. The things which you twirled your way into, and found worked for you, felt amazing, were good, and even great!

And you can then ALLOW them to become foundational structures, ‘ways of doing you’ that you repeat over and over, systems that become yours.

“This is what I do, and why I do, I wouldn’t wanna NOT!”

We all have things like this, that once upon a time we fell into, or upon, and are now part of our identity. This is good! It’s great. It’s amazing! It’s exactly how all of the best structures and routines in my life business and personal came about.

I NEVER ever managed to do that thing of ‘figuring out’ how to make millions online, automate income, have the exact hot AF body I want, be in a relationship with my soulmate, or even parent! Or anything else.

What I DID do, and why I have such flow and hell yes in these areas? I let my chaos, my mess, my all over the place-ness, my being IN it, create the way I did.

The way I do.

And become how I BE.



The moment I notice something has become ‘what I feel I have to do’, I cut it. Snip snip. Fly away, little soldier balloon; off you go!

Because what I know for SURE is, that when I take my flow, my breathless beautiful dance of LIFE, and I turn it into ‘this is what I have to do’ and now I MUST –

It becomes contracted.


Dried up.

Yuck! Like a gross old moldy old throw it out avocado. Or vulva. Whatever you wanna visualise haha.


So what to do, then?! Do I make my flow into my struture, or no?!


Don’t you get it yet?

You LET your flow become structure. You let it just unfold as and how it wants. You tether to the OUTCOME you desire, choose, decide, intend. But never the process, unless the process itself IS part of your desired outcome, meaning – YOU WANT THAT PROCESS JUST FOR ITS OWN SAKE.

And then? You get back on the damn dance floor of life. You SHAKE your flow thang.

And you see where you’re led.

Maybe it’ll be the same move, over and over again, and one day you notice that huh – ! I guess that’s my thing. It feels great, and right, and yes! So I’ll keep doing it!

Pillars laid down.

But know this –

The actual foundation is you. Planted in God and soul and life.

So don’t be to burn it all to the ground at the drop of a hat the moment you notice you’re ‘having to’ do these certain things.

Be afraid NOT to.

Either way –

The dance floor is gettin’ cold without you sister.

Come back and fly with us.

You’ve only go the whole world waiting!