It’s not even anything you SAY, or DO, it’s literally the way you are existing, living, breathing, BEING, which will draw your soul people in to you.

Growing up in a strong Christian home, one of the things I remember hearing over and over again was they we didn’t NEED to ever ‘Bible bash’ anyone, or try to tell them about God, or what they should do, because it would be the way we lived our LIFE that compelled people to want to know what’s different about us.

I remember my Mum saying to me many times – “people will notice that you have something that they don’t have. They’ll want to know what it is, and THEY will come to YOU.”

Therefore, the only thing you had to ‘do’ (if you wanted to influence others to also give their lives to God, in this particular case), was live YOUR life a certain way. Part of that meant, of course, unashamedly OWNING it. Letting His light shine through you, not making a fuss about it or trying to convince ANYONE that they should align with your beliefs, but instead simply letting it be seen.

This meant, obviously, actively NOT hiding or being apologetic for who you were, how you lived, what you believed, and what you aligned to.

But no, it certainly didn’t mean telling people off for not living their lives that way, or in any way trying to beat them over the head with what you thought, felt, or knew.

This morning over post 4th-July shenaningan chats and laughs with my clients-turned-besties Amanda Frances and Ash O’Donnell, the topic of people fading out of our lives came up.

We’ve all had these soul friendships which we thought would last for LIFE, which we knew were soul divined, and then all of a sudden, they’re not there anymore.

Sometimes this happens very suddenly, shockingly, it’s like a limb being torn from your body, and you still can’t quite believe it’s gone.

And other times the friendship just inevitably fades, slowly slowly, but surely, away.

I’ve had it happen both ways.

There are 4 people in particular who, I believe, will probably never stop coming into my heart and mind every so often, and each time I feel that small jolt of shock, and grief, ‘how can it be?’, that that person is no longer in my life.

In each case, if you had have told me back when we WERE friends that it would come to this, I would have said ‘that’s impossible’.

But actually … to be honest with you … and myself … in each case, I did always known, that it would come to an end, in the human sense.

In the soul sense, it will never end, as these people ARE true soulmates, and that’s why they keep coming back to mind. We’ll be connected for all eternity, just as we always were, long before we met in the physical realm.

It’s true though, when I look back, there were things I saw from early on, and knew it would not and could not last forever in the physical; I just didn’t WANT to see or acknowledge it at the time. VERY small flickers.

So, maybe it’s shocking and ‘I can’t believe it’. Or maybe I always knew.

Either way, the soul connection is still there.

We were talking about this just now, in between laughing about how to ‘vagina vibe’ men on Bumble (it’s a thing; it’s a requirement actually, if you’re going to use those apps … props to Ash for the exact wording!) … or where Kat still has scarcity issues (hotel laundry and also how long it will take my micro-bladed eyebrows to set and whether I can get away with going to hot yoga before the ‘allowed’ time) … and how I manifested perfect breasts (of course) … and many other things of some note … yes, we were talking about this.

About the friendships, which fade away, along the way.

And I said –

“It’s just part of it, isn’t it? The more ‘awake’ and conscious you become.

It’s inevitable.

It’s simply a product of YOU SHINING YOUR LIGHT.

It’s not even anything you SAY, or DO, it’s literally the way you are existing, living, breathing, it’s too much for some people.

It’s confronting. They’re not waking up, or not to the same level, and the only way they can protect themselves or ‘deal’, is to shut or cut you out, or in some cases turn on you.”

Of course maybe it’s also just that sometimes the friendship is no longer aligned.

Different paths, and all that.

But I was reminded of what my mother always said to me, in a way prophesying over me, as I grew up –

“People will see that you’re different Katrina. They will come to you and ask what you have, that they don’t. There’ll never be a need to try and beat it into them”

Or words to that effect.

What was also said, and understood, of course, was that there will be people who turn on you for how you choose to do life. Who turn on you for your beliefs. Who even desire to wage war with you for who you are, what you stand for, and what you stand against.

Who become VITRIOLIC with passionate hatred in opposition to the very way you live your life.

Such is life, when you’re willing to live – and also die – for a belief so strong and true that it terrifies most people.

Those who are drawn, are CLOSELY drawn, and will ask YOU to show them, guide them, support them, lead them.

No need to sell anything, just BE 

And those are triggered, confronted, or WILDLY disagree, and see things in a different way, may well rail and rise against you.

Of course Mum was talking about standing for God, being a Christian, and impacting others to live in that way also.

Not about preaching and leading online 

Or, was she?

Amanda and I have spoken about this often, we both have similar (although vastly different) upbringings, with the church, and beliefs we were raised with, and most of all with BEING CALLED.

Being prophesied over.

KNOWING that we would preach, and minister.

Thinking, as youth, that it would be in the church in the way we understood it back then.

Seeing NOW, that oh –


I am a preacher.
I am a minister.
I am a leader.


Because of who I AM, literally how I exist, live, breathe, the way my heart beats.

Because of how in alignment with PURPOSE, and alignment itself, and my own higher truth and self, I so clearly am.

And they want me to show them –

How do I become that too?


Just like my Mum always told me they would 

In a totally different way than what I thought it would be.

But in some ways,

Exactly the same.

And just like I also always knew would happen, in some cases they RAIL against me.

Sometimes these are funny comments on social media. I saw one earlier today which said “but, WHAT does she DO? Is she a motivational poster with a pulse? Or maybe it’s as simple as she’s a blonde with a foreign accent, and therefore people will inevitably throw tons of money at her. Got it”.

lol … somebody tell all blondes with foreign accents that they should automatically be rich.

These comments do trigger me a little bit, as there’s still that part of me that wants everyone to know I am SMART, and purpose-driven, and that what I’m teaching and preaching – allowing through me; being the vessel for! – is CRITICAL.

But mostly I don’t pay attention.

JUST like I was taught, I don’t try to beat my message into people.

“Let those who have ears to hear, hear”

Sometimes, it’s more than just a silly comment on social.

Sometimes it is people who you thought would be in your life forever, fading away. Or worse. And sometimes it’s even direct attacks of some kind.

People turning on you for WHO YOU ARE and what you STAND for.

When this happens, or when I feel sense of it happening, in my own life or the lives of those who also live in such alignment and truth, I shrug.

I always knew this would happen.

It’s never surprising to me.

The way my business, my life, my purpose has unfolded, I never could have predicted or foreseen the DETAILS of.

But yet all of it is completely ‘of course. I always knew that’.

And it reminds me, I am reminded today, as I come to you and let the day’s message through for you –

It reminds me of how silly it is to ever worry about the ‘how’.

There’s not a single aligned outcome in my life which has come to fruition as a result of me TRYING TO MAKE IT HAPPEN.

All of the things I TRIED to make happen, and pushed for, were simply lessons learned to let go, and let what is to BE, be.

How to do that; how to fulfil destiny, and purpose, and wake up living the life you ALWAYS KNEW WOULD HAPPEN?

Well, like you’ll hear me say again and again and again, until the day I die – !

“When I say yes to my soul –

Life says yes to me”

There is NEVER anything I need to do.

But yet there is always action to take.

When I look back, I’ve ‘wasted’ a lot of time learning that there’s nothing I ever need to do.

What has been taught to me from all of that, is that all of THIS, all of the power and beauty and truth I now get to live in and BE, is a simple outcome of how through it all, through all of the questioning, and doubt, and fear, I did just keep coming back to faith.

To what I felt inside of me.

To what I knew was real.

To what I believed I was CALLED for.

And, no matter how scary it often was to do so, to STANDING FIRM IN MY POWER.

Of who I am.
Of what I believe.
Of what I stand for.
And what I will always rail against.

In the end, people following me, wanting me to guide them, signing themSELVES up to work with me, and also of course PAYING me, has come about from me BEING me.

It has not come about from me selling.
It has not come about from me trying to build my following.
It has not come about from me DOING, anything.

It has come about, just the way my mother said it would, by the way I live my life, and continue to.

My very ESSENCE.

“They will come to you because of who you are.

And they will tell you they’ve noticed something different inside of you, and that they want that too”


That’s exactly what’s happened.

All I ever needed to DO to allow it, was to obviously BE WHO I AM.

A long time ago, I gave myself permission to do that, no matter what, and no matter how scary.

If you’ve always been called,

In the way I’ve always been called,

I encourage you to do the same.

And then to live accordingly.

And today I want to remind you:

I stand for truth.

I stand for alignment.

I stand for purpose.

I stand for you.

What do YOU stand for?

And are you standing for it, calmly, but with certainty, and TRUSTING that the people who you’re meant to impact will be so impacted because of how you live your LIFE,

Or are you flurrying around trying to do the right thing to get the right outcome?

Right now,

You’re either standing for the one thing which truly matters to you, your fundamental BELIEFS about LIFE, and beyond, and the right people are finding you because of that,

Or you are falling for everything.