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Success Mindset

SELF-PUNISHMENT IS NEVER THE ANSWER

One of the things which you’ll find to be undeniably true, and more and more difficult to ignore, as you go about your journey, is the fact that the only reason to do the things?

Is ’cause you wanna do the things.

In your earlier years of pursuing success, when you’re entrepreneurially or purposeful life young and green, you’ll diligently set out to do all the things, or at least as very many things as you can, because you believe that the more you DO, the more you GET or BECOME, or the more likely you are to be validated or approved of.

This belief system will cause you to live most days in fear and panic and overwhelm; the staple emotions of a wannabe who is tryna be.

No matter how hard you push and race and run, you’ll bemoan the fact that you still didn’t do enough.

And just when you think you’re making headway, you’ll see a whole bunch of stuff that somebody else is doing which YOU should no doubt be doing.

You will become so used to the idea that ALWAYS MORE ACTION is better, that you’ll ignore and eventually no longer even hear your bodies signals for rest, or rejuvenation, or tuning in, or walking away.

As a result of THIS, you’ll invest countless hours, countless units of energy and emotion, and God knows how much money into the endless quest to BE enough, DO enough, move FORWARD enough so that you can be safe.

It will become a WAY OF LIFE to do things your soul is crying or even screaming against, so committed are you to the idea that SUCCESS COMES FROM PUSHING ONWARD, ALWAYS, FASTER, NO MATTER WHAT, JUST.KEEP.GOING.

Well, here’s the thing –

There are many times when success DOES require you to PUSH, to move onward, always, to just.keep.going, and indeed there IS always something additional to do, there will always BE the opportunity to grow more, become more, drop in to that next level, and it will NEVER end.

But self-punishment?

Pushing for the sake of pushing?

Doing more because of some mis-guided idea that it must surely LEAD to more of what is aligned and true?

Yeah …. NAH.

Here is the truth about the push. The hustle. The grind. And showing the fuck up with purpose, in order to ALWAYS get the results you want.

If the hustle don’t come from flow it ain’t a hustle you want or NEED to be part of.

And if the push isn’t based on what your soul is GUIDING you to do, then you’re almost literally pushing shit up a hill just for the fun of it.

Which really does beg the question …

IS it fucking fun?? Or, is it just that you continue to beat your head against the wall, desperation building, relentlessly committed to the path of the purposeLESS push?

Here is what I know for sure, if you’re on THAT path:

There’s a feeling.

A slow and sinking feeling.

A feeling you CAN’T IGNORE.

Deep inside.

Where you REALLY can’t help but wonder if it ACTUALLY FUCKING HAS TO BE THIS WAY.

Wanna know the truth?

You damn straight KNOW it doesn’t have to be this way!!!

And even though you’ve done a really not so terrible job of COMPLETELY FUCKING IGNORING YOUR SOUL for so damn long, it IS still speaking to you.

Pulling at you.

And not-so-quietly kicking your ass from the inside out.

Can I tell you something??

I used to be like that.

I used to think it had to BE like that.

I LIVED like that, I pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed all day and every day no matter WHAT. I’m not going to tell you it was all bad, and also, funnily enough, I don’t regret it.

I learned discipline, something most entrepreneurs could stand to learn a thing or two about!

I learned tenacity, and resilience, and to get back up no matter HOW many times I was on the floor.

I also had a DAMN fun time, much of the time. I THRIVE on adrenaline, and the push will ALWAYS be part of who I am.

But, there was so much fear.

There were so many times where the action I was taking was OUT of fear.

If I don’t do that extra workout, I might somehow gain 10 pounds overnight!
If I don’t do video I’ll fall behind as an entrepreneur!
If I don’t get on the computer instead of play with my baby, I’ll fall behind!

I might have taken a TON of purposeful action towards my aligned goals, but I also beat myself up with a ton of unnecessary EXTRA shit. And more relevantly, I didn’t stop to try and differentiate. There were times when to push so damn hard WAS flow. Of course! And there still are. Of course! Like being in a damn good workout and turning the dial UP.

But what I didn’t know back then, was that the times when my soul was telling me NO, you don’t need to do that, that’s actually not necessary, or maybe what your soul NEEDS is to turn away, to turn within –

I refused to listen.

I ASSUMED that doing less or being in stillness or pause was ALWAYS a bad idea.

And most of all, I assumed that to get the RESULTS I wanted, I HAD TO DO THE THINGS OR ELSE.

It seems so funny, when I think of it now.

Now, I push a lot.
I sweat my ass off.
I show up.
I BURN and GRIND baby.
I DO THE THINGS.

But, it is ONLY from flow.

I push when it’s a moment or season for pushing.

And I rest or rejuvenate or disappear altogether when that’s what I’m being called to do.

I might do 3 workouts in a day one day –
4 livestreams, and write 10,000 words, plus speak to a ton of clients, be on an interview, answer EVERY damn message and actively sell a bunch of shit –

Then spend the entire next day napping, having long massage sessions, drinking or dining with friends, meandering through Facebook like it’s just a social thing, etc.

I DO WHAT I WANT.

I DO WHAT MY SOUL REQUIRES.

I LISTEN IN, AND I ACT ACCORDINGLY.

In EVERY area this is true.

How I train, to how I eat, to how I message, to how I preach and teach in my paid programs, to how I mentor even my highest level clients, to how I parent, or even where I choose to travel.

100% of decisions come from ‘what is aligned?’, ‘what does my soul desire?’, ‘what do I know is RIGHT?’

Period, the end.

It’s been SO long since I did something, in business, fitness OR life, because I thought I needed to do it to get a result.

And since that time?

Is when business, fitness, life has become SO damn easy.

I always have the outcomes I want.
Because I decide and choose them.
And I TRUST that I always know the action to take or to NOT take, and that it works when I do it this way.

These are the things I thought about for you –

As I felt the BURN –

And climbed the HIGHEST heights –

In Soul Cycle, with my badass self-made millionaire client and friend Amanda Frances by my side.

Sunday morning PUSH after a big night out at Nobu Malibu the night before, of COURSE!

Because we wanted to.
Because we felt like it.
Because it was fucking ALIGNED.
And because we can – always – do what we want.

And then?

Well, obviously – !

We went home and ran a training while drinking million dollar health smoothies, and chased it with a rooftop massage and some big ass chocolate cookies.

AS IT SHOULD BE.

I want you to know this –

REALLY know and hear this –

You get to do what you want, and what your soul desires.

In fact it’s the only way …

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

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The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

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All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

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