Success/Success Mindset


Are you scared that you don’t know fuck yes?

That you can’t trust in inner guidance and say yes to the life you’re meant for and to being soul and faith led, because you can’t be sure you’re correctly RECOGNISING soul in the first place?

Let’s talk about this.

It’s critical, because if you wanna break it down in simple terms, and just get straight to the core of what works, the truth of the matter is that all of life depends upon being connected to God and soul, connected to your TRUEST self in such a way that you absolutely know what to do –

How to do it –

And have ZERO pause in going right ahead and freaking doing it!

A rule of MANIFESTATION, of receiving, which I have seen played out over and over again, which I talk about all the time and have also had tattooed onto my right hand side ribcage in my own handwriting just in case I forget (or, just ’cause I believe in it that much!!) is that when you say yes to soul, life says yes to you. Meaning? Listen to what your core inner guidance is saying, and then do it! Use THAT as your blueprint for life and all things in it, no questions and also no hesitation. From my experience, if it’s true that when you say yes to soul life says yes to you, it’s truer still that when you say yes to that soul guidance right the fuck away, rather than dilly-dallying all over the place ’cause you’re scared or in a pattern of uncertainty, life says YES right away, and typically bigger, too.

This is all very Biblical. He who has faith and follows Jesus whole-heartedly receives greater blessings in the Kingdom of Heaven, whereas he who holds out, waits til the last minute, dilly-dallies and is not willing to TRUST, can absolutely still ‘get in’, but it will be by the skin of his teeth and his reward will be in direct correlation to the level of his faith.

I believe fully in this, by the way, and on a not-so-side-note wanna remind you also that living a faith led life is, in and of itself, a pretty damn big reward! So, don’t think of it as though you gotta do something sucky in order to one day get a gold star. Having God on your side is the ultimate way to be on path with flow and ease and soul certainty, and to have your back HAD life get grisly.

Anyway –

In LIFE, your rewards, meaning the life you get to live, the business and money success you get to enjoy, the level of soulmate relationship you find yourself in (ARE there LEVELS of soulmate? Hmmm? Hmmm!), heck, even how in love and flow and joy and ease with your body, all these things and EVERY little bit big or small of how you are getting to ‘play life’, how connected to purpose and FUCK yes it is, all of it, but ALL of it –

Is directly correlated to the level of your faith, and your chosen ability to be LED by that faith in your actions, in what you say yes to, and in what you run the fuck away from, but FAST, knowing and recognising the seductive voice of the devil when you see it and saying NO THANK YOU to anything which sways you from path!

All of this is truer than true, there’s no disputing it and you know it deep within your core. You KNOW and have ALWAYS known that life can only work when you are guided by that still and small voice within.

The question is –

What is THAT voice being guided and led by?

And, can you even recognise or let yourself hear it when it speaks?

Connecting to soul, to that inner certainty, to God in and through you, and to your highest available self, THESE things are the most important discipline to practice in life.

You may be the most discipline badass of all in the gym –

In your content and communication and conversation in your biz –

In your sales hustle –

In how you keep house –

In how you keep body –

In how you keep life – !

But if it’s not built on a foundation of CERTAIN responsiveness to soul, then what the fuck are you even doing?

What are you BUILDING?

I’ve talked often about the fact that, at 26 years old, I’d created a dream life. I was married to a handsome and successful man, I had an incredible apartment in the best suburb in town, we had a BMW, a 25k surround sound system, we traveled all the time, wined and dined, and had plenty of high level friends, we were both ‘crushing it’ in our careers, it was the dream!

Only problem was, it was SOMEBODY ELSE’S DREAM.

Or at least not mine.

SOUL was not present.
GOD was not present.
HOPE was not present.
And eventually, neither was true love.

Not for each other.
And from my perspective at least, not for any of the trappings of the life.

When that marriage ended, only 18 months after it began, my then-husband turned to me bitterly at one point and said “how did I not see this coming? All I had to do was look at the bookshelf”.

Well, the bookshelf was the library of my SOUL, it was my University of Life, it was a direct reflection of my NOT-connectedness up til then and the fact that I had actively committed myself to a journey of finding what was right, and true, and creating my life accordingly.

Every title on there screamed ‘not happy yet but absolutely convinced I will be and am finding my way’. Or something to that effect.

I had slowly but surely withdrawn myself from our life of constant eating and drinking and merry-making and ‘pushing down’ the uncertainty and anxiety, and I was finding my way OUT. And, how it felt to me at least, in the months leading up to our split, is that he had committed to the opposite. So, I blew things up, and the truth is I did it in a terribly messy way, and hurtful for everyone.

But I look back now and I am compassionate for that younger me, who made choices that seemed so SABOTAGE-led, but which ultimately led her to have to turn where we all turn when we are broken, and on the floor, and have finally admitted that doing it all by force or fear is not working!

To soul.
To trust.

One of the scariest things in life, particularly when it’s in an area where you feel you’ve fucked it up before, or you’ve been hurt, or you’ve had reason to have to protect yourself or to NOT trust, is to start saying yes to soul.

You KNOW that it’s the only answer and the only way, there’s no question!

But it’s just that – you can’t be fucking sure what the soul way IS!

So, you analyse, and you weigh up pros and cons, and you think think THINK, but the whole time, fear is ruling.

Will I tell you what the answer is?


It’s not about the specifics of THAT.

Instead, come back to the reminder that even when you feel as though you don’t know, you DO always have access to soul, to faith, to God, and maybe for right now the practice is simply to practice removing emotion, NOT having to make a decision or move forward, and feeling in to only the CONNECTION.

But let’s say it’s time to act.

Well, the truth is soul certainty is always present and available.

The fuck yes decision will expand and lighten you.

The fear led one will contract and worry you.

That’s as simple as we can make it, even though sure – saying yes to soul can have anxiety and nervousness attached to it. But BENEATH that – there is expansion. An EXHALE of sorts. And you KNOW that yes – I just leapt fucking blind and trusted and it is GOOD.

The thing is, you do have to be okay with flying your way blind.

With FEELING as you go.

And with knowing that even if you ‘fuck it up’, there is always the opportunity to start anew, begin again, and that also – everything is always ultimately for our growth.

But right now, for today –

What if you just DECIDED:

I am no longer available to create my life from the voice of fear.

I know my own soul certainty.

And even when or especially when it feels scary –

I leap the fuck towards it.

Because really, there’s no two ways about it, is there?

You’re either letting faith lead, little by little, semi-blind step by step –

Or fear has got you by the balls and is slowly crushing the life outta you.

There ain’t no in between. Act accordingly.



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