NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH IS NO LONGER AN EXCUSE
This morning as I did my fame and wealth goal-writing I felt that pull of anxiety, that tug of worrying and wondering if I’m ALLOWED to just keep claiming more, becoming more, creating and having more.
After all, things are going so well! I’m blowing up online! Things just keep getting better and better! My income is growing … my fame is exploding … I’m LOVING my community so much and getting loved right back … I’m in ridiculously awesome shape … my marriage is getting better day by day … I just bought a brand new $130,000 car in 45-minutes flat … we’re getting our dream house … my energy is insane …!
IT’S ALL TOO MUCH, RIGHT?! Who the hell do I think I am to live such an epic life? Must be time to CRASH IT BACK DOWN AGAIN??!
Well, guess what?
Maybe it’s true, maybe you AREN’T good enough and you still need to prove yourself in order to be allowed to BREATHE let alone make money and rule the world. I mean personally I think it might – MIGHT – be time to just get on over that particular hang up and CLAIM YOUR RIGHT TO BE HERE, but here is what else:
Not being good enough is not an excuse for not being rich.
Not being good enough is not an excuse for not being successful.
Not being good enough is not an excuse for not letting things just KEEP ON GETTING BETTER.
Not being good enough is not a reason to not have it fucking ALL, on your terms, and now.
Sorry to burst your bubble … to cut off that thread you’ve been hanging to so tightly telling yourself woefully and with GREAT sorrow and slow-motion shaking of the head that the reason you’re not THERE yet is because – sob! – you just can’t seem to BELIEVE in yourself enough …
You just don’t know if you deserve it!
You’re just not sure you’re GOOD enough and why should YOU get to have things go so well!
So clearly, you know, you’ve got WORK to do to lift your self ESTEEM to believe in yourself to get into confidence and certainty and power so you can finally CREATE WHAT YOU DREAM OF.
Well, sure.
Keep telling yourself that bedtime story if it allows you to rest easier with the TRUTH, and the truth is this:
Not being GOOD enough is a bullshit excuse you’re trying to cover up the REALITY with.
THAT is the truth, and the reality is THIS:
If you don’t have what you want, it’s because you haven’t reached out your fucking hand and taken it.
What, you honestly believe that every shit hot rich badass with a hotass mofo out there (hashtag THAT!!) is better than you as a person? More worthy? Grew up with higher levels of self-doubt or has just ‘done more work on themselves’?
Maybe.
MAYBE baby.
And I say that in the way I’d say ‘yes honey, maybe Santa IS real’ if a freaking ADULT asked me, by which I mean STOP TELLING YOURSELF NAIVE FANTASIES AND BULLSHIT EXCUSES FOR WHY YOU DON’T HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT AND ACT LIKE A FREAKIN’ GROWN UP ABOUT IT.
So yeah … MAYBE Kim Kardashian, Britney, Paris, Justin B and whoever else are all just BETTER AND WORTHIER PEOPLE than you who’ve done more personal development work.
But MAYBE it’s also just that the people who have the money you want, the fame you want, the success, the LIFE you want, asked for more.
Decided on more.
Insisted on more.
And then reached out and took more.
EVERYTHING you put up on a high pedestal and tell yourself you’ll one day be worthy of kissing the feet of is RIGHT THERE FOR THE TAKING.
I can tell you I deviate WILDLY between feeling empowered, in the flow, in the zone, like the biggest hottest BAMF out there and also questioning EVERYTHING, knowing NOTHING, wondering what the fuck I’m doing and most of all wondering WHY THE HELL SHOULD I GET TO HAVE IT SO GOOD?!
And yet, despite my EMOTIONAL UPS AND DOWNS ABOUT it, I choose the life I have because I know that whether or not I’m GOOD enough is an entirely separate fucking question to whether or not I get to be rich, hot, successful, famous and have it all.
I am rich because I decided to be.
My income goes up each month because I got sick of it not doing so and finally decided it would.
I have a hot body because I made it a non-negotiable.
I am improving my marriage because I got sick of my own bullshit about whether or not I’m good enough to be loved and just DECIDED TO LOVE AND BE LOVED.
I drive hot luxury cars because I made up my mind to.
I travel first class because I made the choice to do so.
I always have money left over, always pay my bills before they’re due, grow my savings weekly and easily afford all of my business, living, giving, fun and adventure spendings and desires BECAUSE I CHOOSE TO.
These are just SOME of the things I choose in my life. WHY do I choose them? Is it because I evolved to being allowed to? Fuck no! It’s because I DECIDED TO LET MYSELF TAKE RECEIVE AND CREATE WHAT IS POSSIBLE.
And ANYTHING is possible. Anything you DECIDE to create.
Those are just some of the MONEY related things I choose. I also choose to:
Wake up each day feeling amazing, energised and motivated and excited to get into my day, no matter how much sleep I did or (more common!) did not have. Because I’m GOOD enough to feel amazing? No! I don’t WANT to be tired and flat so I choose not to be.
I choose to be in LOVE WITH MY COMMUNITY, MY BUSINESS, MY TEAM, every thing I have to ‘do’ each day. Because I’m ‘good enough’ to have an awesome tribe and team? No! Because I got sick of having business feel like hard work so I decided I was going to make money doing what I love and love every PART of it as well!
I choose to be proud of myself as a Mum, of how I take care of myself, of how I live my life as a whole and to go to bed each night feeling freaking AWESOME about the day I just lived, certain that I IMPROVED every aspect of my business and life. I choose to feel that way regardless of what I did or did not do and regardless of what outcomes eventuated. And so I DO feel that way each day! Not because I’m good enough and not even because I ‘proved myself’, but JUST BECAUSE I CHOOSE to.
Because I got over being good enough or not, I set daily goals (and achieve all of them!) like:
I am super rich.
I am super fucking hot with a tiny waist.
I love and honour my husband.
I am proud of how I am as a Mum.
My community love me.
I love my clients.
My clients are hotass, badass, mofo’s who are super rich and successful.
I have over a million dollars in savings.
I always pay my bills before they’re due.
I take great care of my team.
I am hollywood famous.
I have millions of followers on my page and profile, and get tens of thousands of shares, likes, comments on my videos.
I wake up each day feeling amazing.
My brand is HOT and beautiful.
I am featured on the top entrepreneurial and success platforms, publications, podcasts.
I always make great decisions.
I always know what to sell.
Everything works out for my greater good.
I always travel first class.
I always exceed my money goals each week.
I am proud of myself.
I love my work.
I have easily enough time for everything that matters.
When things go well, they keep getting better.
I have so much FUN in my life!
I have incredible entrepreneur and success-minded friends!
I am impacting and transforming the lives of millions with my message!
I get everything done that matters today.
I have an awesome day today!
And on, and on.
Look, I’ll be honest – I was short on time this morning so decided to turn my own daily writing of my reality into a blog post for you. I refuse to NOT write my reality each morning because WHEN I WRITE AND AFFIRM IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN IT IMPLANTS INTO MY SOUL MY MIND MY DNA AND THEN I BELIEVE IT AND THEN I BECOME IT.
So I knew it was either write my journaling, or write today’s blog, and no fucking way am I not doing my mindset work but also no fucking way do I want to miss a day’s asskickery, so it had to be both.
But here is what else:
I’m sick of the bullshit.
I was sitting here starting to write all this stuff out in my journal and I realised I felt that pull of anxiety, that tug of worrying and wondering if I’m ALLOWED to just keep claiming more, becoming more, creating and having more. Things are going so well! I’m blowing up online! Things just keep getting better and better! My income is growing … my fame is exploding … I’m LOVING my community so much and getting loved right back … I’m in ridiculously awesome shape … my marriage is getting better day by day … I just bought a brand new $130,000 car in 45-minutes flat … we’re getting our dream house … my energy is insane …!
The old me would think:
AUGHHHHHHH! That’s too much awesome for one person! Crash it down! Burn it to the ground! SABOTAGE THAT SHIT FAST before, before, before – WHAT?
Before someone tells you that you can’t have it?
That you’re not WORTHY of it?
That’s not how life WORKS?
Well SURE. If that’s what you want, then LISTEN to the person telling you that what goes up must come down, that you can’t just SKIP FUCKING LEVELS IN YOUR SUCCESS PATH, that it needs to be STRUGGLE, that you need to SUFFER, that you need to keep breaking WAY down before every breakdown, that YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
But if you’re going to listen to that shit and then live by it? Just know this:
The person telling you the lies is you.
Enough is enough baby:
If you think you’re not good enough and you wanna keep thinking that, that’s your choice.
But in no way shape or form does it have ANYTHING to do with how rich you are, how successful you are, the impact you make and the fine ass you walk around in whilst doing so.
Being good enough is no longer an excuses.
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