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Judgement
Live Your Passion

Accept The Fucking Judgement

Last night I had drinks and tapas with a new client and friend and one of the things we spoke about was how SCARY it can be to put yourself in the public eye, and risk judgement. How it can even STOP you stepping fully into your mission in the first place, if you’re not careful!

Be honest now: have you EVER held yourself back in some form from being who you really are, because you’re worried about what people will think or what you imagine (or perhaps know!) they DO think?

Of COURSE you have; we all have! And here’s the thing:

If you’re going to be in the public eye, then make no mistake you WILL be judged.

You put yourself out there, you want to stand up as a leader, you want to show the world who you ARE? Might as well put a target on your forehead or announce that it’s open season time for people to tell you:

Whether or not they like you
Whether or not you are cool / appropriate / professional
What to eat
What to wear or how to present yourself
How to raise your children
Whether or not you’re a good person
Etc!

The thing is … I mean the thing is … so the fuck what? I’m not saying this to make a stand like WAH, I’m just letting you know:

That’s how it is. And actually it’s TRUE that if you want to stand up and lead you ARE open slather for people to tell you how to live your life.

Newsflash: as long as there are PEOPLE there will be opinions! And guess what? I bet YOU have some too. I know I do 🙂

But here’s the thing:

It’s not REALLY any of YOUR business, what other people think of you!

It’s totally up to you if you want to get upset about it …

If you want to get your knickers in a knot …

Or if you feel the need to try and impart oh so wisely to people why YOU are right and THEY are not …

Totally your call!

Either way, you know what?

I bet they’re gonna keep on thinking what they want to think and I bet YOU will too!

As I told my client last night – it doesn’t MATTER. It’s not even that you need to ACTIVELY ignore those people. It’s that if you’re in your own lane, eye on the horizon, focusing on what you came here to DO, then you won’t even SEE them!

I receive ‘hater‘ type stuff practically NEVER since I stopped giving it any attention. When I did worry about it, I GOT it; funnily enough!

Now, the most I get is the occasional ‘helpful’ comment to do with my look and SOMETIMES someone is even daring (HUH!!! I could think of other words to say here!) enough to tell me whether my writing is good that day, but that stuff is just opinion. So what! Take it or leave it, it doesn’t matter.

People are allowed to have their own opinions of you.

As you do of THEM, RIGHT?

But where all of this DOES matter is when you allow it to SWAY you.

Somebody makes a comment about what you’re wearing, and so next time you try and tone it down …

They tsk tsk at your language so you find yourself FILTERING, just a little bit …

They make you feel a bit SILLY when you try something new, so you decide better NOT to, next time, or at least not in public!

All of this –
Over time –
Adds up.

To a message filtered.
A truth squashed down.
And you, worrying, perhaps even on the slightest sub-conscious level but STILL –

Of what they think.
What they’ll say.
Whether it’s okay.
Whether YOU are okay.

Can I tell you?

People ARE allowed to comment on you when you’re in the public eye, it’s PAR FOR THE COURSE.

But YOU?

Well.

YOU.
My dear.
My darling.
My STUNNING FUCKING BEAUTY.

Are allowed to nod your head.
Smile politely.
And do whatever the fuck you want anyway.

In fact if you DON’T?

You might as well go join the brown zombie people, and we BOTH know you ain’t one of them.

So LAUGH or roll your EYES or just plain IGNORE, if you want, but either way, and no matter what?

Never quit exploring.
Never quit trying new things.
Never quit PLAYING and having FUN with it.

Nobody ever said –
Your business was supposed to fit in a box.

And if they did?
FUCK THEM AND THE BOX THEY CAME IN.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

Rebel.
Upstart.
Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.
Unreasonable.
Ridiculous.
Unprofessional.
Crazy!

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”

lolol

BUT REALLY.

Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,

Polished,

And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,

WITHERS TO NOTHING,

AND DIES?

Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.

NOW.

With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –

THE MILLIONAIRE REBEL YOU!

Starting January 18th!

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –

BUT NOT IF SHE CONTINUES TO DO BUSINESS AND LIFE BY TRYING TO SOMEHOW BE A NON-CONFORMIST WHO CONTINUALLY CAVES AND CONFORMS.

For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:

FLICK THE DAMN REBEL MILLIONAIRE SWITCH BABY.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/

All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.

REBEL MILLIONAIRE

Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.

>>> https://thekatrinaruthshow.com/rebelmillionaire/