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Success Mindset

MY NO IS A CLEAR NO, MY YES IS A CLEAR YES

The reason you struggle to consistently sign up the level of soulmate clients you know you REALLY are meant to work with and absolutely can help … the high level badasses who are already crushing it but YOU KNOW YOUR WORK COULD TAKE THEM SO MUCH DEEPER, is a simple issue of ENERGY.

Your energy, specifically, and how it’s continually sending out mixed signals, confusing people, NOT showing who you really are, what you stand for, what your boundaries and expectations are and what people can therefore KNOW IN ADVANCE (with or without you telling ’em!) if they work with you.

In a general ‘make life easier’ sense, one of the MOST powerful things you can do is to get clear on the signals you’re sending, and then be CONSISTENT with that shit.

We do it all the time, of course.

I tell my puppy earlier today “no!” and growl at him a little like the good pretend Mumma-dog I am, when he eats an entire corner off of the wall, but then within less than half a second I’m squishing his little Frenchie face and giving him kisses all over the head while I tell him what a NAUGHTY beautiful baby criminal he is.

Yeah … I’m sure the “No!” was clearly heard and understood. Haha.

Or, take my relationship with my children’s father, my ex-husband.

I have been CLEAR on my boundaries, standards, requirements, for communication as co-parents and respectful adults, and as far as where we now stand, a MILLION times.

So why is it (I often bemoan to my friends and trusted advisors) things still seem SO DAMN ENTANGLED? Like an Octopus has his tentacles all the way through me, is how I often feel! The energy is ALL messed up.

Why?

DUHHHHHHH … because I’m clearly not being decisive and FIRM in my energy.

I say one thing.

My energy however says another. It is riddled with uncertainty, insecurity, fear, guilt, shame, you name it! Sounds awful, I know! I don’t mean this is true all the time, not by a long shot. MOSTLY I am clear, calm, grounded, certain in how to communicate and also in what I desire and require in response. This – works. But at times, yeah. The old triggers get me. The old stories get me. The old PAIN gets me, and feels all-too-real in the now.

And so my energy starts acting like some kind of freaked out SCREECHING radio wave, resulting more often than not in confusion or aggression or just NOT getting what I want in terms of communication or peaceful connection relevant to our children.

I am okay with all of this, in that I am proud at myself for the work I HAVE done around it and also continue to do around it, with key people who support me on that. I am always improving, in all areas!

That’s a big area I suppose, probably the biggest one for me personally, but really – ANY place we are sending mixed signals out is a place where we shouldn’t be surprised if we’re not getting what we want.

Say you want one thing relevant to your body, and that you’re going to cut sugar / drop back on wine / eat more greens and workout more, etc, but then break your own rules every time you had a bad hair day? Or, just stare at yourself in the mirror and HATE on what you see, energetically transmitting I AM NOT ENOUGH, rather than being INTERNALLY the version of you who is already there?

Yepppp … mixed signals.

Transmission: unable to be read.

Result: MIA.

It’s pretty simple, really!

In business, and specifically with signing up (well, effortlessly and magnetically attracting in, like magic, from nowhere) high-level clients, but REALLY with drawing in soulmate peeps at ANY level –

The kind who wanna buy ALL your stuff ALL the time, without even looking at the details –

How this works is damn obvious, isn’t it?

You SAY you’re here to work with a certain type of client.

She’s badass, fearless, a leader, she is ALREADY taking action and creating killer results in her life, she shows up like this, she invests in herself like that, you have the vision of her in your mind in NO uncertain terms!

And, you even put that vision out there as well, don’t you?

Proudly stating what you stand for.
Who you are here to help.
What YOUR clients are like and why they are so EXTRA.
Or, you do one of those ranty “I’ll no longer stand for such and such bullshit!” posts on the internet, about all the ways in which you are now gonna OWN YOUR SHIT … 10X YOUR PRICES … NEVER ACCEPT BLAH BLAH BLAH AGAIN … WATCH OUT WORLD!

Everybody hell yeahs!
Everybody says YAAASSSSS Queen!
Rihanna and Beyonce gifs are PLENTIFUL in supply!
You feel so good! Dopamine is the BEST! And you got an EXTRA hit today, what an action-taking badass you are!

And then the very next week … day … heck, I’ve even seen it happen later the same day … you’re posting some extra special ‘never seen before’ discount that is SO SPECIAL but really just screams ‘fuck, I need a sale NOW’.

Or, you’re signing someone up who categorically is NOT amazing … in fact something about their energy just makes you want to run screaming for the other side of the planet … in your soul you KNOW you can’t really help this person because THEY ARE NOT LIKE YOU AND THEY DON’T GET IT, or they specifically have somethin’ going on which you SWORE you’d never accept in a client again … but hey, they agreed to pay, sorta, sure it seems to be like pulling teeth to get it, but it can work can’t it?

Anyone?

Anyone?!

You KNOW you know what I’m talking about here 

And what this really is of course is a conversation around INTEGRITY.

If you were IN it –

There would be ZERO DEVIANCE FROM IT.

Your no would mean no.
Your yes would mean yes.
About who you are.
What you stand for.
Who you work with.
At ALL levels.
And what your entire damn message and soul service is in the first place!

This would mean that when you say you’re not gonna sell certain shit anymore because you got a burst of inner power and admitted it’s not aligned you would then FOLLOW THROUGH ON THAT. PERRRRRRMMMMMMMAAANNNNNANNNNTTTTLLYYYYY.

Permanantly 

It would mean that when you rant and rage to your partner, your mentor, your friends, your journal, that you’re SO DONE with such and such, or with how certain people show up, or with not showing ALL of your naked soul, there would then be action forthcoming from that.

PERMAN-
ANT-
LY.

It would mean that when you rip a damn bandaid, it stays ripped.

When you say ‘never again!’, you CUT THE DAMN CORD THAT EVEN MAKES AGAIN POSSIBLE.

It would mean taking what you say in private –

And BOLDLY telling it to the whole world, because hey –

If you’re gonna swear on a course of action or on BECOMING something but then you can’t talk about it publicly, do you even have any intent of backing that up?

Or is it just a pipedream like everything else you SAY you’re gonna do?

Continually stamping your foot, connecting to deeper purpose, reminding yourself what you’re damn here for and then getting some kind of quick-fix validation but never actually making it WHO YOU DAMN ARE.

I KNOW you know what I mean, because we ALL do this in different ways.

And maybe that’s okay.

Maybe it’s just how it is.

Maybe your no doesn’t really mean no, and your yes means whatever-the-frick-you-then-end-up-doing?

Or maybe –

Just maybe!

You’re done with spinning one tune in your own mind where courage and certainty is at its greatest, and then creating a life that shrieks FAILED TO FUCKING BACK HERSELF all around that.

It’s up to you.

It’s ALWAYS up to you.

But if you don’t have what you want then just a lil tip for you –

Might be helpful to start acting ENERGETICALLY AND IN ALL POSSIBLE OTHER WAYS like it’s actually what you want –

KNOW you are worthy of –

And insist upon.

Yeah?

Yeah.

Don’t forget – !

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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