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Success Mindset


I found out this past week that I have glandular fever which has apparently been in my body in crazy high levels for nearly 20 years without being diagnosed,

a parasite in my gut munching and crunching its way around and takin’ all the good energy left,

and that I am allergic to dairy!

Stay calm, not lactose, so I can still have pure organic butter. Phew. But the milk protein which is in … um … my daily whey protein shake, not to mention about a million other places you’d really not think of even when you do eat 95% clean? Yep! It’s everywhere.

It’s funny, you know?

When maybe you haven’t been feeling your best for a while, and you’ve adapted to that, found how to hack your way around it, you self-manage and curate for a living basically (literally, in my case!), and you are also a next level expert at having no time for your own bullshit and just getting ON with things, and so MOST of the time when you don’t feel amazing you sternly tell yourself to just choose flow ANYWAY,

knowing it is always a choice,

taking a rest, sure, but with an overall mindset of not being available to not feel fabulous,

and then all of a sudden you find out there’s an actual reason or 3.

It’s funny how all of a sudden, after YEARS of learning how to operate at peak and create from that place, YEARS – decades! – of learning how to get straight to the GOOD stuff when you ARE on, because you’ll inevitably soon enough crash again – you find out that huh,

those crashes are actually a real thing.

Not made up.

Not you being weak.

Not even just ‘part of being this kind of person who loves to push, and superflow, and pull down, and live at SUCH an intense level energetically’.

It’s funny how all of a sudden when you have PERMISSION, on a deeper level than what even you already gave yourself, you realise,

just how much more you’ve been holding on than what you knew.

For me, it’s not that I’ve been pushing myself to DO things outside of what’s aligned,

it’s been that I’m continually annoyed at myself for not BEING more of what I think I should be.

Given how healthy I am – (thought I was!)

Given how well I take care of myself –

Given how much I know –

Given my strong and certain mindset –

etc –

I just always think it is BULLSHIT that I have these almost daily periods of completely fading out, being unable to function, losing my mental faculties and struggling to even bend over and pick washing up off the floor.

I still give myself the rest or pause I need –

but it has NOT been coming from a place of acceptance.

It’s been coming from a place of ‘what’s wrong with you?! This is stupid?! You shouldn’t BE this tired all the time, you must be imagining it!’.

And then I’d be on again, and up again, and superflow again, and certainly the fact that my entire life is geared around knowing what PUTS me in flow means I frequently AM there, so then once more I’d think – yeah! That other shit is stupid! Made up! Not real.

But back it’d come sometime later that day, or the next, just continual recurring phases of the virus, I now know, and once again I’d be trying to make it not real even while reluctantly giving my body what it asked for.

I kind of feel like the whole world fell out beneath me this week, like – holy shit. THERE IS AN ACTUAL REASON I’VE FELT ALL THIS STUFF AND IT’S NOT MADE UP.

On the one hand –

wow. How cool that, in a way, because of my continual energy ups and downs I’ve learned how to create a business and life where I only need to do the things that elevate me!

But on the other hand –

huh. From this place of understanding, and while I’m being treated, next level PERMISSION would mean, well, not that many changes in what I DO, ’cause I don’t do jack shit my soul knows I’m not meant to, but it would mean a HUGE change in what I’ve been putting over myself internally.

Getting annoyed at myself for needing so much sleep.

For not waking super early even when I go to bed early, always being up hours after my friends when I’m with others.

Feeling irritated that I have that complete blank out period pretty much each afternoon.

Or that after a few hours with the kids I just HAVE to go lay down, I completely start fading out.

Or that I continually keep ignoring things around the house I say I want to personally do.

Or that I’m almost always aching and hurting, constantly wondering how much more freakin’ yoga or massage I need to actually feel functional.

Or that I just CAN’T, so much of the time, with really basic stuff.


It’s a permission slip to be with what actually IS.

And it’s a mind fuck because I would have said that I already am that, I live and breathe it, I’ve created my entire online empire based on only doing what I feel guided to, called for, what is ‘me’.

I give myself permission to take as much rest as I need, to have massage every day if I want, I do all the things!

But no – I wasn’t actually ‘okay’ with me being me because I felt like there’s something TOO over the top about just how damn me I seem to need to be!

Well it turns out that that is TRUE, from a health perspective, and TREATABLE (yay), but the principal remains very very relevant for each of us.

Me, from a business perspective I already long ago opted out of doing shit I don’t wanna do, in a way that does not suit or serve me, and for people I don’t adore.

I quit the ‘do for outcomes’ life, and I went into the ‘follow alignment’ paradigm.

I figured out that the more I give myself permission to ONLY do what I’m called, and just choose my outcomes (money, soulmate audience growth, soulmate team / support, any and all other outcomes in business or life!), the more they just show up.

I learned that the more I give myself permission to notice ANYTHING I am doing from a perspective of ‘I better’, or ‘I should be’, or ‘it’s required’, and then to REFUSE to do it,

either handing it over to someone else if relevant or possible, or simply HANDING IT OVER, The End, if not,

the more life opened up,

came down and took care of things for me,

and the pathway I would otherwise never have seen, whereby ALL I needed to do was the ‘me’ things, and receiving went SO next level it’d make your head spin,

just opened up.

I learned:

when I say yes to soul?

life says yes to me.

And so I have lived that way for too long to remember, and it’s exactly how I have built a business that makes millions of dollars each year, year in and year out, and where I only do what I love and am led to.

NOW I get to go next level with my inner fire, and I also get to acknowledge that I still haven’t been in full permission of my current reality because I thought it was bullshit. Haha.

So, that’ll be fun for me!

But here’s what YOU need to think about:

Where right now are you not in full permission of your current reality because you think it’s bullshit?

Bullshit that you just don’t WANNA do what everyone says you have to.

Bullshit that you just don’t WANNA jump through those marketing hoops.

Bullshit that you just don’t seem to CARE enough about what all the other shiny ‘preneurs are caring about.

Bullshit that you just can’t seem to bring yourself to ‘do it properly’.

And that all you wanna do, is, well –

whatever it is you wanna do.

That’s it!

The End!

And get paid for it, k thanks and bye.



Here is a reality that I needed to have shown to me again this week, and which we all need to come back to from time to time:

wherever you are RESISTING giving yourself permission to be with what is,

is where truth lies.

For me, right now it’s health stuff which I trust will change.

But not too long ago, it was ‘how I should do business and life stuff’.

I spent years trying so hard to fit the box, do it right, be ‘proper’.

All the while dreaming of an idea of not doing ANYTHING except writing and speaking whatever TF came out of me, no regard for how it could possible work or make me money, and just being ME to inspire and empower other badass leaders and creators and messengers to be all of THEM.


I said fuck it, and gave myself permission to do that.

How was I so daring, so bold, so reckless, as to throw away ALL the rules of what I thought I should have to do in business??

I stopped caring if it worked.

I handed over the results.

I decided it just WOULD.

But that if it didn’t?

I was done with doing anything to make it. And I was gonna My writing. My speaking. My unleashing. Without rhyme. Or reason. So there!

My business and money?

Blew up.

And finally I could breathe again.

My love –

there is always another level of permission to go to.

Quit telling yourself that being you requires you to HAVE to be anything.

Or accept you are, right now, participating in the eventual decline and death of your own purpose work, and ultimately –

your soul.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x


Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”



Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,


And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,



Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.


With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –


Starting January 18th!


The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –


For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:



All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.


Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.