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A few years ago I wrote and published a blog with the title ‘I’M A STRONG INDEPENDENT BADASS WOMAN, AND I STILL NEED A MAN’.

(You can read it here:

There was a teeny little bit of hoo-ha in the comments. Some women agreeing with me. Several furiously disagreeing. And one man in particular who took it upon himself, for several weeks thereafter, to angrily tell me and as much of the world as would listen why women like me who think we’re all that are the problem with life and all of humanity. lol. That made for some fun follow-on livestreams …

Let’s side-step; and come back to that post in just a mo’ –

Last night I popped a quick little post up asking “what are you doing to prepare for and be in waiting of the King?”.

I was deliberately (in my mind at least) being a little obtuse with my wording. I said ‘the’ King … I could have said ‘The’, to make it more obvious, but I wanted to see how people would respond. Would they think I am talking about God, or ‘a’ / ‘their / your’ King aka ‘the Man’?

95% of people answered assuming I was asking about waiting on a relationship; preparing for a man as in partner. Which I kind of knew they would I guess, not everybody shares my beliefs nor consciously chooses to answer to God, and I guess love and the attracting of it is quite the topic du jour … tourjours, or so it seems … in many corners of social media. But that’s not what got me! What got just a little bit under my skin, and really got me to thinking, is the comments posted with certainty around or should I say AGAINST the ‘waiting’ bit.

“A Queen doesn’t wait on a King”

“Don’t even think ‘waiting'”

“No ‘waiting’, just knowing.”

Hmm, interesting! What was it within me that just didn’t sit right with the idea that waiting is bad or wrong? I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, and I also felt a bit confused by it, because Lord knows I’m the first one out there telling woman to simply BE, to remember and own all that they always were, in all areas, and so will your dream life be able to show up for you!

Yet still –

I couldn’t find myself feeling ‘yes’ to the idea that waiting, or, implied, NEEDING, is a dirty word, a bad idea.

Another slight side-step –

Lately I’ve been really enjoying an ongoing thread in posts by Nicole GayleMark BinetGregory Noack, and, of course, always, Kissy Denise, which have been diving in to the idea that a woman needs to own her NEED for a man, in order for him to show up. Every part of my soul says yes to this! YES, I need a man and am okay with owning that! NO, I do not think that makes me weak, less than, not a fully embodied woman. Quite the opposite. Exactly as I wrote in my 2017 post which I referenced above!

In so many areas of my life I learned to become okay with, and yes even to be grateful for and EMBRACE, the ‘void’, which, looking back, I would say was INEVITABLE, before the breakthrough.

Before my business broke through to making millions each year and only soul-led, I went into the void. I sat in the void. I became one with the void. Heck, I damn near became the void, and maybe I did! I got comfortable with waiting, with holding, with practicing patience, with allowing waiting WELL to be a thing which moulded me, sculpted me, grew me into the woman I needed to be in order to then ALLOW through said millions and, more relevantly, allow through the unfolding of my souls truest work.

I am so grateful for the period in which I WAITED, and so grateful to the me who finally, after years of stubbornly trying to push and force an outcome, SURRENDERED to and found the joy, excitement, beauty, and POWER in the wait.

I look at so many of you who are trying to ‘make it’ in online business, and sister, brother, I gotta tell ya –

You’re not waiting nicely. You’re in force not surrender. Force leading to CONTRACTION, which, I’m sure I don’t have to remind you, is not an energy of receiving. And, you think that patience, waiting, need are all dirty words or, at the very best, some kind of occasional necessary evil.

I would put it to you that your greatest breakthrough, in MULTIPLE areas of your life, would be in what you would GAIN, and who you would BECOME, if you were to lean into and embrace, even long for, the wait!

This morning, thinking on these things, I sat down with my journal and dug in. Reminded myself of who I am, and asked higher self, and God, for a little further clarity on why I was feeling confused again about this waiting thing.

“Hmm … what do I think about being in waiting … I think waiting is a good thing!

Waiting is where you are carved and moulded. Waiting is NOT anti-being! Waiting CREATES deeper being-ness.

It is okay to wait.
It is okay to need.

Being in waiting does not mean your life is on pause! It is often where your life is CREATED”.

It seems to me that so many badass strong women, and I know I myself have been this woman, back when I learned to build walls around every little part of myself and prove to the world that I could do and have it all and ALL by myself, are hard-selling an idea that WE DON’T NEED ANYTHING AND WE CAN DO IT ALL OURSELVES AND WE CAN HAVE IT NOW.


this may well be true.

But I guess it depends on what outcome you’re actually going for, hmm? And also … how’s it working out for you, that whole ‘don’t need no-thang’ way of playing life?

To me it feels like something I got tired of a long time ago.

To me it feels like my soul is expanded, lit up, and I am able to be EVEN more of me, when I own my needs, when I am vulnerable in my needs.

And, it feels to me like a GOOD thing, a GROWTH thing, and yes, also a fun thing, to be in waiting.

I think about THE King (King of Kings), and I know I GET to be in waiting, I GET to prepare, and – aha moment right here, for some of you! – that in that waiting and preparation is precisely where I find my deepest ‘next level’ self.

I think about A / ‘my’ King, the man, and you know what? Yes, I wait on him. Yes, I prepare for him! Yes, I need him! No, none of that negates my strength or badassery! I believe it adds to it.

And no, none of it is me putting my life on pause so that one day I will then feel that now I am really living.

I am fully living now.

And I will be fully living then.

I can be in waiting, in preparation, in need, without it detracting from my fullness of being.

Also, I actively enjoy the wait, the preparation, the observation of that need and desire, the anticipation of all that is to come.

From the simplest things like, slowly dancing into my feminine and doing certain rituals, routines, softening, whatever it might be, sitting deeper into ME, when I have a date coming up –

To enjoying the anticipation of when we will next communicate, the ‘waiting’ around that, or around when we’ll next meet up in person –

To continuing, with every breath I take, to prepare myself always for what is coming next and yes that includes the man part as much as every other part of what I know is coming in my life –

I enjoy all of it!

When I resisted need, resisted having to ever wait, resisted the practicing of patience, made it that I always had to be self-sufficient and whole in and of myself, I resisted with it the very breath of God allowing me to BE fully alive.

I breathed only oxygen, but not true life.

When I surrendered to need, to the wait, to the void, I felt the IMMEDIATE support and force of the entire cosmos come behind me and up alongside me to carry me.

“Ah … there you are! I’ve been waiting to hold you and fly with you THIS ENTIRE TIME!”.

In the end, it’s very very simple:

Everything up until now has prepared you for this moment.
This moment right here is preparing you for everything that is still to come.

The question is –

are you allowing yourself to be prepared, or are you stomping your foot and insisting on an idea that you don’t need nothin’, because if it’s the latter, I gotta tell ya –

Don’t be surprised if you get it.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x


Fuck the system; screw the rules.
Won’t do what they told me.
Too much.

Should I go on? I could, but I think you get the picture.

You’re the one who is not only not like the other PEOPLE, you’re also not like the other entrepreneurs.

They, they actually think they’re different; non-conformists?! Don’t make me laugh. You and I both see it as it is:

They just wanna be told how to build a pretty little website and a pretty little social media page or three and a pretty little online product or course and get their pretty little headshots and do a pretty little pre-scripted dance all over the internet so that other equally pretty fucking bland and boring and same same-y peoples pay them money,

And they can all sit in a pretty little womans circle together patting each other linking elbows and stroking each others hair and singing Kumbaya as the sun sets over another day of sinking ever deeper into the unremarkableness that is their lives.

They are the ones who are not only willing to jump through hoops, they also want to build more hoops for other people; they want to perpetuate the hoop jumping life and their whole sales pitch is basically some version of “I will help you to have a better and shinier hoop, come see!”



Meanwhile, you –

You’ve tried the hoop-jumping life, maybe more than what you care to admit. And, whilst you’ve nothing against sitting around with other ladeez and stroking each others hair, you and your girls; the real ones?

You don’t exactly fit in in the typical woman’s circle.

You don’t feel at home with the pretty-preneurs, not even on the internet let alone in real life.

You don’t actually GIVE a fuck about having all your shit perfect,


And just so –

And the idea of having sales and marketing and content processes which you have to systematically pre-plan and then work through and endlessly join dots with?

Makes you want to hurl.

Sure –

You’ve bought in at times to do the idea that maybe you DO gotta do it as they say.

An automated webinar, perhaps?? Facebook ads which carefully and smartly tell the world who you are and how you can help? A sales plan proven and tested by the greats. The gradual sinking slow decline of your soul, your joy, your dreams, and even your pussy as everything within you that once knew she could HAVE IT ALL AND DO LIFE HER WAY SLOWLY DRIES,



Sure –

Why not

And look.

It’s not that any of these things are bad or wrong. Maybe right now you’ve got to a certain point by playing by the rules … kind of. Following what ‘logic’ suggests you do. Breaking free here and there with wild little jaunts into over the top madness, noticing how THAT lights you up and also how people respond to it … but ultimately continuing to go back to trying to find the right fucking system to get you to where you want to go,

Because this thing of trying to just be you interspersed with trying to get it all right and make it work, well –

It’s God damn tiring –

But also, in the end, if we’re going to be black and white about it, it hasn’t got you to where you want to be!!

You KNOW you should be making SO much more money.


With consistency, and yeah, while of course of COURSE you’re down for doing the work, you also feel like it SHOULD be a lot easier, more flow

And you know that you know that you know that you’ve still not let out the most unrestrained and fully expressed side of you!

– The you they can’t look away from
– The you they are MAGNETIZED by
– The you who automatically commands a huge freakin’ following, and sales to match it

You know who I’m talking about –


Starting January 18th!


The revolutionary fucking leader who tears SHREDS off of normal every damn day before the rest of the world has barely sipped its coffee!

Who is FULLY unleashed in what she says, how she shows up, how she does business, how she does life.

Who does not give a fuck about following rules! Or sales systems! Or strategies! Who can and will do what works for HER, and if it happens to resemble other ways people build an audience and make a fuckload of money online, cool, and if not, so what! That is not the point! The point is –

She knows what works for her.
She backs herself unapologetically.
She DOES it.

And she gets the damn results. The BIG results. The CONSISTENT results. The FUCK yes results, not just with money but with the VIBERY of it all.

Imagine …

Waking up every day and KNOWING you have crushed the day before it already begun because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ROLL!

* Your shit sells (at any and all price point)
* Your creativity and inner ideas machine flows endlessly (you always know what to put out into the world and that when you speak people PAUSE EVERYTHING AND LISTEN, whether it is with free content and shenaniganery or with your paid stuff)
* You don’t even have to think about low end or high end or how to take people through a value ladder or some such bullshit, the value ladder is YOU CONTINUING TO BE YOU, and the more that you DO you the more people just take themselves through whatever it is you’re offering!
* It is easy, natural, fun, and OBVIOUS how to build your automated income, funnels, the ‘cash machine’ side of your business.
* In fact the whole damn thing feels fun and easy and like you’re just being you (the full on you, the too much you, the rebel you, the fuck all of ’em THIS IS WHAT I STAND FOR AND NOW I’M GONNA TELL YOU you!),
* and at the same time you have the DEEPLY grounded and certain knowledge that the way you’re doing it, hot mess and chaos vibes and all, is WORKING. PS – the reason you feel certain of this is because your bank balance and soulmate audience and their feedback reflects it, not bc your spirit guides told you it’s coming

All of this is ALREADY available to you.

It is who you are and what you were born for.

You did not come here for normal!

You are one of the truly crazy ones, who has something inside of her that will leave the world BREATHLESS –
and allow her to make millions and impact millions –


For this to work,

REALLY work, like next next NEXT level $ and life flow work,
you’re going to need to FULLY turn your back on the idea that your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of you adjusting, filtering, compromising, playing the game the way the other entrepreneurs are playing it, or worrying about what the fuck your social media looks like!

What you’re going to need to do is simple:



All in on madness.
All in on crazy.
All in on chaos.
All in on the TRUE epic awesome ridiculousness and too much-ness of YOU.


Starting January 18th!

For those who were born to run the damn thing,

To turn the world on its head and dance on top of it,

And who are ready to do just that.