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Grateful. Grateful. Grateful.

A man I went on a couple of dates with last year, and had a great intellectual connection with (although not soul, so lol … wake up Kat), sent me this:

“I’m coming from a place of truth and am willing to sacrifice our misaligned thing in order of speaking my mind as I don’t operate any other way.

I find your work super conflicting on so many levels and it simply vibes me the wrong way.

Your whole spiritual alignment / higher self empowerment trip is to me so fake and forced that I couldn’t sit there quiet anymore. The whole vibe screams Gold Coast/ plastic fantastic / fake / tacky / cheap etc which in turn is directly contrarian to what I see when I think of women highly in tune with their high-frequency, high-vibrational selves. Which in turn illustrates a vision of the wholesome, grounded, harmonious, feminine to which it is truly contiguous.

Regardless I wish you all the best with your kids and work and life. I’m sure we won’t be hanging out anytime soon haha. You seem royally pissed.”

Royally pissed: last week he messaged me a few disrespectful thoughts about my clients and my work, and I responded last night saying this is not aligned for me. That a minimum standard in any connection or conversation for me is soul resonance, and ‘getting’ me and my work. The above is what I got in return.

Here are my thoughts, framing, awareness. Reminders to self:

– Wow, thank you for showing me who you are.

– You’re assessing a surface part of the show. And choosing not to see me. I feel as though you did ‘see’ the real me when we spent time together. And now you’re lashing out … so be it. I don’t know if I’ve triggered your insecurities in some way, or if this is really what you think of me. I don’t think it is though. I think you know that who I am at my core is a very soft and receptive person who wants to feel deeply connected to someone, and open to be all of her. Who is actually pretty much the exact opposite of fake … everything I actually stand for, value, and give my energy and time to is about soul soul soul. Living from truth, living from alignment. Living from being who I am meant to be in the world, and I couldn’t give a fuck about the money, glam, any of it if I had to choose. Indeed I’ve walked away from that stuff many times before.

– But sure, I choose money, glam, and to have fun playing and being silly with the high vibery of it all, because it’s a fun ‘cherry on top’ of a soul led life.

– I think you’ll find that true feminine expresses herself as whoever she desires to. Someone wanting to play, be silly, vibe it up, choose money or hotness or whatever does not make them not feminine. Femininity comes from the core, not from conformity 🙂

^^ ps – THIS!!! ^^

– the pattern of cutting out / down at someone is typically one people engage in when they have low vibe feelings about themselves, and self love shit going on. Being unable to see someone for who they really are, and being ruled by triggers; these things usually go hand in hand. Kamal Ravikant’s book on Loving Yourself Like Your Life Depends Upon It is a great one for this, it helped me a lot back when I struggled to love myself.

Further thoughts, what I’m feeling, processing this, right now as I type (this just happened):

Wow. I am a little shaky. Okay. That’s okay.

But am I upset?


I’m curious about what part of me chose to call this in. What lesson there is here for me? (I already know the answer – be ruthlessly true to your boundaries no matter what, do not make exceptions or ignore red flags )

But I am also SO deeply grateful.

Grateful I managed to side-step going deeper into this connection, or having any physical connection with this person? Sure. Yes. Of course.

But mostly?

Grateful to me. Here we go with the Snoop Dogg quotes again. I would like to thank me for doing the motherfucking work.

For becoming unshakeable in who I am.

For knowing with soul certainty that I am being who I am meant to be in this world, and I will not be swayed. For backing ME. For practicing the art of being unapologetically me for so long now, so long that it just IS.

Such that when I receive something like this … which is so out of left field (but then again, maybe not?!) … which is truly abnormal, gosh, I don’t even remember the last time I had a business or personal connection that was not fuck yes aligned and soul flow, let alone THIS sort of vitriolic verbiage … that, well, it doesn’t shake me.

Sure, I felt SHOOK. Still a little. But shake me at my core? Cause me to question myself? Wonder AM I fake, AM I too much, AM I not embodying femininity, AM I (lolol) ‘not wholesome’?

No baby, no.

You can’t get CORE shaken at someone calling you names, etc, when you are soul certain of who you are.

And so on.

These things come from the core. How they are EMBODIED is through energy, not what kind of photos you put on Instagram or whether you dance and play and be silly and ridiculous on your live videos.

I mean –

I already did the whole question who I am thang for years. I opted out of that shit long ago, and truly locked in love of my self, my being, my soul. So thank you,

but no thank you,

Imma gonna need to remind you I unsubscribed from the whole ‘maybe me being all of me is not okay’ shiz niz already. Don’t get all markety on my ass and keep on emailing me when I left your list!

But sure –

thank you for the lesson, and the reminder, to once again go EVEN deeper into self.

So yes.


THANK you for showing me who you are.

Thank you for reminding me who I am. It’s always a good fucking day when you remember that you fucking love YOU!

And to you, reading –

Know who you fucking are.

Be it without apology.

Trust that going all in on you can ONLY result in GREAT things, and your soul peeps showing up for you from all over.

And when someone somehow ninjas their way in under the radar who is NOT YOUR PEEP?

It means nothing about anything, usually.

Except for that sometimes you just needed maybe a little poke to see if you were sleeping on the job of being you.

And what a fabulous fucking dance it’ll be when you wake even more the fuck up 😉

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x


Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”



Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,


And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,



Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.


With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –


Starting January 18th!


The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –


For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:



All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.


Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.