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Success/Success Mindset

TIME TO KICK FEAR TO THE CURB, ONCE AND FOR ALL. IT’S ONLY YOUR LIFE!!!

Everytime I find myself resisting really locking down a higher level goal, or avoiding repeatedly claiming it in my journaling, I remind myself:

Being switched on, in the flow, on FIRE and result-fucking-based where you truly DO get to have it all, is nothing more than a tiny –

Little –

Choice.

Think about it:

EVERYTHING you actually decided to make happen in your life, has. If it didn’t, you simply didn’t decide and/or there was a bigger reason for you NOT to let it happen, something which consciously or sub-consciously caused you enough fear or uncertainty to not allow the GOOD thing to take place.

Side note: I’d look at that shit, if I were you – dig INTO that stuff and figure it the fuck out, aka DECIDE to get over it!!

The insanely exciting thing here, if you’ve not actually stopped and thought about it, is that YOU CAN CHOOSE YOU OWN REALITY.

I know we SAY that all the time here! We hell yes to that stuff in our sleep!

But seriously now: have you actually truly locked in the ALL THE WAY picture of what you want? I know for me at least that is something I need to do repeatedly! DAILY, and in fact most days more than once. Journaling, mindset work, writing my reality – that’s not just something I post artsy pictures on Instagram of ’cause I use Mont Blanc pens and pretty writing books!

That is how I create my LIFE baby. It’s the most important part of my EVERY day action. And it’s how I CONTINUE to lock in what I’m creating, because until I see | feel | live | breathe | AM it? I’m just gonna KEEP on writing it, and to be perfectly honest even once I AM it I’ll keep on writing it, and just let it continue to evolve.

So don’t imagine for a second that goal or intention setting or writing out what you want to allow in, is a ONE TIME or SOMETIME thing. If you want to bring it to life in a physical sense you need to feel it in your SOUL, it needs to consume your mind in the sense that it’s completely implanted there.

All journaling is, is thought and belief conditioning. And even every personal development HALFWAY junkie knows:

Your beliefs form your thoughts.
Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your actions form your habits.
Your habits become your values.
Your values dictate your DESTINY.

That’s personal development 101, but are you LIVING by it?

I can tell you that whenever I hang around my successful friends (sorry, my friends!!), whenever I go to dinner or drinks with clients, whenever I am in a success environment – such as the very high-level hotel breakfast patio I’m sitting at right now – and just listen in on conversations around me I hear the OUTCOME OF PEOPLE WHO DECIDED WHAT TO BELIEVE.

And the PHYSICAL manifestation of that is that these are people who are rich. Healthy. Energised. Switched on. In flow. Focused. And ruling the fucking world.

THAT IS NOT AN ACCIDENT.

Yet I think that still SO MUCH we allow ourselves with our big dreams to be distracted by anxiety about HOW, or fear that deep down we CAN’T, or worst of all the question of whether we’re GOOD enough in the first place.

It is CRITICAL to not allow yourself to continue to engage in this way of thinking. It is DEADLY to imagine even for a moment that your thoughts are of little consequence. What you THINK will form your entire.fucking.future.

It spews OUT of you, and you can’t control that.

EVERYBODY who knows you can see who you are.

And if YOU stop and think about it you’ll see the future you’re creating, and I HOPE that it stops you in your tracks and wakes you up enough to want to form a new one, a bigger one, a bolder one, a more EMPOWERED one, now, by just choosing to BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN.

DECIDE that you will.

And then follow the fuck through as though you KNEW it’s a done deal.

I can tell you that I’m the same as anybody else in that fear and anxiety can get to me, I battle resistance at upleveling – man, you should have seen me freaking out at the start of my photoshoot the other day, feeling like I look TOO MUCH, too HOLLYWOOD, and I can’t DO this … even though it’s exactly what I came for! My mind wanted to RUN AND HIDE. Go back to what felt normal, comfortable, allowed!

But I rolled up my sleeves.
And I worked my thang.

Because here is where I do know I’m different from those who talk about growth, and big-time success, yet don’t manage to create it. Here is where I see my friends and clients act differently, also:

Even when I’m in fear or uncertainty or overwhelm or HIDE, I fully know and believe that if I just choose to decide ANYWAY, I can and will create it.

So I can take even the most INSANELY HUGE goal, that freaks me out like a MOTHERFUCKER, where I feel like that’s SUCH a big freaking stretch and I just have NO IDEA HOW, and then I can remind myself:

“But Kat –

EVERYTHING you ever ACTUALLY decided you’d make happen, has.

So just find a way to actually DECIDE, and put aside whether it’s POSSIBLE, because you know that no matter how full on / crazy / uber-awesome it might be –

If you decide, it will happen.

It always has.

And always will.”

(Yes. I do actually talk to myself like that – often! That is LIFE creation right there!)

So the only HARD thing, really, I’ve found, is actually NOT doing whatever you ultimately find yourself DOING to get results. The actual physical work or hustle is just work or hustle. You gotta get through the day somehow anyway, and either way you ARE going to work at something! You might as well stop working at shit you don’t love, and weren’t born for, which on the surface maybe appears LESS SCARY and therefore easier but which actually DRAINS YOUR SOUL, and instead?

Just work at the shit that’s gonna get you to where you CHOOSE to be.

The ACTUAL hard thing is not the actual work required to be famous, sexy, hot, RICH. The ACTUAL hard thing is summoning up the courage to fucking leap.

Jump off the ledge.
Say yes to the thing.
COMMIT that you are going to do it.
And then take the first step.

If only there were a way you could learn how to just get OVER yourself enough to take that first step …!

Your whole LIFE would become automated creation of whatever you choose!!

Do you see how ridiculous it is, that you – we – allow ourselves to simply not CHOOSE? Think about it … ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS MAKE A NEW CHOICE.

EVERY day, those who are boldly living THEIR dreams and maybe triggering you because you have SIMILAR dreams, are simply stepping off that ledge.

JUST AS SCARED AS YOU.

But yet we do it anyway.

And I do want to stress that that IS an everyday choice, but here’s the thing:

Success is a fucking habit.

I look resistance and fear and self-doubt in the eye every day the same as ANYONE. I just long ago programmed myself to take the fucking leap anyway. I just long ago CHOSE, not to let my bullshit be bigger than my dreams. I just long ago DECIDED that I’m the kind of person who takes action and sets GOALS based on the result I want – really want! –

Rather than whether or not I feel like it.

Here’s the thing gorgeous:

Your life will be dictated by one of two realities:

You either create the life you felt like creating, based on HUMAN FUCKING RESISTANCE, DOUBT and FEAR –

Or you create the one you were born to create and ALWAYS HAD THE CHOICE TO TAKE.

Either way –

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