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I remember the first time I was really able to look myself directly in the eyes in the mirror. It was the first time I felt, for the smallest moment, a flicker of ‘maybe it’s okay to be me’. But mainly?

I felt pain.

I want to talk about that, and about what self love IS, but first, for a moment, let’s talk flow.

DEEP connected soul flow.

And with it, the truth about what it would take for you to be IN flow and fully SATISFIED with yourself and how you’re showing up.

Which actually… is self love.

Me?? This is easy to answer.

I’m here to write and speak and play and perform and dance and be silly and get high vibe as FUCK, just high on life and my message and sharing it all with YOU.

When I do these things I am happy, uplifted, I click into flow and I OVERflow with joy and bubbliness, AND? The money fucking flows, my audience grows, ALL THINGS WORK.

When I do NOT do the above things (perhaps because I overbook my schedule … or I make that MOST grave of entrepreneurial mistakes and check my emails before I fully immerse myself into the flow zone; the zone where I no longer give a fuck about anything except creating and being ME) … I am not happy, not uplifted, not expanded, I tend to spend the day grumpy, resentful, frustrated, and THINGS FEEL HARD.

You would think, me being a smart and success-minded gal and all, that this being true and also KNOWN, obviously I would just SHOW THE FUCK UP for all that I know I and my flow and my business and my soul NEED each day, and fuck the rest.

I appreciate the belief in me, but, well, honestly?

You would be wrong.

I still do the human as fuck shit of NOT PUTTING FIRST THINGS FIRST, and sometimes of not even doing ’em at all!

Granted, this is not too often …

But it does happen. And, what I’ve noticed is that if you’re not careful it kinda creeps up on you, like a WAY OF BEING where one week you were flowing and flying and doing what your soul knows you MUST, with not a care given for a SINGLE damn should, and then somehow a week or two later you vaguely start to notice –


I seem to have clicked back into THINKING … into being REACTIVE … and into making TERRIBLE excuses about why I haven’t been fully showing up for my content and my art.

ALL excuses are terrible, by the way, in case you’re wondering what MY horrendous ones are. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – YOUR EXCUSES MAY WELL BE REAL. This does not make them VALID, it does not make them a worthy reason to NOT LIVE YOUR DREAMS. Hence: terrible. Awful!

This morning being Valentines Day and all, I started my journaling with a simple statement, perhaps somewhat responsive to my own blog post yesterday, which was titled THE ANSWER IS NEVER SELF-PUNISHMENT

‘The answer is self love’.

And I thought –

What IS self-love, really?

Is it self-care? Well, sure … but anyone can do alllllll the self-care shit and pat themselves on the back for it, and still not be in self LOVE.

This is what I feel self love is:

It’s being able to look yourself directly in the eyes in the mirror, while naked, or in yoga, or anytime, and not look away. It’s being able to look at yourself fully and not just accept, but also see the corners of your mouth turn UP. I remember the first time I REALLY saw myself in the mirror. After decades of not being able to look at me. And I thought – wow. She looks … nice. I think I like her.

This to me is self love.

What else is self love?

It’s being able to walk away, from any person or any thing or any item in your schedule which you suddenly realise (or suddenly become honest about admitting!) is not aligned, you don’t really like, you don’t really WANT. It’s being courageous and SELF LOVING enough to say – actually. No. Thank you, but no thank you.

It’s also being able to say thank you, no thank you in the first place. There is no should in self love.

What else does it mean, to LOVE yourself?

It’s taking daily time. No matter how fucking busy you are. No matter how much the world wants or demands you. To journal. Or meditate. Or vision. Or whatever you need to TUNE IN TO YOU, and start your day from your CORE, not the noise of the world. It’s holding up an energetic stop sign, and saying – you know what? I don’t got time for dat right now. I’m over here NURTURING AND LISTENING TO MY SOUL. And as for when I’ll be done, and ready for the rest of the world? I SUPPOSE WHEN I’M DONE I’LL BE DONE.

It’s running out of time to eat or talk to others because you were lost in your art.

Or, it’s ignoring the idea that you SHOULD do your art in this moment, because you’re indulging in amazing food and wine, a massage, a nap, a wander, in your dreams.

It’s honouring what is needed in the NOW.

This is self love. This, coupled with choosing to have faith that you are ALLOWED TO DO THIS, and giving yourself permission TO do it.

Self love is choosing the food you actually desire … doing the workout your body and mind delights in … hanging with the people who EXPAND not contract you … and saying a big fuck you to the idea of doing a SINGLE thing in your biz or life because you think it’s gonna get you to an OUTCOME.

When you’re IN self love, you know that if something doesn’t LIFT AND LIGHT YOU UP then it gets to go. Period. The end. You know that this is not just because you are allowed to live in love and happiness, but also because if it doesn’t FEEL good and aligned and right and true it doesn’

This is a FACT!!! Self love shows the way. If you let it.

When you’re in self love you are HONEST with yourself. About where you’re not owning it. Where you need to rip the fucking bandaid. Where you need something. Where you need to kick your own ass. What you WOULD be doing if you WERE indeed being fully you.


Self love does not sit its ass down and hope shit just sorts itself out. Self love does the WORK … ALL the work … the SOUL aligned work … and makes decisions based on what is available and what is inside, not what drama or a STORY says in the moment.

Self love is owning your own power.

CHOOSING to be the confident and badass you, the leader you, the you who steps up even when scared or unsure or questioning your own worth or value.

Self love pays ATTENTION when triggered, sad, down. It’s about allowing yourself to feel what you are feeling, whilst ALWAYS knowing there is another choice available, and being willing to face INTO the pain or uncertainty or resistance in order to let it out.

Self love knows the answers are always and ONLY within.

That it’s down to how you wanna FEEL.

That feelings are a choice.

And so are ALL results and outcomes.

But that they NEVER come about from doing shit you don’t wanna do –

In a way that doesn’t really suit you –

And for or with people who don’t DELIGHT you.

And finally –

Self love stakes its claim. Self love is YOU staking your claim.

Knowing and deciding and OWNING –

I AM this person.


My self love vision statement this morning, which of COURSE is done?

I am a performer. I am a writer. I am a speaker. I am an entertainer. I show up fully for my content EVERY DAMN DAY, unleashing and playing and letting the silly as well as the inspiring and badass OUT.

Every night – 

When my head hits the pillow – 

I know I showed the fuck up and owned it.

This is my self love CHOICE, for me – 

And it’s my wish for you.

This is self love.


Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x


Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”



Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,


And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,



Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.


With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –


Starting January 18th!


The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –


For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:



All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.


Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.