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Success Mindset

IT’S BECAUSE YOU’RE SCARED IT’LL NEVER HAPPEN FOR YOU

I used to be scared I’d never escape my money drama, that I’d see out my days still in debt, always two steps forward and two point five back, continually trying to put on a brave face and a show and yet behind the scenes FALLING –

The fuck –

Apart.

For as long as I lived in fear, in terror, in drama, in holding on OH! so tightly to that need that please that DESPERATION to one day be able to BREATHE I remained –

Stuck in fear.

Stuck in lack.

SWIMMING in scarcity and the knowledge I felt to be true at the time that no matter HOW damn hard I tried I would never –

Ever –

Escape.

Wanna know something weird? I damn well PROVED my deepest fears and scary awful beliefs, over and over and over AGAIN.

Not so weird after all I guess …

With my body, many years ago, when I first became truly fitness obsessed, and I was competing quite a lot, and surrounded by fitness models and bodybuilders with a good dozen eating disorders between every half dozen of ’em, I became, shall we say, SCARED of not being super lean and hot.

I’d never felt good enough my whole life anyway, and finally, FINALLY, I’d found a way to be able to feel hot and cool and I’d be damned if I was going to let it slip!

So I lived in fear.

I struggled.

I went to CRAZY lengths to get and maintain the body I thought I had to have … dodgy injections in my friends living room with closed curtains included. Hey, he was a cop; he knew what he was doing! lol.

And I developed, through that period, sometime before or after, I’m not sure, bulimia as well as the *need* to have to do up to 6 hours a day of training in order to feel SAFE, and OKAY, and WORTHY.

Fucked up?

OBVIOUSLY, and I was vaguely and sometimes consciously aware of that, but it was JUST HOW IT HAD TO BE, right? I didn’t know how to even POSSIBLY get the body I want without serious restriction and sabotaging behaviours, and all day every day all I worried about was whether I was GOOD enough aka whether I LOOKED as I should.

The crazy thing was … no matter how hard I trained or dieted or whatever … I never got the body I wanted.

Sure, I was lean enough, I looked the part, I even won Miss Sportsmodel Melbourne and came 6th in a national Musclemania bikini comp (6th! wtf! still ;)) … but I wasn’t HAPPY.

I didn’t FEEL good.

I didn’t feel good about how I looked, either.

And really, the end goal was always to FEEL hot / happy etc, not to be told I LOOK the part, even though that was nice.

And I used to wonder –

“When will I ever get there? When will it ever WORK? When can I ever BREATHE?”

But I continued to perpetuate my own limiting beliefs that it HAD to be hard, it HAD to be this way, there WAS no choice, and this is just how it IS, and weirdly –

Or not?

– that continued to be my EXPERIENCE.

Struggle.

And pain.

And SHAME, the SHAME. Perhaps you know it?

And ‘looking the part’ from the outside looking in.

And falling –

The fuck –

All OVER the place from the inside looking out, wondering –

“Will I ever be free? Will I ever get there? Do I ever get to be the me I LONG to be and actually BREATHE?”

Have you ever felt that way?

So.Desperate.

So.Wanting.

So.Hoping.

So.TRYING?

And that’s the awful and sad part, isn’t it?

You really ARE trying.

You really DO want to do what it takes.

You FEEL as though you’re giving it your all!

And it’s not FAIR and it’s so HARD and why won’t it WORK you’re doing EVERYTHING EVERYTHING EVERYTHING God damn it!

And at times you want to hiss and growl and stomp your feet and lodge a complaint to God himself because you feel like you ARE going all in!

But the thing is …

And once you see this and feel this it’s SO obvious …

You’re so stuck in lack, swimming in it, that it’s all you can feel. So even though you push and you try to force all you ACTUALLY do is reinforce fear.

Reinforce scarcity.

Repeat like a fucking mantra in your head that you can’t –

That it’s not easy for you –

That it has to BE like this for you.

And with every LONGING thought for a different outcome you lock in the fact that you therefore don’t have that outcome YET … which is to say you TRAIN your mind to believe that ‘it’ is some mystical and magical and one day (aka never!) thing in the future.

So here is what you need to do instead.

And in the interests of (ALWAYS!) full transparency, the reason it occurred to me to write about this is because I was finishing my journaling off today, and I wrote –

“I’m in an incredible relationship with the man of my dreams!”

– which is a very short version of a lot of similar stuff to that effect I’ve been journaling on lately

And it OCCURRED to me:

Hmmm. INT-eresting. Suddenly something had switched inside of me, where, as I wrote this affirmation out, I FELT the feeling of it being real. Rather than (and I’ve sometimes noticed this sometimes not, pushed it away or pretended) feeling FEAR.

Scarcity.

Lack.

And anxiety, about ‘but what if what if WHAT if?!’

What if I never –

What if it never –

Or WHEN fucking WHEN?

I see you. Trying to force. With money. With getting soulmate clients. With being able to press play on your PURPOSE work. With so MUCH of it.

I see you wanting it so.damn.badly. TRYING to do the work. Getting frustrated because you feel you ARE.

REINFORCING LACK.

And wondering – bizarrely, if you just think about the logic here! – WHY IT’S NOT WORKING.

And I want you to know:

It’s because you’re holding on like that.

It’s because you’re all day every day playing out the feelings associated with NOT having it.

It’s because you’re scared it will never HAPPEN for you.

And I know –

How hard it is.

To let go –

When you feel this way.

But I also know? That if you really want it? You have no fucking choice.

The only way to RECEIVE is to feel the feelings associated with that, now. You CREATE your environment around you by creating the one INSIDE of you, which is needed to ALLOW that external ‘real’ world to form.

So here is what you do.

1) You make a conscious choice to let go. Part of this is you got to CHOOSE to be okay with things being as they are now. It is what it is. Surrender to the FACTS. No need to get emotional about it. Stop making it out to mean something!

2) You decide – without getting too emotional about it – that you will receive the outcome you want. You choose it like putting in an order though. Not in a fear-based please and how and help and PLEASE sort of way.

3) You RELEASE THE FUCKING HOW AND WHEN OF THAT. It will come when it comes and how it pleases. Not up to you to try and play God.

4) You get on with the business of whatever the fuck needs doing right here in this moment. What is the aligned action to take NOW? Relevant to the goal? NO. Relevant to WHAT IS THE ALIGNED / CORRECT THING YOU NEED TO BE DOING RIGHT NOW? Not relevent to ANYTHING except the MOMENT! The goal can take care of itself … your actions are not done to create an outcome, they’re done based on tuning in to alignment. The outcome is received, or not, based on whether you believe and FEEL it. Which means:

5) You practice believing and feeling it. You create affirmation statements based on what you WANT to believe and feel. You write them out over and over again, daily. You use them in conversation or in other ways throughout the day. And also, and hardly anybody knows or does this –

6) You practice living how you would if you DID already have the outcome / feel it. If you believed you were good enough … if you knew you were worthy … if you were CURRENTLY experiencing the emotions you think you need that OUTCOME to experience … what would be going on right now? How would you be showing up right now? What is the aligned action you would TAKE now?

And that’s it.

But it is a daily practice. Living the LIFE you want, is a daily practice. Of tuning in. Of acting FROM where you wish to be. Of surrendering to the NOW. Of ALREADY BEING that next level version of you who you’re longing to be.

The truth is that none of these things … money, the body, the man, whatever … give us the actual outcome.

The actual outcome is the feeling we want with it.

And we can choose that now.

We can RIGHT NOW in this very MOMENT embody EVERYTHING we long for, and not only is THAT a pretty damn fine outcome in and of itself it’s also the exact one –

Which’ll guarantee you get the thing.

So. Stop looking outside of you to GET to have what is already IN you if only you’d tune in and feel it.

I used to think I could never have the business, the body, the anything, I wanted. I adjusted and I sacrificed and I tried to PAY THE PRICE to be able to get it. And the whole time, all I had to do, was simply ask –

And then follow what I felt inside of me, and fuck ALL the rules and the how.

It’s only the answer to everything

Remember –

Life is Now. Press Play! 

Kat x

PS.

I’m excited to announce my Flow-Led Millionaire Private Client Mastermind Days are back, happening this August (PM me for full deets!) 

Warning! This Mastermind will require you to get TF over your hang-ups around:

* Automated income

* Being seen more, and more boldly

* Adding layers upon layers upon layers of more SELLING

* Ruthless repurposing and re-selling

* Structure, systems, process

* Building a cash machine which pays you on repeat regardless of whether YOU are grinding your fingers to the bone to get it working!

Requirements:

You have an existing business which makes money, delivers a fabulous product or service (or multiple of!) which helps people, you know who you are and who you’re here to serve (while always welcoming deeper clarity!), and you have a proven track record for getting results to those people … even if it’s on a scale, so far, which, frankly, you consider outrageous. Since you know you’re here to do insanely big work in the world!

Oh, speaking of which – you know you’re here to do insanely big work in the world! And you’re ready to put the wheels on that NOW, and see your revenue – your growth of soulmate audience – your soul-led result-gettin’ systems – and all in all your own badassery – explode, stat!

You’re not afraid of doing the damn work (duh),

but you also know that there’s a simpler way, a more flow way, a more YOU way.

And you’re ready to get down to the nitty gritty of that now, and then roll it out like the take no prisoners mofo you are.

All with me – secret counsel to the worlds most elite game-changers, leaders, and revolutionaries – supporting you to know exactly what to do,

and exactly how to do it,

so you make MORE money,

reach MORE (of the right people),

the YOU way,

having more fun and flow than you ever dreamed possible,

and finally knowing you’re all in on you,

Now!

What you get out of this time together is simple:

* Identified opportunities for money-makin’ – minimum 3, up to 10+ (this is normal in these conversations with me)

* Specific to you simple soulmate audience growth strategy, which you can roll out right away, and will often involve only ‘tweaks’ rather than having to DO anything dramatically extra

* Confidence and inner tools as well as practical steps for improving / adding to / setting up (depending where you’re at) your automated income / funnels 

* Personalised (to your personality / style / lifestyle / skillset) action plan for implementing

* Tweaks you can add in right away to increase sales on existing processes

* Daily / weekly ‘hustle flow plan’ individualised to you

All in all here’s what it comes down to:

>>> You will walk out with a complete action plan tailored to your business, very detailed and also very SIMPLE, with also a complete understanding of what you need to do and HOW to do it, to take you to the next major income level, and beyond.

This will include your next three offers (MINIMUM), up-sells, or funnel ad-ins, FULLY CREATED IN THE TIME TOGETHER!

Plus:

1:1 follow on support to help you implement and follow through.

I love doing this INTENSIVE deep dive work where we pull everything apart all at once, and then nail down the EXACT action steps for each person to take to get more paying customers and clients, who are soul-aligned, coming in NOW, who are also buying more things, because you’ve got all your damn shit in place!

This immersive day together is limited to 5-7 people per event. 

If this is speaking to you PM me here to apply / for more info!