Why You Don’t Yet Have The Life You Want

Let’s talk about dreams. Ideals. Big huge goals, and making them come real. You see, I know you.

I know that you have this deep desire for more.

That even as you go through the most mundane of tasks in the most ordinary of days, something within you is constantly pulling at you. Whispering softly, most of the time. So softly that it’s easy to (almost) ignore. Almost, but not quite.

And it’s telling you –

This is NOT as good as it gets.

You don’t HAVE to live an ordinary life.

It doesn’t need to be this hard.

And you can have more.

Can I tell you a secret?

It’s not a secret amongst those who already live their dream life, of course –

You don’t just get to have more. When you ask, with confidence, belief and the deep, firm knowledge that you are asking for no more than your birthright, the truth is this –

You can have it all.

There are no limits.

And infinite success, abundance, time, love and everything else you desire are yours if only you’re willing to ask for it.

But here’s what else I know about you –

Even as you read this, and something inside of you jumps with excitement and with the thrill of having your deepest beliefs affirmed there is also another part of you that is pulling away from my words right now. Telling you –

It’s not that simple.

My life is too complex.

I don’t deserve to be that lucky.

I don’t know if I have what it takes.

I’m not sure I’m willing to sacrifice the comfort and certainty of my current life.

And, of course –

I wouldn’t know where to start.

5 years ago, I had a dream.

In my earliest days online, when my blog was really just a newsletter for my personal training clients, I came across the blog of a ‘lifestyle entrepreneur’. The writer talked about making over $80,000 per year through his blog, and showed photos of his ‘office’, a cafe by the beach.

To me, this seemed amazing. Incredible. Inspiring. And something inside of me whispered –

I want that. I have no idea how that could be possible, but I want a life where my time is my own. Where I can work from anywhere, and where I can make a money doing something I love.

Over the next few years, I churned out thousands of blog posts, responded to several thousand more comments and emails, invested tens of thousands in various online coaching or business programs. I never had a firm plan throughout all this time. And for the first few years I didn’t even have a product or anything available for sale.

Yet still I continued on. Just putting one foot in front of the other, keeping faith based on the knowledge that even if I didn’t know what I was doing or how it was going to turn into a way of making a living, I was at least doing what I loved (writing and inspiring people to change their body and their life) and I was at least moving forward.

A huge key to my success, I believe, has been my persistence. But that’s not the real key to my success.

The real key is this –

I never ever stopped believing.

I believe in a world in which I DO get to choose how I work. When I work. Where from. And where work is not work at all, but creativity. Inspiration. Flow. Breath. And so intertwined with what I as need to be happy, whole, content and free that I would not sooner choose to stop doing it than I would choose to stop spending time with my child.

People ask me, lately –

Will you take a month or two off from your business, when the baby is born?

At first I felt unsure of how to answer them. I sort of felt bad if I said that no, probably not. And now I realise –

I’m not going to take a month or two off from living. And it’s kind of the same thing.

You see, I’m living my dream. I’m living with passion. And each day, sometimes effortlessly and sometimes with a little more inner resistance, I’m changing my world.

I’m making it into exactly what I want.

And one by one, I’m defying those who tell me I can’t, I shouldn’t, I’m not ready, it’s too much.

Mostly, what I’m defying is the old me.

The me who said that success can’t come easily. That it has to be constant and never-ending hard work. That I have to pay my dues. Atone for my past. Prove myself.

The truth is that there is nothing that needs proving, before you are ready or worthy of living your dreams. There is no barrier greater than the one in your own mind. And as simplistic as it might sound, there is nothing easier to do than to choose – right now – to live with a new set of beliefs about how your life has to be.

Right now, you can decide to believe –

That life can be easy.

That every day can be an adventure.

That you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

That there is always a solution.

That you can work from anywhere, doing anything, in any way.

That you can live in a home you love.

That you can have financial freedom, abundance.

That there is enough time.

That everything is working together for your own good.

And most of all, that you don’t need to be able to predict the future or have a plan in order to know that it’s all going to come together for the greater good of yourself and of others.

And, of course, that all of this can be yours now.

Do you choose? Will you join me? Do you want your dream life badly enough to step off that ledge even without knowing what lies beneath?

I hope so. ‘Cause I have to tell you that when you do?

You’re gonna fly beautiful.

Come join me.