Success Mindset

IT’S OKAY TO BE A COMPLETE FLAKE, LET PEOPLE DOWN, WALK AWAY, EVEN WHEN YOU PROMISED ‘YES’

So I totally just bailed on an interview with only 8 minutes notice, and, with it, pulled out of being a keynote speaker at an entire event which is coming up in a couple of weeks.

The interview was to meet and greet and I guess ‘prep’ for the actual event, as well as to record a short spiel for promo purposes. Not only did I totally flake out but I actually owned WHY, as well, when I messaged the organizer about it. I’ll share what I said in a sec.

Wanna know the truth? As I sat downstairs watching my 7 year-old gleefully practice her newfound bike-riding skills, and the time ticked closer to when I needed to jump on the zoom, all I could think was that I REALLY don’t actually want to do it. I don’t want to go upstairs right now and do this zoom. I want to keep watching my daughter ride, then grab lunch, and then I want to be locked away inside my own head, writing and perhaps a livestream after lunch.

That’s what I want to do, okay! But my logical brain said – irresponsible. Flaky. Unprofessional! (Ha, like I EVER promised to be THAT!) And also – but it’s a ‘good opportunity’ to speak at the event. I love the overall concept of the event … I’m aligned to it … it’s local-ish, and I always like meeting more cool local entrepreneurs, in fact one of my now closest friends Linda I met for the first time WHILE speaking at a local entrepreneur event! So – WHAT IF I COST MYSELF SOMETHING GOOD BY NOT ATTENDING?

I really SHOULD … you never know … you gotta do these things, right?

I sat there, and I watched Alyssa go round and round, and I felt like I was once again having one of those turning point moments. They never stop coming, you know? A moment when you can decide if you believe in what you preach, or if you’re going to make choices from fear.

I SHOULD, what IF, just in CASE – these are all fear based choices.

And I thought about James Altucher, my all-time favourite writer, who openly admits he sometimes just no-shows at speaking engagements even on the DAY, or else pulls out at the very last minute.

He’s a writer first and foremost, same as me.
An introvert, also.
And ultimately, one of us – perhaps you’re like this too? – in that, when push comes to shove, you just find you CAN’T.

And I knew:

Of course I can do the zoom. It’ll be fine, and no doubt a nice connection. And then, I just freaking KNOW, that when it comes time for the day of the event I WON’T WANT TO GO. I’ll want to do MY normal morning routine! Journal + kids + gym + write + be in my own head. You know?

And SURE … I would then go to the event and it’d be nice, even GREAT, and I’d make some connections and maybe get business from it in some way, well DEFINITELY I would, ’cause people do always come follow me when they hear me!

And?

So what.
One life.
Hell yes or nothing.
All these moments add up.
Just yesterday I dug deep again into being TRUE to myself, and that is NOT just a conceptual thing, you know? It’s an actual fucking thing where moment by moment, decision by decision, you’re either backing yourself – or you’re not.

Here’s the truth about me –

I don’t really like doing interviews. I do them mainly because I think I should, and I DO always enjoy them once in it. But baby that ain’t hell yes. There are certain interviews, same with events, where I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanna be in it. It is oh my GOD hell yes. Like speaking at Ryan Stewman’s event in Dallas end of October. Hell to the yes PLEASE, and thank you!

These, clearly, are the ones to do, and that’s IT, else otherwise I’d simply be DEMONSTRATING that I don’t believe I can actually live a full hell yes life and also get the results I want.

I know some people might read this and think I’m making a mountain out of a molehill; why do I need to write a whole blog on it?!

Well – because life isn’t about the huge big fucking yes or no’s. Your LIFE is a product of the small yes or no’s. The times you turn IN – or AWAY from – what you really long for. The little decisions to give your time, your energy, your focus, to act from FOMO or fear, to in some way state to yourself, to God, to the Universe, to everybody else, that even though you say you believe in your message, your art, and in doing it YOUR way, you’re easily available for sale, or ego, or validation, or else simply that when push comes to shove you don’t show ACTUAL faith.

When I look to the future, a future in which I’m known on a widespread mainstream level, read and watched and followed by millions, and then look back to now and ask myself who it was I had to be to GET there, the answer is simple:

Be the me who is ruthlessly committed to putting her own message and art first and who simply doesn’t DO shit just because it’s a ‘good idea’ or might in some way help.

I believe it’s not just the actual message and art that gets to be 100% aligned, but also EVERY aspect of how you market, sell, brand and deliver it as well as you.

And I’m super proud of myself for being strong enough IN me, and in my faith in me, to own that today, and also to be honest about it with the organizer, rather than making something up. It’s never just one thing gorgeous … you’ll give your entire LIFE for just one thing, stacked on another.

Or you can give it for being only, and always, true to you.

Here’s what I said:

“Hey ___. I’m actually going to cancel, I’ve just been tuning in to it, and I don’t want to come and speak at the event. I’m sure it’s amazing, it looks amazing, the reason is it’s just not a complete hell yes for me, and one of my commitments in life is to really only do the things that are super hell yes, as far as how I choose to spend my time, whether it’s for my own content creation, or with my kids, or whatever it is.

And I sat down yesterday and did a massive journaling session about being really honest with myself about what actually lights my fire most, and only giving my time and energy to the things that do fit into that category.

I know it’s very short notice for this call today, but I thought it’s best to just pass that on straight away now that I guess I’m going to an even higher level of authenticity with myself. So thank you so much for understanding, and all the best with your events.”

It would have been easy to just beg off due to kids or whatever else, but something I’ve also been practicing for some time now is just OWNING your truth. Being okay with saying your actual reasons. Not just because, well, integrity, but also if you can’t speak your truth to others then there’s a part of you which thinks it’s not okay to THINK that, or do that, etc.

Which doesn’t bode especially well as far as permission to be who you really are, does it?!

Anyway.

NOW, I essentially am using the time allocated for that zoom to write this, so it’s not like I end up ‘ahead’ on time or something, do I? But that’s not the point … the point is that all those moments add up.

And at the end of the day you’re either going to look back on a day in which you said yes to YOU, to what you value and desire MOST, and to making space for the purpose work you’re most about, or you’re gonna look back on a day of responding to others and making choices based on what feels ‘safe’, ‘right’, ‘expected’ or ‘best’.

Wanna know the scary thing?

When I talk about looking back from the end of the day what I’m actually talking about is looking back from the end of your life.

Make no mistake:

EVERY choice matters.

And it speaks to who you’ll become next.

I believe you can do EVERYTHING your soul longs for you to do, and be that person. But just because you have a destiny, and you know what you feel inside of you is real, that doesn’t mean it’s ever going to happen.

Be RUTHLESSLY committed to your truth –

Or accept you’re never going to actually be THAT person who you know is waiting in the wings to be let out.

Remember:

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat

 

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

PS

Aligning to Your New Money Normal is coming!

I am so excited!!

For the first time ever I am bringing together over 13 years of soul-led multi-million $$ biz creating money ENERGY shiz, and teaching it to you all in one brand new live 6 week course!

Piece by piece and bit by bit EVERYTHING I got to learn, tap into, download, and figure out around COMPLETELY rewiring money beliefs, and then upleveling financial reality on repeat.

This course will include all the practical things I do to continually grow real wealth (boy oh boy was that a minefield for me to wade through, and find soul alignment with, at first!),

my personal daily and weekly money routines and practices,

also what I get my team to do / the behind the scenes of how we create and also manage cashflow in my biz,

the quantum side of it, the energetics of the thing,

everything you ACTUALLY need to know about clearing shit, and how to know when there IS action to take on that, what it is, how to take it,

how to know when it IS time to align to your next money goal, what that goal is, how I myself would know (and then what to do about it),

how I do my money energy work, my own feelings and relationship with money, and how I created that

as well as a literal ‘what to do and how to do it’ process to align YOU to your next money goal, right there and then together in that course. Yep, you will actually be implementing and shifting shit with me there right by your side kicking your hot ass as needed (gettin’ you soul aligned baby!)

and a whole bunch more which you is gonna have to wait to see 🙂

Be sure to drop a comment here on Facebook if you’d like to be one of the first people to know when it goes live!

PPS

I HAVE SOME BIG NEWS TO SHARE!

As of today, I’m opening up the doors to my Inner Circle, my private client mastermind.

This is THE most badass high level mastermind in the world for women who want it all – and are prepared to do what it takes to get it! Really what we’re talking about is being prepared to be the PERSON.

And that’s what I do. I help you remember ALL that you were, and then become it. ALL Of it.

This is my highest level private mentoring circle. The exact place where I have personally mentored dozens of this industry’s most elite female entrepreneurs to break income barriers ranging from 10k months to multiple 7 FIGURE months, and everything in between. But more importantly than that – to become who and what they always were.

But know that this is not only (obviously) not just for the masses, this is also not just for someone who can afford to invest in a high level private coach. Being willing to throw money down is something which has absolutely zero correlation to being somebody who has what it takes to TRULY go next level as a leader.

If anything, in this industry, investing in a high level coach such as myself, is a rite of passage which veers just a little too much on the side of ‘trend’. It’s become something which ‘everybody does’, almost as a way of proving they play business and life a certain way.

Maybe even of trying to prove it to themselves.

Here is the reality which those who I am truly here to personally mentor and lead KNOW, the reality which my clients and all women like me as well as of course me personally have ALWAYS known:

We are VERY VERY DIFFERENT.

We are simply, smarter, faster, and have more presence. We can do more in our minds before breakfast than what most people can do in a freakin’ WEEK, a month, a year.

We are not basic ass coaches trying to heave ho our way up a few extra thou a month.

We are the ones who have ALWAYS known we are 1% within the 1% within the 1% in terms of how we think, create, operate, how and WHAT we are tapped in too.

This is not arrogance, this is fact.

And there has NEVER been any question but that we will go all the way.

My clients are high level badasses who do the work, who have a proven track record BEFORE coming to me, and a BEING-ness which unquestionably separates them from the rest. They don’t come to me to save them or lean down and hold my hand out so they can clamber up. They come because they are, quite simply, ready to go to the next level, already absolutely on their WAY there, and see in me something which they recognise because it is in them.

That ‘can’t stop won’t stop’ fire, and a level of ‘unapologeticness’ which, when truly understood and applied, can literally be the difference between 5-figure or low 6-figure and 7 or multi-7-figure entrepreneur.

So if you know who you are and it is THAT –

And you feel certain that you are ALREADY well on your way to to precisely where you’re meant to be, but that being in MY energy could help you to drop in and get there even faster, and that with a couple of simple tweaks your current revenue could be doubling, tripling, heck QUADRUPLING and beyond in months, as it has done with numerous of my clients previously, well then –

PM me here http://m.me/katrinaruthofficial and we’ll see if it’s a fit. I’m excited to talk to you, and maybe – do biz and life with you.

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