The Selfish Bitch Revolution – Join Us?

I’m starting a revolution.

And I want you to think very very carefully about whether you’re going to join me.

It’s not the kind of thing you test out, trial, ‘have a go at’. You’re either in or you’re out.

You’re either one of us, or you’re not.

Because what this is, really, goes beyond community, beyond tribe, maybe even beyond the word revolution itself.

And you don’t join in because it sounds cool, or fun, or even because of what you’ll learn or how you’ll be inspired.


It’s a call to arms, for women everywhere, all around the world, to rise up and truly make a stand for what they believe in.

And these are the terms.

You are a LEADER.

You were born to be the best.

You were born to play bigger than big, to go where few women have gone before, and certainly where nobody in the normal world would dare go. To do what most won’t, so that you can live a life they can’t.

You are a DIVA.

Your time is to be nurtured, protected, spent on the $10,000 p/hour work that most entrepreneurs hide from.

Not with your hands in a sink or your time swept up being ‘busy’ in a business that never grows, never quite goes … anywhere.


The 6-figure business that most strive for is not going to cut it for you. It’s a great start, of course. And we all have to start somewhere. With gratitude. But where you’re really headed, goes so damn far beyond 6-figures that the truth is you don’t really dare to talk about it.

But the truth is also, and unavoidably, that you can’t shut down your destiny. You KNOW you were born for more. You know your real dreams scare even you … and will have most around you either scoff, admonish or just plain old not get it.


You love your family, your partner, your kids, your friends, your life. But you are nothing for any of them, for any of it, if you don’t first do what YOU were sent here to do. You’re a selfish bitch, and proud of it.

People will deem you a workaholic, obsessed, TOO busy, stressed, wound up, can’t relax, never seems to stop, a crazy superwoman … but really all it is is that you have this fire within you. A fire that says no thanks to the ordinary life. A fire that says no thanks to putting YOUR dreams on the backburner. A fire that says that as much as at times you do beat yourself up for being the woman you can’t help being, tell yourself you ARE selfish, a bad mother, a bad partner, disorganised, irresponsible, messy, can’t focus, constantly following a new idea … you wouldn’t really change any of it.

If right now I could offer you a million dollar home, money set for life, perfectly behaved family, a place of high standing in your community and an entire wardrobe of your favourite things but in exchange you had to give up on your dreams for your business and life?

You’d run like a possessed woman even if in doing so you’d be running back to debt, to uncertainty, to anxiety, to not knowing what’s going to happen next or when it will all work out but knowing for sure that CREATING YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY is the ONLY way you can live. And that you will go through whatever hell you have to go through to make it happen.

You know you can HAVE IT ALL and BE IT ALL but that doesn’t mean you have to DO IT ALL

You are smart enough to know how to spend your time and you’re strong enough to go against what a good mother/wife/woman ‘should’ do.

You are here to carve out a destiny FOR THE HIGHEST GOOD OF YOURSELF AND OF OTHERS and sometimes? That means people will be pissed off. Offended. Or feel obligated to tell you that you’re wrong.


You’re not here to make the world want you.

And nobody’s buying vanilla.

So you’re going to be you, in full flaming glory, and the RIGHT people can like it (or LOVE it more likely) and the wrong people? Can go find their own revolution. Which is a nice way of saying it


Not because you don’t get knocked down time and again, not because you don’t at times wonder if you’ll EVER make it, but simply because it’s impossible for you to actually consider. Your mind doesn’t work that way. Give up? Sometimes you wish you could. Except you don’t really. You’d do it all again to know that you get to keep being you and the thing is, the real thing is, that deep within you, you know –

You ARE going to MAKE IT

And when you make it? Holy fuckoli will you make it. You’ll be like a rocket that came out of nowhere. Heads will spin and wonder where the frick you did come from. And yes you will celebrate and yes you will be so damn relieved to finally not have to worry about money anymore, to finally ‘prove yourself’ to the doubters, to your partner, your friends, your Mum, your dog, but most of all MOST of all –


And that is the real thing here. The battle cry you CAN’T ignore.

You know what’s possible.

Even if you can’t SEE it you can FEEL it.

And once you know?

You can’t un-know.

You can play hide and seek with your destiny for a while. Pretend that ordinary suits you. Pretend even that above average suits you. But really? There’s nothing that will ever meet your needs except giving it your all. And the longer you don’t just ACCEPT that? The more painful everything else in your life becomes. Which means that no matter how damn tough it gets – and GOD does it get tough –


You will grit your teeth.

You will keep pushing.

You will hire support. A cleaner, a housekeeper, childcare support. Whatever you need.

You will state your boundaries to your partner, your peers, yourself.

You will stick to them.

You will create when others are sleeping, when others are whiling their life away at the 9-5. You will launch when not ready, forego the perfect website/logo/image/whatever to get your message out there. You will act on new ideas where others let them gather dust.

You will see the earliest hours, and the latest hours, you will tear your hair out and cry and scream and laugh and share and keep. on. going. no matter what, because what this is really about is that –


You know that the only way POSSIBLE to fail? Is giving up. And giving up? Is not an option.

Success will be yours.

On your terms.

Wealth will be yours.

On your terms.

Joy will be yours.

On your terms.

Being known will be yours.

On your terms.

And come at you as the world may, try to tear you down, tell you it’s not possible, send you message after message that you should just go ahead and quit and get a job selling pretty stationary?

You can’t.

And you won’t.

You are a WARRIOR.



And you can NOT back down.


It’s a revolution fueled by what many would see as arrogance.

And it will require a lot of you.

It will suck the very life out of you at times.

But what it gives back?

Can only be felt first-hand.

I’m starting a revolution.

And there’s a good chance you need to be part of it.

But you have to decide now.

Either you’re in, or you’re out.

Either you’re one of us, or you’re not.

It’s your life. You get to choose. And you SHOULD, you should choose. So make a choice. Dream ALL THE WAY BIG, or get out while you can.


2 responses to “The Selfish Bitch Revolution – Join Us?”

  1. Leah says:

    100% agree! It’s utterly refreshing to hear TRUTH! Is it my imagination that I’m sitting up straighter and taller? Thank you Kat for this post I am sure you wrote just for me 😉 I will risk sounding like a “groupie” but I am with you! Totally there – IT’S TIME! Thank you again for sharing the real truth about entrepreneurship, it can be a lonely place at times until we find each other and finally feel that someone “gets” us – finally x

    • Kat says:

      Group up all you want – this is about all of us not just me! Awesome to have you on board Leah x