THE WHOLE DAMN POINT IS THAT NOT EVERYBODY IS GONNA HAVE IT ALL

There’s been some talk in my group lately, about spending money that’s not there in order to look the part, or about whether successful coaches are just trying to make money by selling a pipe-dream, about whether everybody is just buying in to this ‘cool club’ thang, the world of online luxe, location free, where you can have it all, on your terms, and MAYBE IT’S A SCAM!

Now –

Firstly:

I want to be clear that the posts I’m referencing were AWESOME posts, and I really love and honour the ladies who wrote them. They showed incredible awareness and ‘owning of one’s shit’. Respect!

Me writing this is in no way about those women being anything but badasses.

God knows I myself did the months (ha! years!) of spending money I didn’t have in order to be good enough, cool enough, look the part, and / or try and CONVINCE myself that I was abundant. Etc.

I also certainly questioned, many MANY times, in the period in my business where I was over 100k in debt, staring bankruptcy in the eye, had sold my EVERYTHING just to stay afloat, and could at times not even buy COFFEE –

let alone food, or make rent –

– whether or not I was ever REALLY going to get there.

But at no time.

At NO time.

At NO fucking time did I question whether my EVERY dream, having it ALL, completely on my terms, was AVAILABLE, or possible.

And if I’m honest? I never actually DID even question whether it was available or possible for ME, specifically. My faith was SEVERELY tested at times, yes. But it was always there. When I say I questioned whether or not I was ever really going to get there, really what I was questioning was whether it was actually supposed to be THIS FUCKING PAINFUL AND SCARY, as well as for the love of God and coffee and ALLL the wine – !

How much fucking LONGER was it going to take?!

But no.

I never questioned –

If I could have it all – 
On my terms – 
Bring every dream inside of me to life – 
BE the leader I knew I was meant to be – 
Make millions and impact millions and even change the WORLD, all whilst simply waking up and being me and doing what I WANT!

I KNEW.
I knew that I knew that I KNEW, in my heart of hearts, since before I was even FORMED into human form, that this was who I was meant to be.

And that it would happen.

So. Two things:

1) As far as whether there are coaches out there just trying to sell a pipe dream and ‘scam’ hapless souls into believing they can have it all, all while rubbing their OWN money-stained hands together in glee?

NO.
I happen to believe this is not a thing.
Yeah, there’s a ton of methods to coaching or leading that don’t resonate with me; a lot that I personally would (and did, before I found my own way) run a million miles from.

But no. I don’t believe people are out there trying to feed on the souls of others by selling fake dreams.

And I don’t especially find that it would be a useful thing TO believe, for you, would it now?

Never mind that it would NEGATE PERSONAL FUCKING RESPONSIBILITY. Which is basically like saying you don’t get to choose your own outcomes. So yeah … there’s that.

2) THE WHOLE GOD DAMN POINT IS THAT NOT EVERYBODY IS GONNA HAVE IT ALL … OR IS MEANT TO

The entire God damn point of being the 1% within the 1% is that NOT EVERYBODY IS GONNA DO THAT, nor CAN they.

I mean … seriously now! That’s just math! Can’t have 1% within the 1% (WITHIN the 1%, really!), if EVERYBODY is up there!

It doesn’t work that way.

It has NEVER worked that way.

It WILL never work that way.

And here is what I want to say to those out there still STRUGGLING, wondering when their time will come –

Laying down money they don’t have ’cause apparently that’s what abundance looks like –

Buying into course after course or mentoring after mentoring because there’s a dream they believe in and see as ‘theirs’ being sold with it –

Watching the leaders, the successful ones, LIVE in luxury, as VIFPs, location free, and ONLY do what they want, whilst being fully supported all day every day –

ETCETERA –

What I want to say is this:

DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE?

Frankly, for ME, it was the RIGHT thing to do to go into debt on endless mentoring, as well as some ‘fancy’ shit along the way. I have spent well over half a million dollars on mentoring. Over 250k of this was WHILE I WAS STILL LIVING HAND TO MOUTH (credit!) and could sometimes not buy $30 of food. I would do it EXACTLY the same way again.

Do I recommend that, to everybody?

I don’t recommend ANYTHING, to anybody, except for this:

Know who you fucking are.
Act accordingly, whatever that is for YOU.

For me it felt scary, endless, terrifying at times, exhausting, yes I questioned if I was ‘wrong’, I hid how bad the money stuff was from my husband at the time, I JUST managed to keep my head above water day to day, for ages, and I would DO IT AGAIN THAT WAY.

I KNEW I’d tell these stories one day.

I KNEW nothing was going to stop me.

I KNEW I would break through, and succeed, because that is who I AM, and when I fucking decided to live this life I MEANT it.

I invested every penny I did have and many I didn’t, into coaches ‘selling the dream’. Some of them helped me more than I could ever thank them for. Others, the way they helped me was by teaching me to believe in mySELF in the first place, when I realised I’d signed up with them NOT from alignment, and that what they were teaching did not align to ME.

At no point –

NO point –

Did it ever remotely occur to me to blame a coach –

Or say that what I got from them didn’t work –

Or anything like that.

My belief has always been, will always be – every dollar I invest is returned to me over and over again, 10x, 100x, 1000x and beyond, with money as well as other things.

How can I be sure of this?

BECAUSE I FUCKING CHOOSE IT.

And take responsibility.

When I was in the depths of oh my fucking God WHEN will it end, I took hope and GREAT inspiration from the coaches, mentors, or leaders, who I followed, who were already DOING the thing that I knew I could one day do.

The leading bit itself –

Or the money and lifestyle –

Whatever.

At no point in time did I think that this might be steering me into false promise.

But does that mean it’s available to everyone?

Well, available? Yes.

Gonna happen?

HELL NO.

Duh.

So again I will say to you –

I knew who I am.

I knew that if ‘they’ could have it so could I.

But, that’s not enough.

You have to know that if somebody else can have it, be it, do it, then so too can you, but there’s more to it than that, because the only thing that will actually GET you there is this:

You have to fucking know that you won’t say die until you do get there.

And you have to mean it so hard that you can hand on your heart say you’re willing to do what it takes, no matter what it takes, until it takes or UNTIL YOU DIE.

If you don’t mean it that hard, but for REAL –

Then yeah.
Look at the luxe life pics.
Look at those who have it all.
Look at or read the stories of those who spent money they didn’t have, who acted ‘from’ where they knew they were meant to be, who chose INTO abundance even though the practical side of that often seemed reckless – 

And sure.

Say that it leads people astray, and sells a false dream.

But as you do, just remember –

People can’t actually be led anywhere.

And as for selling a false dream –

I guess that depends what kind of people we’re talking about –

But I guess all that really matters is which kind of person are you?

As a coach, I’ve always been clear, and I’ll say it again –

No.
Not everybody can or will live this life or is even MEANT to. Yeah yeah in theory everybody can.
But no, they won’t.

So no,
Maybe you can’t have it all.
On your terms.
Etc.
And maybe everything you see online is just ‘causing’ you (responsibility, bitch!) to waste your life, your resources, and send yourself and your family into debt and despair.

If there’s even a hair of a chance that might be true for you then STOP STOP STOP, and please –

If you’re in MY community, leave.

I’ve never EVER sold anything to you.

I’ve only ever sold –

Messaged – 

Shown up for – 

Spoken to – 

The 1% within the 1% – 

The BORN for it leaders – 

Those who KNOW they’re gonna do what it takes –

No matter what it takes – 

Until it takes – 

AND THEN KEEP GOING.

In other words – 

Those like me.

I didn’t come here to convert the fucking masses baby. I came to preach to those who already have ears to hear, because they know they’re gonna DO the damn thing.

So, can you have it all?

Well I suppose if you really can –

You wouldn’t be fucking asking it.