Success/Success Mindset


Several times in the last little bit I’ve had a guy mildly push back at my choice to not meet up with him in person, my reason in each cases being something along the lines of “I’m not feeling what I need to feel from this message conversation, in order to want to take it further. It doesn’t feel like an aligned fit for me, wishing you all the best, etc etc.”

Firstly –

A GREAT way to confirm to a woman that she made the right choice here is to reply with some sort of ‘lol / haha it’s just coffee’ type response; it reeks insecurity and also makes me feel like you don’t really value and honour your own time and worth since you’re now trying to convince me to meet you when I already said no.

Secondly –

To then follow that again with not only multiple messages of poorly formulated persuasion but also with the statement that “you can’t tell from messaging anyway, you have to meet in person” just shows that we are on WILDLY different pages as far as how life works, and in particular as far as utilising natural human gifts and skills beyond just those of the physical.

I can’t help but shake my head and think to myself “maybe YOU can’t tell from messages, I read energy in a heartbeat!”.

Of course I can tell from the damn messages, from about half a sentence of one, usually, although I admit I still gotta practice trusting my intuition IMMEDIATELY because often I let half a conversation drag out before I lay down the boundary my soul already knew to in an instant!

To be fair, it is what I do all day every day; absorbing the smallest of thoughts, downloads, hints of whispers even, and knowing INSTANTLY who a person is, the level they play at energetically and physically as well, it’s like READING AN OPEN DAMN BOOK.

And I never get it wrong.

Probably, if you follow me, you also have this skill, and, like me, have had it since before time began; certainly well before mastering it via business.

You, like me, can see in a heartbeat –

Who is for real online
Who is talking a WHOLE lot of bullshit
Who really and truly cares about their audience, and is creating and messaging from SOUL
Who believes ABSOLUTELY in what they are doing
Who has no freakin’ clue just how damn smelly and obvious their scarcity vibe or ‘please like me!’ vibe is
Who is not owning their value and worth, evident so obviously through all the unnecessary haha’s and lol’s and exclamation marks as they fangirl all over you

Etc, etc

Maybe I’m just the worlds biggest asshole, to have the audacity to not only think all this stuff (ahem, know it!) but also to lay it down here and share it with the world.

Maybe I’m limiting myself by not at least meeting up with men like this, giving them a chance, not judging a book by its cover, etc.

Maybe you can fuck right off if you think that, ’cause I gotta tell you –

I’m not here for those who need fucking PROOF before they move forward in life.

I’m not here for those who question what their gut tells them, who think that trusting in themselves is something they have to somehow earn, or work towards.

And I’m also not here for those who operate only in the physical, refusing or simply forgetting to use the gifts we were all born with, of intuition, of inner CERTAIN knowing, of energetic reception of truth, and so on.

I’m here for those who know they can ALWAYS judge a book by its cover, because they NEVER get it wrong about who someone is –

About whether it’s a fit –

Or indeed about anything they should do or not do, give their time and energy and self to, or no!

After I turned down the most recent one of above-mentioned men, I was at the fight gym doing sparring rounds, feeling a little bit bad or like a ‘meanie’ that I’d been so firm. WAS I a bitch? Was I limiting my chances of meeting my guy? Am I just unwilling to play the damn numbers game of meeting up with a bunch of maybes in case I got it wrong or in case my first instincts proved to not tell the whole story? Hmmm? Hmmm!

The last dating coach I worked with was convinced I needed to go on more dates, play the numbers game to some degree, put myself in situations where I could learn more about what I did and didn’t want, basically, and also potentially perhaps find myself surprised about who I thought someone was.

I discontinued our work together for several reasons, but this was a big one amongst ’em.

See, I’m never wrong.

I ALWAYS know who someone is.

In the situations in life in which I’ve remained in the space of somebody who ended up being … shall we say … a GROWTH OPPORTUNITY for me … of course I damn well knew this in advance. I just had some lessons to learn 🙂

And as for the whole ‘you gotta get out there and experiment’ approach, yeah –


Sounds to me like what pretty much every business mentor I had in the early years said, when deep down I KNEW that they were wrong about what would work for ME, and I also, unapologetically arrogantly, for sure, knew that I simply didn’t HAVE to muck around doing it that way like everyone else.

I knew my pathway was already clear, certain, and that as soon as I would fully BACK myself and become energetically unavailable for anything but the business I really dreamt of, then it would just show up and work.

As it did.

As EVERYTHING in my life has done, when I stop pretending that I have to do achievement like the normal people.

I do not.
I never did.
Neither do you, I believe.

But, I’m nothing if not willing to question myself on EVERYTHING, any time I feel it necessary to do so! I love a bit of devil’s advocate to remind myself of who I damn am and that I already know all things!

So, as I threw punches in the ring, I found my mind leaving my body for a little bit while I traveled off through time and space to try and find a time when I WAS wrong in following my gut.

In business.
With money.
With who I entertain a possibility of working with as a mentor.
With what I sell.
With MEN.
With friends.
With LIFE.

Try as I might, I couldn’t find a single time.


You too?

Cool …!

And here is what else:

I refuse to play life with anybody who is not similarly gifted, and owning it.

(In business and personal, I mean!)

So, while I can see that it’s not the norm for someone to be able to fully read a person through their pre-date messages …

Or their Facebook DM’s about wanting to work with you …

Or just the random shit they post which shows me EXACTLY who they are …

I don’t care.

If you’re going to be in my space personally or professionally you’re gonna need to be able to keep up, and I DO mean in all areas.

As a mentor, in order to play ONLY with the highest level clients, the leaders of the leaders, the badasses who do the damn work and get the BEST results, inside and out, on repeat, I have had to become EXTREMELY committed to following what my soul tells me, and fast.

I long ago stopped even entertaining a conversation with somebody who is overly girl crushing on me as a mentor

– ps when you do this you label yourself as someone I will NEVER feel comfortable with, I don’t like being fangirled on and it makes me retract from you and see you as somebody I could NEVER be friends with OR mentor, because you’re not owning your damn worth and also I just don’t like that needy energy –

I know INSTANTLY whether somebody reaching out to work with me is full of complete shit aka they’re one of those “I’m gonna manifest working with you!” types, UGH

Heck, even somebody requesting a sales call with me is enough for me to retreat, thinking to myself “thank you for showing me who you are … you don’t get it … we are not a fit!”

Full of myself?
Hoighty toighty, much?

Meh, so what?!

Think what you like.

It is what it is and that’s all it is.

I am who I am and I damn well AM that.

But here is my question to YOU –

Are you trusting your damn energy?

I gotta tell you, EVERY situation in my business and life in which I would look back and now think ‘wow, I REALLY took my time on that one!’ was because I wasn’t trusting my energy, my gut, my inner KNOWING.

You were given these gifts and abilities for a reason.

No it’s NOT common, to be so damn clairsentient (as I am) … or whatever you are.

To feel and know all things.

And if you are, and you know it, then you better damn OWN it.

Every time.

And also FAST, just delete that whole ‘let me think about it bit’. It never serves you and it is sure as FUCK not needed, y’know?

I get that there’s that fear part of you which still worries about ruling out options in business or life, worries you should open yourself up to more people … more opportunities … more choices of what to do or how to do it or who with.

Maybe if you don’t explore all these options you will MISS OUT on something to do with money makin’ or client gettin’ or calling in soulmate peeps?!

Except –


You will not.

You know this.

The truth is you’re not like the others, EVEN THE OTHER ENTREPRENEURS. Your power and your magic is beyond what most will ever even get a whisper of, let alone comprehend.

And sometimes you will forget that, and you’ll find yourself listening to people who think that life works like that.

But you know that actually, yeah –


It works like this.

I see the things.
I know the things.
I am never wrong about the things.
I am the damn thing.

And that’s all there is to say about that.

Now go live accordingly, and GOD SPEED; there’s no time to lose in saying yes to what you already know you must!




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