How to Fuck It All Up

Something I learned, once I finally allowed money to flow to me and business and life to be easy and straightforward, was just how tough I had made it on myself over the years.

You might have heard people say that making money or achieving even the biggest dreams and goals can be easy, and fun. It’s true! Of course that doesn’t mean it won’t also be hard work, but let’s face it – you’re already working hard anyway! Might as well do it in a way that works FOR you.

The greatest block to you creating the money, the business, the life, all of it, is not that you don’t know what to do or how to get there. The greatest block, and the one you’ll have to battle on a near daily basis, is you.

YOU are the one who will determine whether or not you take action every day, in spite of all the often very valid reasons you maybe can’t.

YOU are the one who will choose to press on, or be swayed.

YOU are the one who must pick yourself up as many times as it takes, and then 1000 more.

YOU are the one who must be bloodied, torn apart, ripped in two, on your journey, and then continue fighting REGARDLESS.

It is all. down. to. YOU.

And the very GREATEST challenge you will face, is not only realising and ACKNOWLEDGING this responsibility but then also crafting your days accordingly.

Because the danger – the very real and present danger – is that somewhere on your road to living your dreams and having it all you get distracted by something close enough to deceive you, yet never enough to satisfy you.

This is the writer who ends up spending her time on coaching, and crams her craft in to 20 minutes here and there.

It’s the speaker born to impact millions, who accepts an hourly fee for her services.

It’s the creator swept up in administrative tasks, and Facebook, and email.

It’s the leader who is busy teaching.

It’s the warrior who spends her days answering to others.

It’s the you who allows the true genius you were brought here to share to be dulled, dimmed and destroyed by the mundanity of Getting Shit Done.

This is the REALITY of how most people allow their destiny to be carved. Simply, they don’t. They play along the sidelines of their own life, desperate to get into the ring but yet ready and armed with a bevy of excuses when their turn is offered.

[pq]NOW is the time when you need to be honest with yourself about whether YOU are living on the sidelines of your own life.[/pq]

NOW is the only time you have and you have NO more time left to live the wrong life.

NEAR enough is NOT good enough.

And there is nothing – no NOTHING – not money, not fame, not so-called security, that can compensate you for never quite living your dreams, never quite going all out, never REALLY seeing where you can go. And never fully being you.

So now.

Let’s commit.

You and me.

That this? THIS HAS GOT TO STOP.

NO more putting off for another NEVER what you’ve been BURNING TO DO AND BE FOR ETERNITY.

You will never, ever, EVER forgive yourself.

Do you realise how serious this shit is?

Just because you HAVE a purpose does NOT mean you will live it. YOU have to choose. You HAVE to choose. You have to CHOOSE.

And you have to rip that motherfucker of a bandaid now.

How do you do that?

It’s very simple, it’s far more straightforward than perhaps you’d like, and you can do it in just a few moments. Yes. No more fucking around. No more excuses. I’m not buying them and NEITHER ARE YOU.

Here’s what we do.

Very quickly, a list. A list of everything that comes to mind that you currently spend your time on. Start with your business activities, and then do the same for your life.

For me, the list might look something like this –

Writing and planning and journaling and visioning and answering emails and speaking with my stuff and marketing and selling and speaking and coaching and running events and reading new advice and writing copy and creating new content and learning new skills and keeping up in my forums and so on.

What’s yours look like?

Now, time for brutal truth.

On your list. What would you keep if you knew you had that hundred million dollars in the bank, you were in a position of being able to do whatever you like for the rest of FOREVER and you had a team of servile minions who would get EVERYTHING else done for you.

Quickly, now! WHAT WOULD YOU KEEP?

THAT is the work you are really here to do.

For me – writing and speaking. From the heart. From flow. No preparation. Just letting the muse deliver.

That’s it.

What’s yours? Has it even made it onto your list of current activities? And if it has, what percentage of your time do you spend on it?

80%?

Not freaking likely, because if you did you’d be too busy printing money to read this book.

50%?

I doubt it.

The very vast majority of entrepreneurs reading this book will be lucky to spend 5-10% of their working time doing the real work they are called to do. If you’re more than that, great. But if it’s NOT at 80% then you’ve got some changes to make. And I trust you can identify what the real ‘formula’ you need here is.

Yes?

So, a commitment.

A commitment to excellence.

To consistency.

To showing up every day in both of those areas but more importantly of all to showing up relevant to the WORK YOU ARE HERE TO DO in those areas.

80% is your minimum darling.

Don’t know how to make that happen, how it can possibly be realistic, how you can keep all your other balls in the air?

Let ’em fall.

It’s the only way.

YES it will be messy and YES it will cause chaos and YES it will hurt. Nobody said that crafting your dreams is neat and tidy and will put a smile on the faces of everybody you encounter.

But if it puts a smile on yours, isn’t that what matters?

Face the mess, or you’ll instead become one.

And for God’s sakes –

Get out of your own way.

But here is where the rubber hits the road –

You can read a post like this, and be so easily and enthusiastically inspired.

Yes! You think to yourself.

I WILL do that. I’m going to DO it! I’m going to finally BE THE ME I WAS BORN TO BE!

I can’t wait!

It’ll be awesome!

It’s going to ROCK!

I’m going to CHANGE THE WORLD.

Just let me finish off this ONE tiny thing …

And, DEATH.

THAT, my delusional darling, is how you kill your dreams. Been there, got the t-shirt and I can tell you that it is NOT worth it.

Get the fuck over EVERYTHING you think you have to do if it is not in fact LIVING THE LIFE YOU WERE BORN FOR.

Do you hear me?

THIS IS LIFE AND DEATH.

Success is a BATTLE, and it’s one that few will face. ONLY the true warriors survive. So let me ask you, and what you answer you must LIVE FOR –

ARE YOU A WARRIOR OR ARE YOU A WANNABE?

There’s no in between.

There is no finishing off of things.

The battle has already begun.

And you’re being left behind already.

Every so often, someone will read one of my books and message me excitedly about how pumped up they are and how excited to take action.

I’m DOING it, Kat! This is HAPPENING!

I get excited for THEM. And then I see –

I can’t start today, I’m so tired. But I’m starting tomorrow, I promise!

The fuck. you. will.

It’s now or NEVER baby. You don’t start the race that’s already begun when you freaking FEEL like it.

You start now. You pick up your tired and weary and scared ass and you GET TO FUCKING WORK.

Or you quit wasting my time, and your breath.

So go.

Go now.

And continue going on.

The battle’s already begun, but the race?

It never ends.

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